Orthodox dating sites for starting a family

Modern young people often complain that they have nowhere to meet people, so they cannot find their soulmate. And if secular people think so, what can we say about believing Orthodox Christians? They are often completely cut off from the world. However, almost everyone wants to start a family.

Where can believers meet? The first thing that comes to mind is the temple. But while standing at a service, it is very difficult to speak to any of the parishioners, and parish life outside of services is not developed in every parish. And then it turns out that people can go to the same temple for years, pray together side by side and know nothing about each other. Of course, it is very difficult to establish any close relationships in such a situation. And then Orthodox dating sites can come to the rescue.

Nuances of Orthodox dating sites

Orthodox women and men who are tired of being lonely are registering on dating sites. Everyone needs a faithful partner who shares the Christian faith. There is not always someone at work or in your circle of friends with whom you would like to start a family and have children. The Lord helps in every possible way and pushes people towards each other. But it’s worth trying yourself in order to find your own happiness.

Finding a pair is now easy on the Internet. Sites for meeting Orthodox girls and guys have their own characteristics:

it’s easy to find a Christian believer for friendship and simple Orthodox communication in your free time;
the main goal is acquaintance, to get to know the person, his plans and interests;
on the sites only people who want a serious relationship;
Young people, those over 40, and even pensioners can meet a life partner.

It's easy to meet people online for free. The best sites only ask users to register and fill out a profile, and then choose like-minded people for spiritual and emotional intimacy.

Registration on dating sites is required. This is how Orthodox Christians prove the authenticity and sincerity of their intentions towards other believers.

In the circle of your interests

Each of us has our own circle of interests. Some people play sports, others read a lot or are passionate about films. It seems to me that you can choose your chosen one or chosen one based on your interests. In the gym, on literary or cinematic forums...

I met my soul mate while I was studying at medical school. She was my classmate. It didn’t take long before I realized that this was my future wife. I've been eyeing her for a whole year. Like many girls, she loved experimenting with her appearance: different styles of clothing and hair color. There was fleeting communication, chance meetings. Only by the middle of my second year did I realize that this is the person with whom I want to connect my life and, most importantly, this is the person in whom I would like to see the future mother of my children.

What the Church Says about Online Dating

In Russia, representatives of the clergy and the Orthodox Church have a positive attitude towards dating sites for believers. They understand that people who believed in Christ were scattered throughout the big country. Finding like-minded people is not so easy, but you want to live your life with someone who shares faith in God.

When people have serious intentions, all legal and honest means are good in achieving the goal. Meeting people online is not a bad idea, but you just have to follow the safety rules. There is no need to respond to advertisements or write in groups. Reviews from Christians show that they found a couple on specialized Orthodox dating sites. Only there can you find a serious relationship that will lead to a happy and blissful marriage.

Orthodox communication live is much better than correspondence on a website or through an application. But you shouldn’t make an appointment right away. You need to make sure that your life position, views, and worldview coincide with the person. Only then can you make a date and get to know each other better.

Among unbelieving friends

There is no need to immediately close yourself off from communication with non-believers, because in such meetings the will of God can also be revealed. Perhaps your mission is to lead someone to God, to enlighten their heart and soul. This person will be grateful to you all his life for telling him about God and bringing him to the temple.

A similar thing happened in my family at one time. My future wife knew what a temple was and treated it with reverence, but I would not call her a churchgoer. When we got married, she gradually started going to church. I showed her, told her something. Today she is a true Christian.

Who knows how the Lord controls our lives? If you are a believer, but your chosen one is not, perhaps you have been given this mission to bring her to God? The Holy Apostle Paul says: An unbelieving husband is sanctified by a believing wife, and an unbelieving wife is sanctified by a believing husband (1 Cor. 7:12). We see that this problem arose in the distant past. It is still relevant today.

How to Find a Reliable Christian Dating Site

In 2022, real dating is difficult, so everyone is switching to virtual communication. Registering on the site takes five minutes. It is more difficult to choose a reliable portal. We made sure that you do not come across scammers. The list of sites includes secure platforms that require registration. Orthodox websites guarantee user privacy.

It is not advisable to exchange phone numbers on the site. After communication, it is better to make an appointment in a public place and talk about everyday topics. Only if you are confident in the person’s integrity can you give a phone number.

Our official portal offers a rating of the best Orthodox dating sites. It's up to you to choose one of them. What to look for:

what columns does the questionnaire include;
verification method;
how extensive the free functionality is (there are also premium versions);
Is the chat convenient, how are messages sent?
way to find a match;
user reviews.

Do not use sites without registration, there will be no partners for an Orthodox person there. After all, true believers do not accept easy relationships and fornication that are offered to users online.

Is it possible to meet someone during the post?

It’s hard for me to imagine a person 18-20 years old who will constantly repent, pray, reflect on his sins, walk with a gloomy face and talk only about the Last Judgment. Youth will always remain youth. It will be right if we give to God what is God's and to Caesar what is Caesar's. Fasting, of course, implies prayer, repentance, abstinence, and turning one’s gaze inward.

Go to church more often, go to confession, receive communion, gather together, take part in special Lenten services, pray, do everything that is supposed to be done on these holy days. But if during Lent you meet a person with whom it will be pleasant to communicate, who supports and shares your views, why can’t you get to know each other? What is the sin here - violating the commandments of Christ? Perhaps this man was sent by the Lord Himself.

Features of dating with Orthodox women

Free dating sites for Orthodox Christians provide an opportunity to meet a serious person who is ready to start a family. Men online are taking their first steps towards getting closer. They make an appointment. If you liked one of the Christian women on the site, then when making an appointment with her, you should remember a number of features:

No need to go to a restaurant or bar where they serve drinks. It is more appropriate to invite a girl to a cafe.
You can't invite a woman over. This speaks of bad taste and indecency of a man.
Dress tastefully, but not pretentiously. A true Christian will appreciate the gentleman's restraint.
Remember the rules of decency, politeness, courtesy and tact. Gallantry and attentiveness will charm the girl.
Don't choose too active events for meetings. Prefer exhibitions, museums, and excursions to discos and rock concerts.

Reviews from people who found their other half on a dating site and now thank God together for their family well-being indicate that it is important to be patient. Only patient and restrained people will be able to find happiness in the person of an Orthodox loved one. Do not despair, it is important to be open and believe that God will help you find your soul mate in any way.

Start with prayer

If we rely on a specific prayer or the help of only one of the saints, then we forget about the will of God and His mercy. To some extent, we are like the pagans who believe that only after certain actions they will meet their betrothed.

Some people think that they need to read a special prayer for marriage, make a pilgrimage, or stand in a long line to see the relics of St. Blessed Xenia of St. Petersburg, Matrona of Moscow. Not necessary. Just pray - the Lord will send the right person without all this.

Achilles

(A Quick Guide for Atheists)

Preface

I was prompted to write the manual by my many years of personal communication with ordinary believers, as well as with the ranks of the Christian clergy at a time when I myself was fascinated by this religious doctrine.

The manual is mainly intended for atheists who are forced to communicate with those Christians who persistently impose their faith. Therefore, explanations are given of the peculiarities of Orthodox thinking, as well as the methods of influence of Christians on secular society.

On criticism of religion

It is necessary to criticize Christians with an eye on the law on the protection of the rights of believers, since the particularly intolerant of them shamelessly use this law to persecute atheists who allegedly insult them. That is, the right of atheists to freedom of expression, granted by the Constitution, may be interpreted by the judiciary as an insult to the religious feelings of Christians.

How does this happen? Offended Orthodox Christians insist that atheists are insulting not only their beliefs, but also the being they worship. Unfortunately, the court will not take into account that you sincerely consider this creature to be fabulous, since its existence has not been confirmed by absolutely anything (except the words of those who believe in it).

Let us remember that we have a secular state.

Not a single Russian state act indicates the possibility and legality of intervention in our lives by a supernatural being or any other incomprehensible substance.

Since there is no such act, no one is obliged to experience a feeling of respect, tenderness or guilt before some mysterious being. However, in court, when discussing religious issues, this is somehow forgotten.

Just recently, it was hardly possible to imagine the revival of the ancient Inquisition in our time. However, it happened.

About divine truths

The faster science develops, including archaeology, geology and biology, the fewer arguments remain in the truth of the Holy Scriptures and the numerous works of the church fathers.

An attentive reader and listener has long noticed that many modern adherents of Christianity try to remember the so-called divine truths of the Old Testament as little as possible. Some pretend that there was no old covenant at all, but only a new one. The calculation is simple - the fewer mentions of what is dangerous to discuss, the better for believers.

Why is this happening?

Yes, because the terrible atrocities described in the Old Testament, committed in the name of the Almighty and at his direct instigation¹, are simply impossible to justify in any way, unless one is disingenuous in front of oneself and others.

Therefore, when priests are asked to explain those passages of the Old Testament that are impossible to read without shuddering, they admit through gritted teeth the cruelty of ancient Scripture. But at the same time they make a very strange conclusion - since in those days the human race and social relations were incredibly terrible, God treated people accordingly.

Thus, it is indirectly recognized that at present the Old Testament actions of God in relation to humanity cannot be considered, to put it mildly, as good neighborly.

But, no matter what good reasons justify the actions of the deity in ancient times, nothing can hide his calls for the destruction of innocent people. We must remember that at all times the Old Testament is divinely inspired for Christians and Jews. This means that it is the main co-author of this work who is responsible for his misanthropic appeals.

The ancient Scripture can no longer be corrected, although many priests would like to do so. Scientific research has shown that in the history of Christianity, the understanding of fundamental religious truths has changed dramatically more than once.

For example, at the Ecumenical Councils, discussions arose more than once about whether Christ should be considered the son of God. At the same time, many theological disputes often ended in the destruction of dissident Christians; for example, in Russia it was considered normal to burn entire families of Old Believers.

That is why priests diligently keep silent about the Old Testament horrors, emphasizing the love of mankind of the New Testament. However, this is not true - it also contains many cruel and completely immoral calls. Are they inspired by God too? Christians think so.

Is God to blame

The priests invented a strange excuse: God cannot be mocked!

This is another deceit - it happens! After all, if everything is according to his will, it is not difficult to understand what the victims think about him and about this will.

Adherents of Christianity, capable of thinking logically, always find themselves faced with the need to draw conclusions that are very unpleasant for them:

— if “God is Love,” then he cannot possibly be a co-author of the Old and New Testaments, because they contain numerous calls for reprisals, including against the innocent;

- if it was not the deity itself that inspired these ancient books, then they should be recognized as purely human creativity, like all other fairy tales about Greek, Scandinavian, Indian and other gods;

- if the ancient stories are still inspired from above, and the god of all covenants is one, then he is not Love. This is an incredibly jealous and cruel despot, punishing not only for deeds, but even for thoughts.

Let’s remember George Orwell’s utopian novel “1984,” which describes a society where “thought crime” is punishable by death. Many who have read or heard about this novel believe that it is impossible to implement a mechanism for punishing thoughts in real life. However, it is not. For many centuries there has been a religious community that considers it necessary to apply the most severe punishments only for thoughts. Why does it think so?

According to this community, some thoughts greatly offend God. Therefore, an angry god is simply obliged to punish with eternal torment in hell.

What do they believe and what do they pray?

The flock at all times was urged to fervently believe in the High Patron, but not to expect immediate miracles from him. But if someone quickly recovered, or found a treasure, or won another war, then ministers of various cults attributed these successes to the undoubted patronage of the corresponding deity. There was a lot of evidence of his existence - starting from the stars, sun, moon he created, as well as the heavenly punishments he sent in the form of diseases, natural disasters and other trials. It is worth recalling that even now some believers believe that various kinds of man-made disasters and natural disasters are God's punishment for the sins of corrupt humanity. The fact that even babies die does not bother them at all.

This position contradicts the statements of those clergy who claim that faith does not require proof of the existence of God. In fact, this is a direct admission that there is no such evidence at all.

Such an approach to the unproven assertion of the existence of an omnipotent being is called very pathetically: a feat of faith.

But why did the vector of faith swing away from the search and interpretation of various cases and phenomena previously classified as miraculous? At first glance, this is very strange, especially since such actions are incomprehensible to many parishioners and even priests.

The fact is that thanks to science, many so-called miracles have received a natural explanation, and this information is now available to literally everyone. And those facts that have not yet been officially exposed, nevertheless, have long aroused suspicion of their supposedly divine origin, for example, the appearance of the Holy Fire on a strictly defined day and even hour .

In this regard, I would like to ask those who believe in the Creator of the Universe and all things: why are you not surprised by the fact that a great deity obeys the call of some mortal and obediently shows his visible presence every year by lighting candles? Aren't there more serious reasons to show off your great strength? For example, stop a war, put out a volcano, calm a tsunami? This is both more visible and much more useful for beloved children, who, according to the clergy, are people for the Almighty.

You won’t get a serious answer; most likely there will be an excuse like “His ways are mysterious.”

In fact, the priests are afraid that the new “miracle” will be explained or even exposed, and this fact will show them in an even more unsightly light. It turns out a strange situation when the existence of something, on the one hand, is recognized as a miracle, but on the other hand, it is not considered necessary to wait for other miracles.

So it turns out that, according to the assurances of one part of the clergy, almighty God allegedly granted freedom in everything. And another part of the same clergy, on the contrary, insists that God constantly interferes in the affairs of mortals. Therefore, we often hear enthusiastic stories about incredible healings and receiving various material benefits, including in monetary terms.

According to Christians, these pleasant bonuses come to them thanks to prayers addressed to the Master of Fates, or to those whom the clergy has managed to enroll as saints. However, unpleasant questions arise again:

- If the power of the prayer spell is real, then isn’t it a miracle?

- if you don’t expect miracles in the form of benefits, why pray at all?

Indeed, most spells that appeal to a deity are only about obtaining a specific material benefit, and not at all the salvation of the soul. By flipping through the thick prayer book, you can find a spell to suit every taste. After this, how can an ordinary parishioner not believe in miracles? Therefore, one or another Orthodox Christian constantly prays, hoping for a new apartment, a promotion, getting rid of harmful neighbors, and the like.

The clergy constantly quotes those lines of Scripture that say that one must ask and it will be given. Therefore, priests will never tell a parishioner that one should not expect miracles and therefore there is no need to pray. Without prayer, the whole meaning of personal appeal to the deity is completely lost. But what if in real life what you ask for is not given? Pastors explain these cases by insufficient zeal in prayer and sternly instruct those who doubt - faith does not tolerate doubt!

However, what is good for zombified Orthodox Christians is not enough to attract new adherents of the faith, and another eternal question arises - what to do? How to convince potential parishioners of the real existence of an invisible deity in order to continue fooling them?

The idea of the priests is simple, but by no means ingenious.

To be convinced of the existence of the unknowable and invisible, people are offered to read spells of a special kind until they go crazy, calling on Him and asking Him to give strength to believe in Him.

It looks very strange, but such oddities are common among believers.

In essence, these spells are a kind of meditation or primitive auto-training, when you need to focus on one, maximum two thoughts. Any psychologist will say that if a sensitive person (this does not always mean the presence of a shattered psyche) constantly evokes in himself a desire to feel something, it is likely that he will feel this something more clearly and sharply. This is a feature of the psychological structure of the individual, sometimes leading to its disorder (“If you gaze for a long time into an abyss, then the abyss will begin to peer into you” (Nietzsche).

Indeed, people who are exhausted by frequent lack of sleep, malnutrition (fasting) and various everyday troubles may experience some strange sensations during intense prayers that they have not previously experienced. In these cases, the ministers of worship will solemnly proclaim that the efforts of the person praying were not in vain and he felt His breath, His grace, etc.

Only a rare temple minister, capable not of ostentation, but of real everyday compassion, will advise not to rejoice at unusual sensations and visions, but to make an appointment with the appropriate doctor.

So what do you do with those who sincerely believe that they have comprehended something special and offer you the technique that they used so “successfully”?

Votes for the chosen ones

Imagine a person who has never walked along mountain trails, but decided to go on such a hike alone and without any preparation. Fearing for his life and health, his friends dissuade him from taking an unwise step. However, he stands his ground, repeating only one argument in favor of his intention: he feels that he must do it!

-Where did you get this feeling? - friends ask.

- It arose in the depths of my soul and does not give me peace, I feel its indisputable truth, therefore I will gladly submit to it! I'm going to the mountains!

In this situation, there is still a faint hope of convincing a friend, preoccupied with the idea of a mountain hike, of the mortal danger of this event.

Now imagine a similar situation, differing from the one described above in only one way - your friend refers not only to a certain feeling, but also to a certain voice that he clearly hears, saying something like the following:

- Go where I say! Don't listen to anyone but Me! You are much better than others, for you are the chosen one. After all, only you hear My Voice!

Having heard about the voice in the head of the “chosen one,” friends understand that their friend has simply gone crazy and further convictions about the harmfulness of his intentions are completely useless.

As mentioned above, after intense prayers and spells, some strange sensations may appear. If they are short-term, infrequent, and the “chosen one” manages to avoid meetings with the clinic, then he can continue to carry out his usual work activities and communicate normally with other people.

But as soon as you touch on the topic of religion and try to express doubt about the existence of someone who is the object of worship of a believer, everything immediately changes. At best, an adherent of the faith will look at you with mild reproach and condescendingly say:

- You are wrong! He is there and waiting for you to open the door for him.

These words make many believers happy, but the motivation here is often different:

“It’s good that he won’t show up without my invitation!” - those who believe in the Omnipresent, but are not eager to meet him soon, think with relief. After all, there are only two possible options for this meeting - after your death, or during the onset of the apocalypse, which also does not contribute to optimism.

Conclusion

Christians will never agree with the arguments that it was not God who invented man, but man who invented God, because then they would cease to be who they are. Therefore, they will ignore all the contradictions of Scripture - believers are sure that if you do not pay attention to the absurdities, then they do not exist.

Of course, you can try to ask them how they can put up with the heavy hand of the Lord if he is All-Merciful and All-Good? But you won't get a clear answer. Forget about logic, when you communicate with Christians, their minds easily accept the assumption that the Supreme Personality can be both a great villain and a great benefactor. Moreover, many Christians sincerely rejoice at the vengefulness and cruelty of their deity, otherwise how can one explain such mantras, so popular among them:

- He will reward you! He will punish you! He will send hellish torments upon you!

You can try to use this manual to convince the Orthodox, but it will be very difficult, because real religious fanaticism is practically incurable.

And in general, it is advisable to argue with Christians about their faith only in cases where they are able to listen to the arguments of their opponents, and not accuse them of all sins. But there are very few of them. We can only hope that some Christians will be able to think with an open mind about the truth of what they are told to believe, and will find freedom - at least in their thoughts.

I know from myself that this is possible.

¹Recommended: Sam Harris ("The End of Faith"), Richard Dawkins ("The God Delusion"), Christopher Hitchens ("God Is Not Love"), Paul Henri Holbach ("Gallery of Saints or a Study of the Thought, Behavior, Rules and Merits of Those persons whom Christianity offers as models"). In these books, concrete facts confirm the cruelty of religious doctrines, incl. Christianity.

Illustration: painting by Vasya Lozhkin

Gull

Orthodox youth portal Chaika

Virtual platform for Orthodox dating. The project's audience has serious intentions. Men and women from Russia, Kazakhstan, and Belarus meet here, dreaming of starting a family in accordance with all church traditions.

Such a serious attitude of the audience also attracts people who are somewhat distant from Orthodoxy, but who are tired of the frivolous behavior of their interlocutors on traditional dating services.

Correspondence takes place via email. You can view accounts without registering, but you will need to be identified to post your ad.

Pros:

Opportunity to find like-minded people.
Clear interface.

Minuses:

A small number of registered users and new profiles.
To find a partner, you have to open every profile, many of which do not have a photo.

PravZnak

An Orthodox social network, one of its main goals is to unite like-minded people. Among registered users there is approximately the same ratio between men and women.

A simple registration will provide access not only to the dating section, but to information sections.

Correspondence takes place within the site; there is no need to use third-party resources to exchange information. You should start working on the platform by registering.

Pros:

The site has a large number of positive comments from users.
Lots of useful information for believers.
The opportunity to have a conversation with like-minded people.

Minuses:

Low activity among the audience.
The photos in the general listing are too small. We have to open each of them for a more detailed study.

The ABC of Loyalty

The service has a thematic focus and was created for dating believers. More than 15,000 users have chosen the “ABC of Fidelity” to find a partner with similar interests. Among the audience there is a slight superiority in the number of female profiles. The interface is intuitively accessible, and the sections contain a large amount of useful information on relevant topics.

Main sections available to registered users:

My page is a user account where you can post and edit personal information.
General chat - helps to conduct a conversation between a group of users.
Favorites - contains correspondence with your favorite interlocutor.
Diaries - gives you the opportunity to study profiles, read news and participate in the forum.
Radio - allows you to listen to a radio station dedicated to religious topics.
Search - this is where you can set detailed criteria for a potential partner. The system will automatically select suitable candidates.

If you have any questions regarding the operation of the site, you can use the “ FAQ ” section or contact the support service.

Using the functionality of the ABC of Fidelity website does not require payment. However, if desired, any applicant can refer to the link in the form of a coin and donate any feasible amount for the development of the project.

Pros:

Completely free functionality.
User profiles from all over the world.
Detailed parameters when searching for a partner.
Various categories necessary for virtual communication.

Minuses:

Specific theme of the site.