Why do women masturbate?i
Some women begin to masturbate since childhood, when they discover that touching and stimulation of certain intimate areas brings unconscious pleasure that they want to repeat again and again.
Those ladies who remain dissatisfied after sexual contact with their partners also resort to masturbation.
Women are attracted to masturbation by modern prohibition. Currently, any information on the problems of female sexology flows like a river from all media.
Therefore, women are not averse to being a little naughty, especially if the public does not discuss them for it. Moreover, not receiving enough pleasure from sex, ladies are quite capable of using self-satisfaction techniques.
Often women do not hesitate to stimulate their erogenous zones even during intercourse. Partners, as a rule, are not outraged by this; on the contrary, they either get even more excited or rush to satisfy their ladies with similar stimulation.
Women masturbate using different methods: if 80% like to stimulate the labia minora and clitoris, the rest like to insert various objects into the vagina that resemble the male reproductive organ.
How do women caress themselves?2
Most often, women give themselves pleasure by stimulating their erogenous zones by stroking, rubbing and pressing with their fingers, much less often by vibration stimulation.
You can influence the clitoris by stroking or rubbing its body, stretching the labia to the sides and pressing on the pubis. Stimulation of the clitoral head is used less frequently, as it causes pain. When a point of the clitoris is massaged for a long time, its sensitivity weakens and it begins to go numb.
Forms of masturbation:
- insertion into the vagina of objects resembling the male genital organ - 10%;
- use of hydromassage - 4%;
- hip squeezing - 4%;
- friction of the intimate part against some object - 6%;
- use of a vibrator - 26%;
- manual caresses of the vaginal and clitoral areas - 48%;
- other methods - 2%.
According to a survey conducted by the Masters and Johnson Institute program, 265 women aged 18 to 35 responded to questions about masturbation. It was found that only a small part of them, during masturbation, place an object resembling a phallus into the vagina. There are also few ladies who like to complement masturbation with breast stimulation. At the same time, it could be called curious that each woman chooses a position for masturbation individually according to her feelings.
About 6% of ladies prefer to caress themselves while lying on their back, others do it on their side, sitting or even standing. There are ladies who like to stimulate themselves in a knee-elbow position by placing their hand between their legs. Some people rub their erogenous zones against various objects, or stroke the clitoris and vulva with a smooth or soft cloth.
Approximately 3% of women enjoy squeezing their thighs during masturbation; some bring themselves to ecstasy by directing a water jet to the perineum area. Very often, women use special creams and lubricants, but they do not have much significance. Many women who resort to self-satisfaction have used vibrators at least once in their lives, but a quarter of those surveyed chose this device as the main tool for achieving orgasm.
Masturbation in Orthodoxy
The Orthodox point of view on masturbation is based on the words of the Apostle Paul:
Or don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor wicked people, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10
According to a number of biblical interpreters, “malakia” is nothing more than masturbation. Therefore, the Orthodox Church takes the issue of bodily purity very seriously and interprets masturbation as a very insidious and dangerous sin.
Can masturbation replace regular sex?3
If sex becomes an obsession for a woman, then it can influence the lady’s personality, changing her sexual behavior and adding problems in relationships with the male sex.
Men are able to achieve the same orgasm both during traditional sex and during masturbation. Women do not have this ability; for them, unity with a loved one comes first, and sex itself is not so important. Handjob can provide only a small release, but it is impossible to deliver real sexual satisfaction, which is given by male hands, lips and other genitals.
Is masturbation a sin or a natural need?
However, not all interpreters define the meaning of the word “malakia” as masturbation; some of them translate it as “soft, amenable to pressure” and attribute it to passive homosexuals. However, even if you do not turn to the Holy Scriptures on this issue, you can easily understand why masturbation is a sin.
If we consider masturbation separately as a physical action (touching one’s own body), most likely it is not a sin. However, if we consider this action in its entirety (since it occurs in reality, under the influence of memories, fantasies, dreams and viewing pornography) it is clearly defined as a sin.
Jesus Christ said:
But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Matthew 5:28
Because under the influence of images from the screens of the monitor, television, telephone, memories and fantasies, carnal lust (excitement) occurs - the sin of adultery is committed. This is why masturbation is a sin, because... goes hand in hand with lustful passion and without lustful passion it does not manifest itself.
The need for sexual intimacy is natural for humans. However, the natural manifestation of this need is lovemaking between husband and wife, as God established this at the creation of man. Masturbation is an unnatural satisfaction of a natural need, along with homosexuality, lesbianism and other perverted and immoral ways.
Father Vladimir Golovin talks about what a mortal sin is, and whether masturbation belongs to it:
Types of female masturbation4
Just like in men, female masturbation is divided into several types:
- Childhood (early) is typical for girls from 5 to 8 years old. Usually they are pushed to know their own body by their peers or older girls. It is impossible to achieve orgasm at this age.
- Puberty. Appears with the development of secondary sexual characteristics: the appearance of pubic hairs, the growth of mammary glands, and may coincide with the onset of menstruation.
- Mature masturbation. Typical for young girls from 16 to 20 years old. This usually applies to high school girls and students.
- Substitute masturbation. They affect women who are not in a relationship and do not have sexual activity: divorced women, widows, single women, etc.
- Masturbation is menopausal.
FYI...[15]
Men begin to age as early as 20–22 years old. This old age is imperceptible to the men themselves, but can affect the health of future children. American scientist Jorn Olsen from the University of California found that a man who married late has a high probability of having children with mental disorders. According to many scientists, in men over 35 years of age, most of the germ cells have a deformed DNA molecular chain. In addition, the sperm of “elderly” fathers is significantly less capable of fertilization. That is, the very birth of a child into the world is called into question. The problem is not only the possible deviations, but also the growing tendency among men to get married at a later age, when they reach certain career heights and financial status. With age, genetic changes occur in sperm, as in ovaries. ...After 40 years, 40% of women's pregnancy ends in miscarriage. According to the United States National Institutes of Health, women's likelihood of having a child with Down syndrome increases dramatically as they age. According to statistics, if women under 30 give birth, among 1000 healthy babies there is one child with Down syndrome. For 35-year-olds - one in 400, for mothers aged 40 and older - one in 105. Older men are less to blame for this than women, but it is there. In the male body, with age, less and less of the male hormone testosterone begins to be produced, which entails a decrease in potency. In addition, at the age of 30, brain cells begin to slowly die. Based on this, we can say: it is better for both men and women to have a child at a young age. Doctors authoritatively confirm that the most optimal age for conception is 24 years. By the age of 35, 40% of married couples are no longer able to have a child, and by the age of 40, more than half of them are. Interestingly, the quality of sperm and the maneuverability of sperm are affected not only by age, but also by such powerful factors as smoking and stress. Scientists say that male careerists risk being left without heirs. However, William Kay, president of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, says that if a man minimizes environmental toxicity and leads a healthy lifestyle, he can conceive a healthy child at any age.
Types of female masturbation5
There are two main types of female masturbation:
- Adaptive methods of sexual satisfaction that can be used by both the lady herself and her partner during sex.
- Maladaptive - this is the name given to the impact on the clitoris through friction, muscle tension, a stream of water and the use of various objects and sex toys.
There are also differences in the methods of handjob:
- No penetration
If a woman can get pleasure without inserting the penis or other objects into the vagina, then the greatest attention should be paid to clitoral stimulation. This method is characterized by the use of various means to irritate the clitoris: fingers, shower, cloth, etc.
- With penetration
When penetrating the vagina, the clitoris and G-spot are stimulated. In this case, you can also use various devices or dildos. Particularly sophisticated onanists or simply great inventors can adapt for these purposes even fruits or vegetables that are suitable in shape and size.
Pros of female masturbation6
The benefits of female masturbation have long been proven, since self-satisfaction techniques have a positive effect on the health of women.
- If a woman reaches orgasm while masturbating, her mood improves and serotonin, the hormone of happiness, is produced.
- By suggesting to her partner the most intimate places, the stimulation of which gives the greatest pleasure, a woman has a positive effect on the relationship with her partner.
- There is scientific evidence that masturbation is the most accessible and elementary way to provide physical and mental release.
- Masturbation provides the same pain-relieving effect as traditional sex.
The harm of female masturbation7
Most often, the reason for female masturbation is dissatisfaction with sexual life with a partner. At the same time, they experience sexual arousal, which leaves behind some psychological traces, which subsequently begin to dominate the personality and cannot be controlled. As a result, women develop neuroses and mental disorders.
Female masturbation, like male masturbation, can be obsessive or temporary. If masturbation becomes a constant necessity, then this affects the degradation of a woman’s personality, her sexual behavior and communication with male representatives. This contradicts the female attitude towards sexual contacts, since ladies do not strive to have sex with the first person they meet, preferring to enter into intimate relationships with proven partners who meet all their criteria and meet the requirements.
Therefore, during masturbation, they cannot fully satisfy their spiritual needs, which means they do not feel happy.
Until recently, female masturbation was something between dementia and sinful behavior. Church ministers predicted the most severe torments for lovers of self-satisfaction, from uterine prolapse to various ailments in the female part. But modern science has long proven that masturbation is one of the mechanisms of influence on the female reproductive organs, which affects them in the same way as ordinary sex, which means that it is more useful than harmful.
Education and prejudice are two poles that should never intersect. Previously, parents were so afraid of corrupting their children that in adolescence they tied their hands to their beds at night, or came up with all sorts of “safeties” so that the children would not put their hands where they were not supposed to. It would not be surprising if such behavior created a certain behavioral stereotype and complexes in the child.
Violating hygiene rules can introduce an infection into the body and cause infection.
According to sexologists, frequent masturbation can complicate sexual relations with a partner.
Prayer against handjob
The most correct prayer is a sincere prayer from a pure heart, in simple words.
There is a short, simple and universal prayer to help Orthodox Christians - the Jesus Prayer. It helps in the fight not only against masturbation, but also any other sins and passions. The prayer is repeated slowly (so that thoughts focus on the meaning of each word) as soon as a passionate desire arises until the excitement subsides:
Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner.
In addition, in prayer you can call on saints for help - there are a large number of examples of such prayers on the Internet.
Rules of masturbation8
If a girl has not yet gotten to know her body and wants to expand the boundaries of her sensuality and sexuality, then she will need a couple of tips from experienced masturbators:
You need to create a comfortable atmosphere so that there are no distractions and try to relax. Relaxing music can help with this.
To tune in to the right wave, you can fantasize, watch erotic magazines or videos. When excitement begins to increase, you can begin caresses, slowly stroking yourself in the most sensitive places: stomach, breasts, shoulders, thighs, etc.
Gradually you can begin to stimulate the perineum. By experimenting, you can choose the pace and movements that will bring you the most pleasure. You don’t need to follow any rules or recommendations, you just have to surrender to the moment and enjoy it.
