The family is infinitely dear to a person; it is a “small church” for him. Therefore, prayer for family well-being occupies an important place in the life of every Christian. Unfortunately, things don't always work out well. Discord occurs between households, love threatens betrayal or illness of one of the household members, for example, alcoholism of a father or son. But if believing parents and children turn to the Lord, the Most Holy Theotokos and the saints for help, there is no doubt that everything will work out in the best way.
Christian marriage
In Christianity, marriage between a man and a woman presupposes the presence of physical, mental and spiritual communication. Man created by God has three natures: spirit, soul and body. And if they are all “involved” to the fullest, love reigns in the family. Such a marriage ideally achieves holiness. The family becomes a “small church”, the purpose and meaning of which is joint salvation. This can be achieved by praying for peace in the family.
“The Church does not look at marriage as a union of psychologically compatible people. What a feat, a school of love. And if you have already decided to unite with a person, then you must go through this school to the end” (Archpriest Arkady Shatov).
Prayer for peace in the family
The basis of a strong family is the generous love and mutual respect of the spouses.
In the Christian understanding, generous love means a willingness to give. That is, to empathize and sympathize, to share joy, to spend personal time, to expend energy, to sacrifice oneself. Mutual respect between spouses in a family helps preserve the individuality of each person. It limits a person to his own interests and does not impose his views and tastes on others. Mutual respect helps to painlessly resolve most conflicts and contradictions. Find a solution without leading to quarrels and mutual insults. Objectively agree on certain controversial issues.
Saving a family from disintegration during various everyday difficulties is possible only with God's help. The so-called “family” prayers for peace, love, and the granting of strength in patience and humility can help with this.
Prayer of Saint Xenia of Petersburg
Ksenia of Petersburg took upon herself the feat of foolishness after the death of her husband. She was very worried that he died suddenly, without having time to repent and receive communion. Ksenia devoted the rest of her life to begging God for the salvation of her husband’s soul. She did good deeds, prayed and helped the suffering. If you pray to her sincerely, she will help improve well-being in the family.
Oh, holy all-blessed mother Ksenia! Living under the protection of the Almighty, guided and strengthened by the Mother of God, you have received hunger and thirst, cold and heat, endured reproach and persecution, received the gift of clairvoyance and miracles from God, and you have received peace under the canopy of the Almighty isishya. Now the Holy Church, like a fragrant flower, glorifies you. Standing at the place of your burial, before your holy image, as if you are living, existing with us, we pray to you: accept our petitions and bring them to the Throne of the Merciful Father in Heaven, as boldly She who has knowledge towards Him. Ask for eternal salvation for those who flow to you, our generous blessing for good deeds and undertakings, deliverance from all troubles and sorrows. Stand before our All-Merciful Savior with your holy prayers for us, unworthy and sinners. Help, Holy Blessed Mother Xenia, illuminate the infants with the light of Holy Baptism and seal the gift of the Holy Spirit, youths and young women in faith, honesty, fear of God and chastity educate and grant them success in learning; heal the sick and ailing, send love and harmony to families, be worthy to strive for good as a monk and be protected from reproach, shepherds establish in the fortress of the Holy Spirit, people and preserve our country in peace and serenity, pray for those deprived of the Holy Mysteries of Christ at the hour of death. For you are our hope and hope, quick hearing and deliverance, we send thanks to you and with you we glorify the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit, now and ever, and to the ages of ages. Amen.
Prayer for no scandals at home
A strong Christian family, based on peace and harmony between relatives, is impossible without prayer. However, prayer should not be perceived as a magic spell. She is not capable of establishing peace and harmony in the family on her own. In Orthodoxy, through prayer, communication occurs with God Himself, the Most Holy Theotokos, saints and angels. There are no ultimatums or bargaining in this communication. For believers, prayer for peace between spouses is a request, a hope for mercy, help and consolation.
But spoken words of prayer alone are not enough. We need to work together with God. Each spouse, for his part, must make efforts to maintain peace in the family. Everyone should strive for perfection in the Christian understanding: goodness, non-irritability, patience, mercy, compassion.
“Spouses, as far as possible, should cultivate the virtue of love, so that the two will always be fused together and so that the Third, our Sweetest Christ, will always be with them” (St. Paisius the Svyatogorets, 1924-1994).
Hieromonk Job Gumerov:
“First of all, we must pray intensely so that the Lord will enlighten us and help us see the true reasons for family troubles. When peace in the house is disturbed, neither party is able to correctly evaluate themselves and their behavior. Resentments arise and accumulate, which cloud the mental eyes of the spouses. When assessing the reasons, you need to humbly take all the blame upon yourself, then the Lord will make such a person wise... You need to carefully consider your spiritual life and try to see the reason for the loss of love. Most often, it lies in the fact that selfishness has crowded out the ability to love from our hearts. Love can be reborn, but this requires intense prayer and considerable spiritual work.”
The power of faith
If you are guilty, or feel some of your guilt, you should take the first step. It is within the power of God to direct a person to the true path and enlighten a person. To save a marriage, it is important to use the right words and choose the right prayer.
Above all, remember to be grateful for everything you have. For help they pray to the icon of the holy martyr Matrona of Moscow. A prayer addressed to Nicholas the Pleasant, or the Blessed Virgin Mary, is considered effective.
In order for the prayer for the preservation of the family to work, it is necessary to turn to the Holy Mother of God. Take the icon and read the sacred text before going to bed. You can increase the frequency if you feel the need for it. Try to memorize the words of the prayer, or write it down on a separate sheet of paper for the first time.
Keep the text near the icon, write the text yourself. After all, it is much more valuable than printed text.
Prayer for peace in the family: who to contact
For help in maintaining peace in the family, believers turn not only to the Lord. The Great Intercessor for Christians is the Mother of God. You can pray in front of any image of Her that is more disposed to prayer, closer to the heart. The prayer for peace in the family between husband and wife in front of the icon of the Mother of God goes back to the Archetype itself.
“Little children always cling to their mother and hold on to her. And you, spiritual children of your Heavenly Mother, place your hopes in Her in all your sorrows and difficulties and remember that She tirelessly prays for the Christian race” (St. Luke of Crimea, 1877-1961).
Prayer to the Most Holy Theotokos before the icon “Softening Evil Hearts”
If quarrels and scandals often occur in the family, then the prayer of the Mother of God in front of the icon “Softening Evil Hearts” can help. If you read it sincerely and with all your heart, then the Most Holy Theotokos will help improve relationships between spouses, children and loved ones.
Oh, much-sorrowful Mother of God, who surpassed all the daughters of the earth in Her purity and in the multitude of sufferings You brought to earth! Accept our much-sick sighs and keep us under the roof of Your mercy, for there is no other refuge and warm intercession than You know, but as we have boldness towards Him who was born of You, help and save us with your prayers, so that we may without stumbling reach the Kingdom of Heaven, where with all the saints we will sing praises to the One God in the Trinity, always, now, and ever, and unto the ages of ages. Amen.
Holy Helpers of the Family
In case of family troubles, believers also turn to saints for help. In Rus', the martyrs Gury, Samon and Aviv (3rd-4th centuries) enjoyed special veneration in these matters. These saints lived in the city of Edessa (Turkey), but at different times. Christians buried their bodies in one place. They began to be revered as patrons of the family after helping the young woman Euphemia.
She was married to a Goth warrior, who took her to his native lands. However, he already had a wife in his homeland. Euphemia became a servant in the house. The child born to her was poisoned by the Goth's wife. Euphemia, trying to prove the violent death of the child, caused the death of the Goth's wife. The relatives of the deceased decided to bury Euphemia alive. The young woman began to pray to Saints Gurias, Samon and Aviv and fell asleep during prayer. Waking up from sleep, Euphemia found herself in the temple of her hometown. When the bigamous husband came to visit Euphemia's mother, he was put on trial and beheaded.
For help in family matters, believers turn to the Murom princes Peter and Fevronia (13th century). These saints, with their righteous lives, became an example of Christian marriage. Therefore, a prayer for peace in the family is addressed to them. At a difficult moment, Prince Peter did not leave his wife, preferring to lose his princely power. The Lord allowed them to die in one day. Their bodies miraculously ended up in the same coffin twice, as the saints had bequeathed during their lifetime.
Prayer to Saint Nicholas the Wonderworker
Saint Nicholas quickly comes to the aid of those who need his intercession before the Lord; it is not for nothing that he is called the Great Saint of God. You need to ask him humbly and from the heart, then he will respond to help in solving family problems. But we must not forget that building strong family relationships is not easy work, to which you need to devote all your strength
Oh, all-holy Nicholas, the most excellent servant of the Lord, our warm intercessor and quick helper everywhere in sorrow. Help me, a sinner and sad person, in this life, beg the Lord God to grant me forgiveness of all my sins, most of which I have sinned from my youth, in all my life, in deed, word, thought and with all my feelings, and help me in the exodus of my soul, accursed one, beg the Lord God, the Creator of all creation, to deliver me from airy ordeals and eternal torment, so that I always glorify the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit and your merciful intercession, now no, forever and ever. Amen.
Prayer book for peace in the family
In 2015, Elder Paisiy Svyatogorets (1924-1994) was canonized as a saint. During his lifetime, believers turned to him for advice. Having Divine love within him, he loved everyone as brothers and sisters.
“When I see an elderly man, I tell myself that this is my father. Seeing the old woman, I say that this is my mother. When I meet a child, I look at him as if he were my little nephew. I love everybody. I’m happy for some, but painful for others.”
With his unfeigned love, Paisius helped the Christians who came to him change for the better. His prayer for family peace often helped people experiencing difficulties in their marriage.
One day, Elder Paisius the Holy Mountain was visited by an American doctor, a Greek by birth. His face glowed with happiness. He told the saint that he was the father of three children. His family life was good at first. But after a while, family troubles and worries began to weigh on the wife, and she began to have lovers. Then she completely abandoned her family. Subsequently, the husband found out that she was in Greece in a dirty house. Then the man, kneeling before the image of Jesus Christ, tearfully prayed for her admonition and the salvation of her soul. At that moment the room was filled with Uncreated Light. The man's heart was relieved. He received consolation from God, his wife returned to the family.
One day a man turned to Elder Paisius of Svyatogorets. His wife forbade him to light incense (fragrant resin) at home. Because of this, discord and quarrels reigned in the house. The wife, out of stubbornness, did everything in defiance of her husband. Having advised the man not to light incense at home himself, the holy elder began to pray for the return of peace, silence and love to the family. After some time, the woman herself began to light the incense.
Appeal to Matrona of Moscow
They turn to the Saint quite often. It really helps in different areas of a person’s life. Thanks to the use of prayer books and strong faith, miracles are confirmed in reality. Married couples turn to her for healing from infertility, pray for the strength and love of the spouses.
Unmarried girls turn to her for marriage. With the help of prayers, girls find their soul mate, their mothers also use the sacred text.
Women often turn to Matrona to avoid divorce. In this case, it is best to visit her relics. There is also another option. In this case, you should write a letter to the monastery. In your appeal, state your request for spiritual help. Involve your spouse in this process; a joint activity will not only bring you closer, but also improve your relationship.
It is believed that Matrona is the patroness of all those in need. She is a martyr and healer. Say prayers more often for the preservation of the family hearth, it will definitely help.
Conspiracies are quite effective, powerful in their effect. In addition to preserving the married couple, you can also ask for wealth and financial well-being.
After a short period of time after regularly saying prayers, a person notices a beneficial effect.
Prayers for increased love and peace in the family
Troparion
By the union of love, You bound Your apostles, O Christ, and thus firmly bound us Your faithful servants to Yourself, to keep Your commandments and to love each other unfeignedly, through the prayers of the Mother of God, the One Lover of Mankind.
Kontakion
Our hearts were kindled with the flame of love for You, Christ God, so that with that kindling, in our hearts, in our minds and in our souls, and with all our strength, we love You, and our neighbors as ourselves, and by keeping Your commandments we glorify You, the Giver of all good things.
Prayer to the Lord Jesus Christ
Lord Jesus Christ our God, having given your disciples a new commandment to love one another, accept this prayer for the forgiveness of the sins of all of us, your faithful servants, and renew the love that has dried up in us for you and for the brethren with your Holy Spirit and firmly plant this in our hearts, so that by fulfilling Your commandments, we will not seek our own benefit on earth, but we will be zealous for Your glory and for the creation and salvation of our neighbors, so that in love and peace with everyone who has lived in this age, we will be honored, together with those who have pleased You, in the heavenly abodes Thee and Thy Beginningless Father and the Holy Spirit to the endless ages of ages. Amen.
Prayer to the Most Holy Theotokos for the family
Most Blessed Lady, take my family under Your protection. Instill in the hearts of my husband and our children peace, love and non-questioning of all that is good; Do not allow anyone from my family to experience separation and difficult parting, to premature and sudden death without repentance. And save our house and all of us living in it from fiery ignition, thieves' attacks, every evil of the situation, various types of insurance and devilish obsession. Yes, we too, collectively and separately, openly and secretly, will glorify Your Holy Name always, now and ever, and forever and ever. Most Holy Theotokos, save us! Amen.
Prayer for family to martyrs and confessors Guria, Samon and Aviv
Oh, glory to the martyr Guria, Samona and Aviva! To you, as a quick helper and a warm prayer book, we resort to weakness and unworthiness, fervently pleading: do not despise us, who have fallen into many iniquities and are sinning all the days and hours; guide the erring on the right path, heal the suffering and mourning; keep us in a blameless and chaste life; and as in ancient times, so now remain the patrons of marriages, in love and like-mindedness this affirms and delivers from all evil and calamity.
Protect, O the great power of the confessor, all Orthodox Christians from misfortunes, evil people and the machinations of demons; Protect me from unexpected death, beseeching the All-Good Lord, that He may add great and rich mercy to us as His humble servant. We are not worthy to call on the magnificent name of our Creator with unclean lips, unless you, holy martyrs, intercede for us; For this reason we resort to you and ask for your intercession before the Lord. Also deliver us from famine, flood, fire, sword, invasion of foreigners, internecine warfare, deadly plagues and every soul-destroying situation.
To her, passion-bearers of Christ, through your prayers arrange for us all that is good and useful, so that a pious life of a temporary life has passed and a death without shame has been achieved, we will be worthy of your warm intercession with all the saints at the right hand of the Just God of the Judge, and Him to unceasingly glorify with the Father and the Holy Spirit forever and ever. Amen.
