What you're experiencing: The main differences between lust and true love. Lust is the indulgence of base desires

In modern society, lust has long ceased to be a problem. But not because she was defeated, and “Mara, upset and saddened, immediately disappeared,” but because such a state has long become the norm. Moreover, it is cultivated in every possible way in society. And Mara - the god of passions and carnal desires - still continues to enslave the minds of people. Why is this happening? The fact is that sexual pleasures drain a huge amount of vital energy. And weak and sick people are much easier to manage. Therefore, lust and the cult of sex are instilled in every possible way in our society with the help of the media and other methods of unstructured management. In addition to the fact that people’s consciousness is deliberately focused on the topic of sexual relations all the time, many myths and outright lies are also created around this topic. How to avoid falling into this dangerous trap, what are the causes of lust and how to deal with it?

What does lust mean?

In order to more accurately understand the biblical view of sex, it is worth clearly understanding where exactly the fine line lies that separates blessed relationships from low, sinful ones.

Love between a man and a woman implies bright feelings towards the object of one's interest. And the main components of these feelings are respect and the desire to do something pleasant for a partner, without demanding anything in return. Love does not accept selfishness, since it is deliberately aimed at sacrifice.

While lust is the desire to use a person for one’s own purposes, namely to satisfy base passions, sexual needs, and momentary desires. What kind of respectful and reverent attitude towards a partner can we talk about here?

A person who follows lust indulges his desires, unable or simply rejecting any attempt to restrain them. Lust is selfish and therefore destructive. It eats the soul, teaching a person that all his desires must be fulfilled.

Meaning of the word

We are smart people, we know the letters, so we take out explanatory dictionaries of the Russian language, for example, Ozhegov or Ushakov, and read: “Lust is a rough, sensual sexual desire, voluptuousness.”

Society long ago established standards of behavior and morality. Showing your attraction in society is a terrible bad manners. Well, really, who would think of going up to a person now, grabbing him by the private part and dragging him into the nearest bushes? Such behavior is seriously condemned in religion, and in all faiths. Yes, we are talking about adequate people, not maniacs.

The only unfair thing is that men are forgiven for such behavior, but the young lady, with her lustful eyes, can be stoned to death. And now, in modern society. Muslims and Slavs have an extremely negative attitude towards such manifestations. In Europe and the USA this is much easier.

In Christianity

In Christianity, lust is any desire that causes a person suffering and inconvenience, desires that contradict a person’s understanding of the “law”; religious people call lust any illegal (in their understanding, i.e. subjective sense) passion and desire (1 Cor. 10:6 , 1 Peter 2:11).

In religion

In Orthodoxy, it is one of the eight sinful passions and is called fornication

, in Catholicism - one of the seven deadly sins, corruption of the heart, leading to evil and sin.
The connection between lust and sin is already reported in the Apostolic Epistles: “Everyone is tempted, being carried away and enticed by his own lust.
But lust, having conceived, gives birth to sin” (James 1:14-15).
“For everything that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not from the Father, but from this world.”
(1 John 2:16).

How to recognize lust in yourself

The conflict between the needs of the flesh and the spirit, when the satisfaction of physical needs causes damage to the soul, is called lust by the Holy Fathers. There is a sign by which one can determine whether a person’s material needs are a consequence of natural needs or have turned into lust - if they are increasing all the time, and dissatisfaction with the standard of living has firmly settled in the soul.

The Holy Fathers in their heritage distinguish not only the lust of the flesh, but also the spirit. The second case is much less common, but also causes irreparable damage to human nature. A huge number of false beliefs have spread throughout the world. In them, the human spirit is introduced into a painful, unnatural state. The Holy Fathers call such pseudo-religious practices prelest or lust of the spirit. As a result, families of sectarians are destroyed, the natural connection between parents and children is broken, and irreparable damage is caused in other areas of life.

People lived for many years in a state of lack of spirituality that reigned during Soviet times. Now they do not understand how an “innocent”, from their point of view, faith in God outside the Orthodox Church somewhere in a sect can harm. But in such pseudo-religious organizations it is not the true spiritual way of thinking (life) that is preached, but its counterfeit or distortion (lust), which can destroy a person as an image of God, as a person.

What distinguishes lust from normal sexual desire?

Often lust is a consequence of sexual dissatisfaction and the inability, due to complexes or objective reasons, to realize one’s sexual desire. But sexual attraction in itself is not lust.

This is a natural, genetically inherent psychological and physiological process that serves as a component of that very bright feeling that we call love. No, of course, he is not the main or determining factor in love, but even without him, you must admit, it would not make sense.

After all, love between a man and a woman is not only mutual respect and the desire to make the life of a loved one more beautiful, but also the desire to leave offspring behind. And without this, humanity would simply disappear from the face of the Earth.

How to get rid of lust?

Lust can overcome anyone, but it does not make everyone slaves. And if a person realizes that his desires are no longer innocent, that he has been taken over by base lust, it is important to be able to get rid of it. In order not to become a slave to lust, you should make a decision once and for all and firmly adhere to it. Even if you fail, start again and again - and this eternal itch will leave you.

Try to distract yourself with an activity that will not give you time for base thoughts and aspirations. After all, it is not for nothing that psychology believes that suppressed sexual desires are the strongest incentive for a person to realize another type of activity.

It was in this state that most discoveries in science were made, a huge number of masterpieces in art were created - so maybe this suppressed and directed force will lift you up?

Causes

If we talk about the principles of lust, they are accurately characterized by the film of the same name, released in 2003. Having fallen under the harmful influence of his friend, the main character Paul sacrifices family happiness and plunges into a cycle of passions, drugs, strip clubs and other dubious pleasures. The drama evokes an internal protest against such a seamy side of life and awakens in the soul the hope that there will always be people who have different values.

From a psychological point of view, lust is a purely emotional phenomenon, but sexual attraction is a physiological phenomenon. This is their difference. So, a voluptuous old man may no longer have the strength or capabilities for violent sex with young girls, but he strives for this with all his soul.

Lust is that dark side of personality that lives in an individual on its own, regardless of marital status, age, or state of health. A person can carefully hide his secret passions and indulge in them alone with his fantasies or while watching pornography, or even leading a double life.

The first reason is energy.

The energetic cause of lust is stagnation of energy in the second chakra. The energy, rising through the channel, “gets stuck” in the second chakra, Svadhistan, and strives to find a way out. It cannot go higher for one simple reason: a person has already created the habit of regularly spending energy at the level of the second chakra and therefore any increase in energy motivates him to take similar actions. It is important to dispel one of the very common myths that a person supposedly has some kind of separate “sexual energy” that needs to be regularly released. This is another lie. There is only one energy in the human body, it is universal, and it is only our choice through which chakra we will spend it. Or rather, the choice is not always ours. In addition to the fact that the cause of addiction can be a blockage of energy channels, our “conscious” choice is often influenced by subtle entities - larvae. These creatures have the ability to influence our consciousness and create motivations that are beneficial to them. They force a person to perform this or that activity in order to obtain pleasure, during which a colossal waste of energy occurs - this is what the larvae feed on.

This applies to almost any addiction, but the waste of energy through the lower three chakras occurs in maximum volumes, so most often larvae act at this level. It is important to understand when lust arose, and this happens for two energetic reasons. Firstly, a person has excess energy. Secondly, most likely, he became a victim of a larva, which seeks to “spoil” him by losing energy. And here it is important to clearly define that the desire to spend energy is not your desire, but the desire of the “larva”, which skillfully manipulates our thoughts and motivations. It is important to disidentify this desire with yourself and understand that this is the manipulation of the “larva”. However, the larva did not appear just like that. At the level of the second chakra, a person has accumulated energy, and then a larva appears that wants to consume this energy. Thus, to solve the problem of lust, one should raise the energy from the second chakra higher. Let's talk about how to do this further.

The second reason is mental.

As already mentioned, for a number of reasons, in modern society, motivations for sexual pleasures are deliberately created. The fashion for early and “free” sexual relations is being promoted. If a person from an early age regularly wastes energy on sexual entertainment, by the age of 25–30 he will simply waste all his potential. Moreover, he simply will not be able to develop adequately, because what kind of development can we talk about if the energy regularly merges at the second chakra? The fact is that if the energy does not rise above the second chakra, then human consciousness is unlikely to ever be able to rise above primitive animal instincts. And this, again, is very beneficial, because people with this level of consciousness are easier to manage and manipulate.

It is worth noting that high intelligence and creativity, as well as the ability to meditate and engage in serious spiritual practices, are due to the activity of the pineal gland. And its peculiarity is that it grows rapidly in childhood and exactly until puberty begins. Thus, the earlier a person begins to be interested in sexual pleasures, the less likely it is that he will develop harmoniously and generally achieve anything in this life. That is why the cult of sex is especially actively inculcated among teenagers. Also, the pineal gland produces the hormone melatonin, which helps restore and rejuvenate body cells. And the higher a person’s sexual activity, the more inhibited the function of the pineal gland is, and due to melatonin deficiency, the person ages faster and begins to get sick. For these and many other reasons, the cult of sex is implanted in society.

Constant involuntary concentration on the topic of sexual relations leads to the fact that this becomes the main motivation of a person. According to the principle “what you think about is what you become.” Advertising with naked bodies constantly motivates us not so much to buy a product, but rather leads us to constantly concentrate on the corresponding images. Today it is difficult to find a film or series where the theme of vulgarity is not present and the corresponding scenes are not shown. This also does not happen by chance. Thus, in order to defeat lust, you should protect your consciousness as much as possible from relevant information. First of all, stop watching TV. If you at least watch movies on the Internet instead, this will already protect a person from a large amount of harmful information. Ideally, stop watching movies altogether.

You should also limit communication with people who are fixated on the topic of sex. Firstly, there is also an energetic aspect, because in the process of communication we exchange energy, and the energy of a sexually preoccupied person will bring the same motivations into our lives. Secondly, conversations on such topics again lead to a concentration on base instincts. If it is impossible to avoid such communication due to reasons beyond a person’s control, then you should try to change the topic of conversation or not get involved in the process of such discussions.

If lustful thoughts arise in the mind involuntarily, then you should “educate” your mind. It is important not to try to fight these thoughts, because when you fight, you will only concentrate on it even more. We attract not only what we like, but also what we don’t like. Therefore, when trying to fight these thoughts, you will, on the contrary, see around you only things related in one way or another to lust, and this will lead to nothing but irritation and disharmony. What to do? You need to try to redirect your attention. Don't fight unnecessary thoughts. And cultivate useful thoughts in yourself. So, in a garden bed regularly cultivated by a farmer, there is simply no room for weeds. But simply removing weeds without sowing anything in return is a stupid and pointless activity. By occupying your mind with some positive thoughts or reflections, you simply will not leave room for lust.

The third reason for lust is karmic

Oddly enough, lust can also be due to karmic reasons. By and large, everything in our lives is, one way or another, determined by karma, and lust is no exception. Any human addiction has a karmic component. A person gets hooked on some bad habit only because he himself previously got someone hooked on the same thing, or, in extreme cases, something similar. There are many examples in life of how alcohol sellers regularly drink alcohol themselves, and how computer game sellers spend their time playing “shooting games” all day long. Thus, such karma often manifests itself even during one life. But, one way or another, the fact remains - if a person has ever made his business on some kind of human passion, he himself will “get hooked” on this passion.

Thus, the karmic reason for lust may be that the person himself previously contributed to someone else’s degradation through sexual entertainment. Moreover, it is not necessary that he made a business out of it. Perhaps he simply transmitted similar motivations to the society around him. Therefore, when someone tries to bother you with conversations on such topics, do not rush to get angry, most likely, you yourself have been in this person’s shoes before and told people the same thing. And in order to untie the karmic knot, you should try to explain to the person what harm he causes to himself and others. By the way, this is the way to solve the karmic cause of lust - spread knowledge about self-development, a healthy lifestyle and methods of dealing with such addictions, then sooner or later you will create for yourself the kind of karma that will allow you to defeat lust.

The third reason for lust is karmic

Love and lust from a scientific point of view

Psychologists and sexologists interpret the concept of love as a long-term attraction with a deep sense of emotional attachment to another person. Lust is a physical attraction with an overwhelming feeling of sexual desire due to the active production of hormones.

In the 1990s, a group of scientists led by biological anthropologist Helen Fisher studied the science of lust and love. The researchers decided to divide romantic love as a mental phenomenon into three categories: lust, enduring attraction and attachment, since each of these feelings, as it turned out, has its own difference in brain chemical signals.

It turns out that passion, fueled solely by the thirst for sexual satisfaction, releases testosterone with estrogen, that is, hormones that increase the individual's libido. Desire beyond sex triggers the release of neurotransmitters such as dopamine and norepinephrine, which can lead to feelings of elation, as well as loss of appetite and decreased need for sleep.

Attachment or “concomitant love”, compared to lust and attraction, is safer, more reasonable, longer lasting, and this is associated with the production of the hormones oxytocin and vasopressin.

What is lust?

Imagine you are in a bar...

You notice a beautiful woman. Suddenly you are completely focused on her, you feel horny and you know you have to spend the night with her. Everything about her is attractive to you, and the only goal is to get her as quickly as possible. It doesn't matter to you whether she is interesting, has a sense of humor, is confident or shy. The only thing that matters is that you feel sexually attracted to her and you want to kiss her and have sex with her.

On the other hand, she may also notice you and feel attracted to you, but she does not yet feel the same strong lust as you. Why?

Women are not attracted to men for the same reasons that men are attracted to women.

In other words, while a man will feel attracted to a woman based on her appearance alone, most women also need to experience a man's personality before she feels completely attracted to him.

For example: a guy can be very handsome and from afar a woman can feel sexually attracted to him.

However, if he approaches her and acts nervous, insecure, or if he puts on a fake persona and pretends to be better than he really is, the woman's initial attraction to him will disappear.

On the other hand, a woman may notice a guy and not feel strongly attracted to him, but when he approaches her and behaves in ways that are naturally attractive to a woman (e.g., confident, masculine, charming), he will attract her wish.

The Science of Lust

On a scientific level, lust is simply explained as a bunch of hormones surging through the body to ensure that the fittest of the species, i.e. the most beautiful woman and the strongest (not physically but emotionally) man, will come together and ensure the optimal survival of the human race .

Basically, that initial feeling of lust you feel when you first interact with a beautiful woman is when the sex hormones testosterone and estrogen come into play.

Your stress response is then activated and adrenaline and cortisol are pumped into your body, causing your palms to sweat.

The final hormone associated with lust is serotonin, which scientists believe causes a person to act as if they are temporarily insane.

This helps explain why, when a couple is in the initial stages of lust (anywhere from 2 months to 2 years), they act as if they are crazy.

What is love?

So let's go back to the woman you first lusted after at the bar. After the initial stages of lust and passion, something strange starts happening between you and her. The more you get to know each other on an emotional level, the more you start to like each other as people. You realize that you not only feel physically attracted to each other, but you also begin to care about the other person's happiness and life experiences.

What is the difference between love and lust?

• Love is more universal in its meaning, while lust is physical.

• Love involves affection and compassion, while lust involves sensuality.

• Love can be used in different meanings. Lust can only be used for one primary meaning.

• Love refers to otherworldly pleasures, while passion refers to material pleasures.

Here are some of the main differences between the two words love and lust. In writing they must be used carefully.

It is useless to resist sins

Major sins or root sins (lat. peccata capitalia) is a term used in Catholic theology to describe the fundamental vices that underlie many other sins: pride (vanity), greed, envy, anger, lust, gluttony, laziness or despondency.
In the Eastern Christian tradition, they are usually called the seven deadly sins.

Mortal sins are not based on biblical texts and are not a direct revelation of God; they appeared in the texts of theologians later.

This “set” began to be considered generally accepted only from the 13th century, when the greatest Christian theologian Thomas Aquinas slightly rewrote it. Moreover, specific vices were singled out from all others not because they are the most serious, but because they inevitably entail other sins, which already number in the dozens.

From the point of view of the clergy, any mortal sin is the most serious of all possible sins, which can only be expiated by repentance. For committing a mortal sin, a person’s soul may lose the opportunity to go to heaven.

But is it really possible to never give in to these temptations? Spanish biologist John Medina , in his book “The Gene and the Seven Deadly Sins,” published several years ago, believes that resisting sins is useless, because in our misdeeds there are echoes of animal instincts that still live in the human consciousness.

1. Laziness (despondency, apathy, idleness)

How can laziness be explained from a biological point of view? According to Medina, “every person has something like an alarm clock consciousness, working like a clock and sending us signals from the brain.” And it is this internal “alarm clock” that creates a schedule for us according to which our body should live.

And the program itself, which turns the “bell” on and off, is written in the genes. Therefore, they - genes - bear full responsibility for our reluctance to work, idleness or despondency.

And in general, you won’t live long without laziness. People simply need to indulge in some idleness from time to time to “recharge their batteries.” Each of us can remember cases when fruitful ideas and solutions came to our minds in those moments when we were completely detached from the hard work of searching for them.

Moreover, sociological research by German professor Peter Axt showed that lazy people and idle people often live longer and work better when they want. Many of them even become geniuses.

Bottom line: in “certain doses,” it is laziness that allows you to leisurely think through important decisions and preserve vitality for future accomplishments.

2. Gluttony (gluttony)

Hunger, according to the scientist, is a feeling that “appears in us when the human body begins to lack energy.”

And we are pushed toward sinful consumption of food by “the taste buds and the hormone leptin located in the nose and tongue.” Leptin is responsible for human appetite and is in constant contact with one of the parts of the brain - the hypothalamus.

This area of our gray matter acts as a warning siren and immediately notifies us when the body lacks energy and needs to refresh itself. Something like Pavlov's conditioned signal for people.

Bottom line: gluttony does not cause significant harm to anyone except the food lover himself.

3. Anger (revenge, rage)

The best genetic explanation for this sin comes from twin experiments conducted by biological scientists. It has been discovered that if one of the brothers is angry, then with a high degree of probability it can be argued that the other will also be aggressive. So anger is in the genes. Moreover, it was originally laid down.

Some to a greater extent, others to a lesser extent. “There is a kind of neurological pathway that connects the amygdala to the hypothalamus,” Medina explains. “It is responsible for sending impulses to other parts of the brain to transmit information about aggressive behavior to them. And this biological “code of anger” is passed on from generation to generation.”

For what? In a primitive society such a question would not have arisen. Only “animal anger” helped to survive in fierce competition. Over time, people have developed areas of the brain - its anterior parts, responsible for suppressing aggression and controlling emotions such as anger and rage. But not so much as to completely suppress them.

Bottom line: nature has left us with the ability to be angry and angry for a reason. “White and fluffy”, as a rule, lose to the “aggressors” and never become leaders. It is sometimes useful to fly into a rage, if only to protect your own interests.

4. Greed (greed, stinginess)

From a psychological point of view, greed is an obsessive but natural struggle for ownership. No one has been able to identify the specific part of the brain directly responsible for greed. And the genes that determine two factors underlying this sin - fear and anxiety - have been identified.

Dr. Medina points to "five major areas of the brain that are responsible for the emergence of greedy feelings: the thalamus, amygdala (amygdala), hippocampus, cerebral cortex and amygdala."

And recent experiments by researchers from New York University not only confirmed the Spanish scientist’s assumption, but also clarified the location of the “centers of stinginess.” They found out which part of the human brain is excited in anticipation of monetary reward.

Observing the brain activity of volunteers who participated in a real computer game for money in laboratory conditions, researchers noticed that when signs of winning appear, the flow of oxygen-rich blood to an area called the “nucleus accumbens” increases. When the player was in danger of losing, this phenomenon was not observed.

Bottom line: there is nothing wrong with the fact that you do not want to share everything you have acquired and earned with anyone.

5. Envy (jealousy)

Envy and similar experiences, as a rule, do not cause any active action. These are “internal” feelings. It is dangerous when they enter the aggressive stage.

After all, envy arose in the course of evolution as a biologically necessary reaction of our consciousness to the differences between individual people in the degree of their evolutionary “advancement.” In fact, there is an element of motivation in envy: you envy, and this pushes you to new achievements, new achievements. And jealousy allows you to defend your right to the object of love or achieve it.

Bottom line: There’s nothing wrong with wanting to outdo your competitors—it doesn’t matter whether it’s business or personal life. And if without envy you would not move from your place, then, with envy, you are ready to move mountains.

6. Arrogance (pride, pride)

The biblical sin of arrogance is evidence of a typical human feeling of inferiority. Dr. Medina Fr. And the root of this sin lies in one of the genes called CaM-kII. He, according to the scientist, arouses our ambitions and arrogance.

In addition, psychologists argue that pride and self-esteem are essential components of the feeling that a person is living a happy and successful life.

Bottom line: people who love and honor themselves very much are very harmless by nature, and in some cases even very generous. They can arrogantly lend a large amount of money and will be proud of their lordly deed for a long time.

7. Lust (lust, fornication, debauchery)

Well, what is harmful in the intercourse of two bodies that find each other among six billion? At a minimum, this can bring pleasure, at a maximum, it can cause the birth of another earthling. The causes of sin associated with sexual activity lie in “special parts of the brain, in the action of almost thirty different biochemical mechanisms and more than a hundred special genes responsible for this process.”

Indeed, back at the end of the 20th century, scientists established for sure that intimate life is literally saturated with special chemicals. The substance dopamine gives rise to sexual fantasies. Serotonin causes people to experience sweet longing in anticipation of, during, and after intimacy.

The hormone alpha-melanocyte, which is produced by the pituitary gland, excites the genitals. The hormone oxytocin causes partners to have an irresistible desire to caress each other and leads to delightful convulsions during orgasm. The hormone estrogen, which is produced by the ovaries in women, causes desire.

And finally, the hormone testosterone, without which intercourse would be impossible. In men it is produced in the testicles, and in women in the ovaries. A real biochemical laboratory is inside each of us! And it is impossible to close it, just as it is impossible to stop the movement of the planets around the Sun.

Bottom line: we have a healthy instinct to pass on our genes to the next generation. Can lust then be considered a sin?

How to distinguish love from lust: 8 signs

What are the differences between lust and love? Based on these differences, you can quite easily determine what kind of feeling you are filled with - momentary infatuation or genuine love.

Any passionate relationship is based on a person's selfish desire to possess, and this often indicates a lack of respect for the individuality of the partner. These relationships are not destined to last long because they are dominated by primitive and easily achievable goals. People who love always strive to satisfy their partner’s desires, look for a compromise and are ready to change so that their other half is happy.
You can distinguish love from passion by the duration of the relationship. Fleeting passion passes as soon as one of the partners ceases to be interested in the other. And love stays with a person for many years. If after some time you lose interest in a person who you used to really like, then it was just a hobby.
Fleeting passionate euphoria occurs due to pheromones that have a short-term effect on our body. And therefore it is very fleeting if it is not fueled by love.
An important distinguishing factor is the emotional coloring of these feelings. Passion is characterized by fury, uncontrollability and power. Love is characterized by deep meaningfulness and calmness.
When a person loves, he wants to know everything about his soul mate, to be imbued with everything that she or he lives with. The main thing that distinguishes love from passion is genuine interest in a partner. A person experiencing loving affection is ready to put up with some of the shortcomings of his chosen one.
A person in love is characterized by patience. He will wait long and patiently for his happiness, living in hopes of a future together, making every effort to achieve this. A person overwhelmed by passion, on the contrary, lives one day at a time, not caring about the relationship developing further.
Only a smile, simple communication, a telephone conversation brings joy to a loving person. The aspirations of a person gripped by passion are aimed primarily at pleasing himself by satisfying his physical needs. When a person receives this, he quickly loses all interest in the object of his passionate desires. People who are only passionate about their partner can easily become irritated by divergent interests.
It happens that passionate attraction arises in relation to several objects. Love can only be directed at one person (the only one).

Where does lust come from?

Lust is an unnatural movement of the soul that expresses its damaged nature. Any sin or passion can be called lust. All these words are synonyms. Lust is born from the internal contradiction of a person’s spiritual nature and the physical needs dictated by his flesh.

According to the teachings of the Holy Fathers, three types of carnal movements can occur in our body:

Natural (natural). It only reveals itself by its presence, but does not conflict with the soul and conscience of a person.
Heat of blood. Occurs from eating and drinking too much. Incites warfare against the soul, moving it towards the desires of the flesh (lusts).
From evil spirits. Because of envy, they try to lead Christian ascetics away from the path of salvation, instilling in them impure desires.

A person who devotes his life to satisfying his desires forgets about the true (spiritual) destiny prepared for him by God

When sexual desire takes perverted forms

Normally, any person has an innate sexual attraction to a member of the opposite sex. But lust is lust that can pervert it, turning it into a constant need for sex, which does not recognize any conditions or barriers.

Allowing this to develop, a person gets stuck in the ability to receive momentary pleasures, gradually descending to perverted needs and sometimes not even understanding why he is so drawn to minors, old people, dead people, animals and other endless lists that can interest a psychiatrist. But it all starts with indulging your desires!

Lust through the eyes of sexology

Lust includes everything related to depraved acts and immoderate desire for sex, as well as its perverted forms, orgies and other sexual deviations. But sexologists, by virtue of their profession, have to be loyal to other people’s weaknesses.

They give one main criterion for the “normality” of what is happening: everything should happen voluntarily, by mutual agreement and be pleasant for both. And, of course, between two adults. From this point of view, we can say that their criteria are close to the requirements of the law.

That is, society, through the forces of public morality, legal and medical norms, is trying to keep people from the unbridled manifestation of lust and moral decline. You can even find interesting advice on the topic: how to cope with excessive voluptuousness.

Brain during orgasm

The genitals, like any other part of the body, contain a large number of nerve endings (more than 8,000 of them were found in the clitoris alone). They are all connected to large nerves that run throughout the body to the spinal cord and brain. For example, the hypogastric nerve is connected to the uterus and cervix in women and to the prostate gland in men; pelvic nerve - with the vagina and cervix in women and with the rectum in both sexes; pudendal nerve - with the female clitoris and with the scrotum and penis in men; vagus nerve - with the uterus, cervix and vagina. All of these nerves are activated during sex and communicate with those areas of the brain that are responsible for pleasure, in particular:

- with the amygdala, which regulates emotions;

- with the nucleus accumbens, which controls the release of dopamine;

- with the ventral tegmental area, which releases dopamine;

- with the cerebellum, which controls muscle functions;

- with the pituitary gland, which produces beta-endorphins, which reduce pain, oxytocin, which increases feelings of trust, and vasopressin, which increases emotional intimacy.

How to conquer your lust

For those who notice a tendency towards lust in themselves and want to get rid of it, you can try the following:

You need to learn to extinguish vulgar thoughts and avoid what tempts you. Lust is like other bad habits, and if you take control of it, it can be successfully fought. Stop watching pornography, don’t go to those places where your base instinct feels free.
Respect yourself and those around you. In this case, your reason and common sense will not allow you to behave uncontrollably and offensively towards anyone. And you will not allow yourself to blindly follow your desires.
Drugs and alcohol relax and remove boundaries. Avoid them and you will be in better control.
Take your needs for granted; they are normal for an adult. Just remember to have a sense of proportion and learn not to give in to your thoughts.
If the temptation is too strong, try to distract yourself. Sometimes it is enough to shift your gaze, and the “spell” dissipates.
Find yourself an interesting activity as a hobby, then there will simply be no time left for unwanted thoughts.

Fighting lust

Do not be alarmed if you suddenly realize that you are a lustful person. I repeat once again: lust lives in each of us. We can fight it, we can curb it. How? I'll explain now.

First of all, society helps us. Its social morality determines our behavior. The legal side protects us from criminal acts. Medicine prevents deviations by giving clear diagnoses of pathological manifestations. Try this:

Negation. Accept yourself with your secret desires and fantasies. You are you. You don't become worse because you love some things that are considered wrong.
Put out the fire. Try to avoid things that make you lustful. Don't watch porn, stop going to strip bars, stop going to kinky parties. Think of lust as an allergy. You won’t eat oranges, even if you love them very much, but you’re allergic to them? So it is here.
Respect for others. Behave with restraint towards others. Don’t let go of your hands, for example, even though that ass over there is begging for a spanking. And it doesn’t matter who you are: a guy or a girl. Don't try to seduce the first person you meet either by playing with your biceps or by secretly demonstrating your lack of panties.

Bad habits. We are talking about alcohol and soft drugs. These two habits completely demolish the tower and cut off the brakes. When you're high, you can chop so much wood that you're not far from the loop.
Keep yourself busy with something interesting. It is advisable to be difficult so that you only have the strength to crawl to bed. Do you remember how Celentano struggled with lust? I chopped wood. You can do the same...

Is there any benefit to lust?

The benefit, like the harm of something, is always conditional. What one finds useful, another sincerely considers harmful. Even the same product can be both beneficial and harmful at the same time, depending on the quantity.

The benefits of lust are also twofold. In moderate doses outside the marital bedroom, it is appropriate, acceptable and helps maintain mutual interest. In this case, lust is the very “wood” for the fire of love and passion. In this context, both sex toys and erotic lingerie will be acceptable.

According to psychologists, up to 40% of marriages break up due to sexual incompatibility of the spouses. Perhaps if one of the two had become more liberated, the family could have been saved.

Traditionally, men are considered more prone to lust. For some of them, the desire for sex overshadows all others. Looking at them, you begin to wonder where this man will find the meaning of life if he loses the ability to have an erection.

Expert opinion

However, aside from brain chemistry, which cannot be tested on your own, how can you tell if what you're feeling is love or a fleeting sexual attraction? Simone Humphrey, Doctor of Psychology, and Signe Simon, Doctor of Philosophy, conducted many years of joint work in which they analyzed the differences in the behavior, sensations, and desires of a person in a state of exclusively sexual attraction and real deep love. Some of their findings will help you understand exactly what feelings you are experiencing.

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