Human life is surrounded by stress and resentment. People often face injustice and aggression, which cause a response in the form of anger and rage. Without realizing it, people begin to hate their enemies, causing them irreparable harm, but at the same time harming themselves because they become bitter, sowing chaos and dark anger in their souls. People close to them also begin to suffer from this. Some try to relieve this illness with the help of alcohol, others use the advice of a neighbor or psychologist. But in spiritual culture there are more effective methods - these are Orthodox prayers for anger and irritation.
How to prepare and read a prayer
it is necessary to retire to a separate room so that no one is distracted during prayer. Here's the procedure:
- You must understand that prayer is communication with God and his helpers.
- Place one or more icons next to each other.
- Light a candle.
- Close your eyes and concentrate if you know the prayer by heart. Or simply bring the text of the prayer in front of you and, trying to more accurately understand its meaning, read it sincerely.
- Read this prayer several times.
- Be quiet, listen to yourself.
- If you feel uneasy, repeat the prayer a few more times.
Prayer from anger and anger to Ephraim the Syrian
Anger in the Christian tradition is considered one of the main sins of man. Orthodox prayer is the cure for this mental illness. The prayer of St. Ephraim the Syrian helps especially effectively in the fight against anger and irritation. During his lifetime, Ephraim himself was a hot-tempered person, but through persistent spiritual work and with God’s help he acquired the gift of kindness and humility. And using the experience and gifts of this comrade, you can heal from illness and find peace of mind.
O Saint of Christ, our father Ephraim! Take our prayer to the merciful and almighty God and ask us, the servants of God (names), that all His goodness will be for the good of our souls and bodies: righteous faith, hopeless, love is not hypocritical, meekness and meekness, courage in temptation, patience in suffering , godliness, perfection. Let us not turn the gifts of the All-Good God into evil. Do not forget, miraculous saint, both this holy temple (house) and our parish: keep them and protect them with your prayers from all evil. Hey, holy God, grant us a good end, and we will inherit the Kingdom of Heaven, but we glorify God in His saints, in all glory, honor and power, forever and ever. Amen.
Prayers to Nicholas the Wonderworker
People often face injustice and aggression, which cause a response in the form of anger and rage. Orthodox prayers make it possible to fight these ailments, and for this it is necessary to turn to the Lord, the Most Holy Theotokos and the saints with a request for help and support. In the everyday bustle, when faced with manifestations of anger and rage, it is better not to pay the attacker in the same coin, but to read a short prayer to yourself several times. Doing this often will increase the power of prayer and the looming clouds of conflict will quickly dissipate. But the main thing in this case is not to rely on laurels, but to continue prayerful work.
Prayer for anger
Wonderworker Nicholas, calm my excessive anger, clear the wrong path. They will be done. Amen.
Prayer for Anger
Wonderworker Nicholas, pacify my anger and attack, do not leave me in the abyss of sin. They will be done. Amen.
How to take control of the situation
- Understand that cultivating a problem and feeding it with negative emotions is a dead-end path that only leads to self-destruction.
- Consider the situation from different angles and learn lessons, take the offense as self-motivation. For example, lose weight, read books, learn a language, improve professional skills (depending on what the problem is related to).
- Determine for yourself why the person offended: if it was not done on purpose, then you should forgive your friend, and if it was done on purpose, break off the relationship. And in general, if possible, avoid toxic people.
- Continue to work proactively: prevent situations that could end in negative emotions, and do not allow yourself to be drawn into them. Smile, ignore and remain silent. At first it is very difficult to do this, but if you practice, you will succeed.
Prayer to the icon “Softening Hearts”
Remembering the terrible evil of destructive power, the believer must try to soften his heart. For this purpose, Orthodoxy has the icon “Softening Hearts” (“Seven-shot”). When reading a prayer, the heart of the person praying gradually thaws and warms up and acquires the ability to transmit rays of light and goodness. Of course, the feeling of anger is very persistent and does not immediately let go of the heart, but patient and persistent prayer work gives good results. Bitterness recedes, a person softens and gradually opens up to spiritual truths.
Akathist to the Mother of God in honor of her miraculous icon “Softening Hearts”
O long-suffering Mother of God, surpassing all the daughters of the earth with her purity and the multitude of sufferings you endured on earth, greet our many painful sighs and keep us under the cover of Your mercy. We are no other refuge and fervent intercession for you, but, as if you had courage towards Him who was born of you, help us and save us with your prayers, so that we can without hesitation reach the Kingdom of Heaven, where from all the saints we Let us sing in the Trinity to the one God from now on and forever and ever. Amen.
Soften our evil hearts, Mother of God, and extinguish the misfortunes of those who hate us, and resolve all constraint in our souls.
We are touched by your holy image, we look at you with your suffering and mercy, and we kiss your wounds, but we are afraid of our arrows that torment you. Do not give us (names), Merciful Mother, in our hard-heartedness and in the hard-heartedness of those close to us, fight against truly evil hearts that are softening to destruction. Amen.
Texts of strong prayers for those who hate and offend us in Russian
They pray to the Mother of God in front of her icons for a merciful attitude towards ill-wishers. Saints Ephraim the Syrian, Tikhon of Zadonsk, Silouan of Zadonsk composed prayers to the Lord, in which there is a direct appeal to the Heavenly King to forgive those who hate and offend us.
Mother of God
O who will not please You, O Blessed Virgin, who will not sing of Your mercy to the human race. We pray to you, we ask you, do not leave us perishing in evil, dissolve our hearts with love and send your arrow to our enemies, may our hearts be wounded by peace against those who persecute us. If the world hates us - You extend Your love to us, if the world persecutes us - You accept us, give us the grace-filled strength of patience - to endure the trials that happen in this world without grumbling. Oh, Lady! Soften the hearts of evil people who rise up against us, so that their hearts do not perish in evil - but pray, O Blessed One, Thy Son and our God, may he pacify their hearts with peace, but let the devil - the father of evil - be put to shame! We, singing Thy mercy towards us, the evil, the indecent, will sing to Thee, O Most Wonderful Lady of the Blessed Virgin, hear us at this hour, those who have contrite hearts, protect us with peace and love for each other and for our enemies, eradicate from us all malice and enmity, let us sing to You and Your Son, our Lord Jesus Christ: Alleluia! Hallelujah! Hallelujah!
Ephraim the Syrian
Have mercy, Lord, on those who hate me and envy me! Have mercy, Lord, on those who slander me and cause me offense! Do not do anything evil to them for Your unworthy servant; but according to Their ineffable mercy and according to Their immeasurable goodness, neither in this life nor in the next century, may they not tolerate evil for me, a sinner! Sanctify them with Your mercy and autumn with Your grace, O All-Good One, because before all, blessed are You forever and ever. Amen.
Before the icon of the Mother of God “Tenderness”
Accept, O all-good and mighty most pure Lady, Lady of God, Mother of God, these precious gifts, which alone are due to You, from us, Your unworthy servants, chosen from all generations, who appeared to be the highest of all creations of heaven and earth! Indeed, thanks to You, the Lord of Powers is now with us, and through You we have come to know the Son of God and have been rewarded with His holy Body and His most pure Blood. Therefore, blessed are You in the generations of generations, having acquired bliss in God, brightest of the Cherubim, and highest in honor of the Seraphim. And now, all-praiseworthy Most Holy Theotokos, do not cease to pray for us, Thy unworthy servants, so that we may be delivered from every evil advice and from every misfortune, and remain unharmed from every poisonous attack of the devil. But even to the end, through Your prayers, without condemnation, preserve us, so that, saved by Your intercession and help, we, for all glory, praise, thanksgiving and worship, send up in the Trinity the one God and the Creator of all, now and always, and forever and ever. Amen.
Saint Tikhon of Zadonsk
Lord of love, who prayed for those who crucified You, and commanded Your disciples to pray for their enemies! Forgive those who hate and offend us, and turn from all evil and deceit to a brotherly and virtuous life, we humbly offer a prayer to You: that in unanimity we may glorify You, the only Lover of Mankind.
Silouan of Athos
Lord, grant Your peace to Your people. Lord, grant to Your servants Your Holy Spirit, so that He will warm their hearts with Your love and guide them into all truth and goodness. Lord, grant them Your grace, so that in peace and love they may know You, and love You, and say, like the apostles on Tabor: “It is good for us, Lord, to be with You.” Warm the sad hearts of people; let them glorify You in joy, forgetting the sorrows of the earth. O good Comforter, I tearfully ask You, comfort the sorrowful souls of Your people. Let all Your people understand Your love and the sweetness of the Holy Spirit, may people forget the sorrows of the earth, and may they leave all bad things and cling to You with love, and may they live in peace, doing Your will for Your glory.
Akathist to Grand Duchess Olga
Troparion, tone 1
Having fixed your mind with the wings of God's understanding, you flew above visible creatures, seeking God and the Creator of all things, and, having found Him, you received rebirth through Baptism, enjoying the animal tree, remaining incorruptible forever, Olgo, ever-glorious.
Kontakion, tone 4
Let us sing today to God, the Benefactor of all, who glorified the God-wise Olga in our land, and through her prayers he will grant remission of sins to our souls.
Kontakion 1
First-chosen of our entire family, more glorious and equal to the apostles, let us praise the saint of God, Olga, as at the dawn, in the darkness of idolatry, the light of faith arose and showed the way to Christ to her people. You, who have boldness towards the Lord who has glorified you, protect us from all troubles with your prayers, so we call you: Rejoice, holy Equal-to-the-Apostles Princess Olga, God-wise.
Ikos 1
Creator of angels and men, who has placed times and seasons in His power and governed the destinies of kingdoms and peoples according to His will, when you desire to enlighten our race with Holy Baptism, then, seeing the good will of your heart, calling you first into the knowledge of Himself, so that you may be an image for your people and a teacher in the Christian faith. For this reason, we praise you:
Rejoice, morning star, foretold from the First-Called Apostle on the mountains of Kyiv.
Rejoice, wonderful growth of trees, not the great tree of orthodoxy on the earth of our age.
Rejoice, our first teacher and enlightener.
Rejoice, for through your knowledge we worship the Creator in the Trinity.
Rejoice, for for your sake the most holy name of the Lord is glorified by everyone.
Rejoice, for your glorious name, together with Equal-to-the-Apostles Vladimir, is praised throughout the world.
Rejoice, our country is a spiritual treasure.
Rejoice, glorious adornment to the whole Church of Christ.
Rejoice, great kindness from the cities of Kyiv and Pskov.
Rejoice, good helper to our people against their enemies.
Rejoice, holy Equal-to-the-Apostles Princess Olga, God-wise.
Kontakion 2
Seeing you, Saint Olgo, like a weed of thorns: you were born into paganism, and you have always had the law of God written in your heart, and you have thy chastity like the apple of your eye, we sing with gratitude to God, wondrous in His saints: Alleluia .
Ikos 2
With your mind you know all good things, O God-wise Olgo, that idols created by human hands are not gods; Moreover, having rejected you, you tried to know the true God. For this reason, praising your prudence, we cry out to you:
Rejoice, good woman, who first of all knew the error of your people and understood the futility of idolatry.
Rejoice, you who diligently sought the true knowledge of God and the right faith.
Rejoice, having lived righteously before understanding the law of God according to the law of conscience.
Rejoice, having done deeds befitting a Christian before accepting the Christian faith.
Rejoice, thou who bravely defended thy power from the invasion of the adversary.
Rejoice, you who created righteous judgments in the people subordinate to you.
Rejoice, honored with royal glory on earth and in heaven.
Rejoice, for you, Equal to the Apostles, glorified by God.
Rejoice, holy Equal-to-the-Apostles Princess Olga, God-wise.
Kontakion 3
Moved by the power of God's grace, you, God-wise Olgo, strived to reach Constantinople, where you beheld the beauty of the church's splendor and listened to the teachings of the Divine words, and you were inflamed with all your heart in the love of Christ, crying out to Him in gratitude: Alleluia.
Ikos 3
Having a heart like a good land, you have conveniently accepted, Olgo, the seed of the holy faith, having come to know Christ the True God. In the same way, you also received Holy Baptism from the hand of the Patriarch of Constantinople, who also predicted that from now on your people would have blessings for you. If we want to fulfill this prophecy, we cry out to you:
Rejoice, you who escaped endless destruction by faith.
Rejoice, you who have acquired eternal life in Christ.
Rejoice, spiritually born by the grace of the Holy Spirit.
Rejoice, intelligent turtledove, who flew away from the claws of the soul-destroying corvid.
Rejoice, you who flew under the wing of the Heavenly Eagle.
Rejoice, you who brought with you many souls to Christ through Baptism.
Rejoice, with undoubted faith illuminating the light that comes from your venerable relics.
Rejoice, you who give to the souls and bodies of those who benefit.
Rejoice, holy Equal-to-the-Apostles Princess Olga, God-wise.
Kontakion 4
Why do we not marvel at your prudence, Olgo, blessed, for you wisely rejected the proposal of the king of the Hellenes to marry him, resolving to him: “I did not come for the sake of marriage, and not for the sake of reigning with you, but let me be dismayed by Baptism to the Immortal Bridegroom Christ God, Whom above all My soul loves everything, and from now on I will never stop singing to Him: Alleluia.”
Ikos 4
Having heard from the Patriarch who baptized you a parting word about purity, fasting, prayer and all the virtues befitting a Christian, you put this in your heart to fulfill all the deeds you promised. Therefore, out of duty, we sing to you:
Rejoice, having cleared the field of your heart from the thorns of soul-harming passions.
Rejoice, you who have watered me with tears of repentance.
Rejoice, for the seed of the word of God has taken root in your heart, for it has taken root in the good earth.
Rejoice, having immaculately preserved your widowhood purity.
Rejoice, having pleased God through abstinence and prayer.
Rejoice, having propitiated the Creator with alms.
Rejoice, you who provided the needs of the poor and needy.
Rejoice, you who foresaw the enlightenment of your land with the light of Christ’s teaching.
Rejoice, holy Equal-to-the-Apostles Princess Olga, God-wise.
Kontakion 5
Having clothed yourself with the richly woven garment of Holy Baptism and the incorruptible food of the Most Pure Body and Blood of Christ, having been spiritually strengthened, O blessed One, you were not afraid of the desire of your unfaithful compatriots, our ancestor, to preach to them the One True God, to whom now our whole earth, as one mouth, sings: Alleluia .
Ikos 5
Seeing, Saint Olgo, all the people of your land immersed in the darkness of idolatry, you zealously tried to enlighten you with the light of Christ’s faith and create sons of the day and heirs of the Kingdom of Heaven. Remembering your great care for them, we gratefully call to you:
Rejoice, wise ruler of your people.
Rejoice, the first of Christians to imitate Queen Helena in Divine zeal.
Rejoice, and you who received your name in Holy Baptism.
Rejoice, you who brought the Honorable Cross of Christ and holy icons from Constantinople to the city of Kyiv.
Rejoice, you who brought priests and clergy with you.
Rejoice, who taught people with your wise words to leave the darkness of pagan wickedness and accept the light of Christian piety.
Rejoice, you who have enlightened many Russian people with the light of the faith of Christ.
Rejoice, first from our land to be counted among the saints.
Rejoice, holy Equal-to-the-Apostles Princess Olga, God-wise.
Kontakion 6
Imitating the spirit-bearing Apostle as a preacher, God-wise Olga, you went around the cities and towns of your empire, leading, very powerfully, people to the faith of Christ and teaching them to sing to the One glorified God in the Trinity: Alleluia.
Ikos 6
Confirming in your state the beginnings of the Christian faith, you created temples of God in the city of Kyiv and in the country of your birth, at the Velitsa River near the city of Pskov. And so the Russian people began to glorify Christ our God everywhere, and to you, their enlightener, sing laudably:
Rejoice, for you received pure teaching from the pure source of the Holy Catholic and Apostolic Church.
Rejoice, destroyer of idolatry and idols.
Rejoice, as did the First-Called Apostle, who went around her land preaching the Gospel.
Rejoice, in the place of your preaching you erected the Honest Crosses and from them many signs and wonders, assurances for the sake of the unbelievers, by the power of God.
Rejoice, for through you the All-Good Lord has revealed His knowledge to your people.
Rejoice, for through them you enlightened many other nations with the light of faith.
Rejoice, for from the root of your honor the Lord of the holy Ravpoapostolnogo Prince Vladimir showed us to eat.
Rejoice, for by the way of your life the holy Prince Vladimir was moved to accept the Christian faith.
Rejoice, holy Equal-to-the-Apostles Princess Olga, God-wise.
Kontakion 7
Wanting to save your son Svyatoslav from eternal destruction, you diligently exhorted him to abandon the veneration of idols and believe in the True God. But she did not heed your mother’s punishment and did not want to change her wickedness to piety. Moreover, as an infidel, I am alienated from eternal life and am not worthy to sing with you in the Heavenly Kingdom: Alleluia.
Ikos 7
The Lord showed you a new sign of His favor, when, in the image of the Most Holy Trinity, three bright rays from heaven fell on the place of the oak forest, which not only you saw, but all the people there saw, and together with you you glorified the Triune God. We, leading the fulfillment of your prophecy about the creation in this place of the temple of the Life-Giving Trinity and the city, please you:
Rejoice, great servant of God, honored with the gift of prophecy.
Rejoice, spectator of the Trisienna of Heavenly Light.
Rejoice, the all-good will of God for the enlightenment of our people, according to the Apostle Andrew, the first executor.
Rejoice, original founder of the city of Pskov.
Rejoice, intercessor and patroness of our country.
Rejoice, for by the will of God your people have been confirmed in the Orthodox faith.
Rejoice, for in your churches the Bloodless Sacrifice for people is offered to God and the praise of the Holy Trinity is sung.
Rejoice, for the inhabitants of the city of Kyiv and Pskov exalt and please you.
Rejoice, holy Equal-to-the-Apostles Princess Olga, God-wise.
Kontakion 8
Ending your earthly journey, you prayed to the warmth of the Lord, O blessed Olgo, that He may not leave your power after your repose in the darkness of ignorance, but may He place it on the hearts of your people to turn to God, so that they may sing to Him: Alleluia.
Ikos 8
Having been completely embraced by the grace of God, praiseworthy Olgo, you saw with your thoughts the enlightenment of all your people and prophetically predicted that many great saints of God, like bright stars, will shine in your land, which will come true by the will and grace of Almighty God. For this reason, out of duty, we sing to you:
Rejoice, our spiritual mother, who asked God for enlightenment by our forefathers.
Rejoice, for the All-Good Lord, the kindness of your soul was in vain, for your sake all your people loved you.
Rejoice, for you have found Christ a worthy vessel, through whom He began to pour out His grace to our land.
Rejoice, for thou shrewdly foresaw the greatness and glory of thy power.
Rejoice, for according to your prophecy, many holy things have arisen from our generation.
Rejoice, organizer of the house of the Life-Giving Trinity.
Rejoice, you who intercede for us in sorrows and misfortunes with your prayers.
Rejoice, you who preserve our Fatherland in evil circumstances and deliver us from enemies.
Rejoice, holy Equal-to-the-Apostles Princess Olga, God-wise.
Kontakion 9
Having been filled with all sorts of virtues, blessed Olgo, with prayer in her mouth, you gave up your spirit in the hand of God, who placed you in the heavenly abodes and was the first of our people to be numbered with the face of His equal-to-the-apostles saints. In the same way, ask the Lord for us to have a peaceful Christian death, so that we may surrender our souls into the hands of Christ our God, singing a song of praise to Him: Alleluia.
Ikos 9
Vegetations of multi-proclamation cannot adequately praise you, Olgo the God-wise: how you, taught and admonished by no one from man, knew the vanity of idolatry, but you sought the right faith and, like Equal-to-the-Apostles Helen, you found the priceless beads - Christ, who is now enjoying the sight of Him in heaven , do not forget us, darkened by the charms of this world and forgetting about the eternal blessings, yes, we are guided by you on the right path, we cry to you joyfully:
Rejoice, having prepared for yourself a dwelling place of Divine grace through your good deeds and right will of mind and heart.
Rejoice, for the Holy Spirit Himself was your teacher, leading you to know Christ the Son of God.
Rejoice, you who saw no signs or wonders and believed in Christ.
Rejoice, you who have shown perfect submission to the will of God and who have appeared obedient to the voice of grace that called you.
Rejoice, having labored since the eleventh hour in the city of the Lord and received wages with the first.
Rejoice, for the Lord has made you wise to combine royal honor, wealth and glory with Christian humility.
Rejoice, for in this way you have clearly shown us that earthly blessings are not an obstacle to God-loving souls achieving heavenly blessings.
Rejoice, having received the gift from God through the strength of faith and the purity of life of your prophecy.
Rejoice, holy Equal-to-the-Apostles Princess Olga, God-wise.
Kontakion 10
Arranging the path of salvation for your people and fulfilling your dying request, the All-Good Lord will grow in your grandson Vladimir the seed of faith you planted and through him enlighten our entire land with holy Baptism. Therefore, we glorify you, blessed Olgo, as the first culprit of our enlightenment with the light of the holy faith, and we tenderly sing to Christ our Savior: Alleluia.
Ikos 10
Having received Holy Baptism, your grandson Vladimir tried to remove from the earth your incorruptible relics, filled with a wonderful fragrance, and with Saint Leontius and all the multitude of people, I placed them in the Church of the Most Pure Mother of God, and from there began to exude from them the healing of every ailment that comes with faith. For this reason, we praise you:
Rejoice, for the grace of the Holy Spirit has entered into you, create in your relics a source of healing for every ailment.
Rejoice, I did not allow those who came to see them with little faith.
Rejoice, you who have rejoiced the Church of Christ with the appearance of your relics.
Rejoice, you have greatly pleased your grandson Vladimir with their glorification.
Rejoice, for even to this day the pious people of our land delight in your glorious memory.
Rejoice, for through your faithful intercession to God people have been granted many blessings from the Lord.
Rejoice, having begged God with your prayers for the enlightenment of our land.
Rejoice, you who prophesied will soon appear in our country to many great saints.
Rejoice, holy Equal-to-the-Apostles Princess Olga, God-wise.
Kontakion 11
We offer a song of tenderness to you, the saint of God, and we humbly pray to you: pray for us, the only God who loves mankind, that He may not turn His face away from us, unworthy, continually sinning and grieving His goodness, but may He punish us here, as the Father who loves His children may, in in the future, may he save and have mercy, as the Righteous Judge and Rewarder, so that, having been delivered from eternal torment, we will be honored with you in the heavenly abodes to sing to Him: Alleluia.
Ikos 11
Illuminated by a tri-radiant light, you now stand with all the saints in heaven at the Throne of the King of Reigns, Olgo the All-Blessed, and from there, like a luminous luminary, you enlighten our entire country, dispelling the darkness of delusion and showing the path to true enlightenment and heavenly bliss. For this reason, glorifying you, we say:
Rejoice, guide, showing us the right path to eternal salvation.
Rejoice, powerful helper and strengthener of the preachers of the Orthodox faith.
Rejoice, patroness of good teachers who work well for the common good.
Rejoice, sedition and strife consumer.
Rejoice, intercessor of all those offended and unjustly persecuted.
Rejoice, quick comforter to the sorrowing.
Rejoice, merciful healer of the sick.
Rejoice, for God has given help to our people through your prayers.
Rejoice, representative and intercessor of our country.
Rejoice, holy Equal-to-the-Apostles Princess Olga, God-wise.
Kontakion 12
Ask for the grace of the Most Holy Spirit for us, our mentor, from the All-Generous God and our Savior, admonishing and strengthening us in the work of salvation, so that the seed of the holy faith planted in us by you will not be fruitless, but may it vegetate and create fruit, which would enable us to nourish our souls in the future eternal life, where all the saints sing to God: Alleluia.
Ikos 12
Singing your many and glorious good deeds, revealed to our country in enlightening it with the light of the faith of Christ, we offer thanksgiving to you, calling with love:
Rejoice, indestructible fence of our land, protection and protection.
Rejoice, virgins in the image of a chaste life.
Rejoice, mother, teacher of lawful cohabitation and good upbringing of children.
Rejoice, rule of salvation for widows.
Rejoice, partaker in heaven of the lot of preachers of the faith of Christ.
Rejoice, zealous intercessor for our salvation.
Rejoice, at the hour of our death you prayed for us to God.
Rejoice, you who provide help and consolation to this body after our departure from this mortal body.
Rejoice, holy Equal-to-the-Apostles Princess Olga, God-wise.
Kontakion 13
O holy Equal-to-the-Apostles Grand Duchess Olgo! Graciously accept from us this laudatory thanksgiving for everyone, which the Lord has rewarded us with you, our father and forefather and our entire power, and pray to the All-Good God to increase His mercy on us and on the generations of our generations, confirm us in orthodoxy and piety, and keep us from of all misfortunes, misfortunes and evils, may we be worthy with you, like children of matter, to sing to God forever: Alleluia.
(This kontakion is read three times, then ikos 1 and kontakion 1).
Troparion about those who hate and offend us
You prayed for those who crucified You, O loving Lord, and at this time command Your servants to pray, forgive those who hate and offend us, and instruct us to live in a brotherly and virtuous manner from all evil and deceit. We sincerely offer a prayer to You, and in unanimity we glorify You, the One Lover of Mankind .
Prayer for irritability and anger (Abba Dorotheus)
The monk Abba Dorotheos taught that one must learn not to show anger and irritability towards one’s neighbor, to put oneself above one’s own humility, so that the believer’s soul rises above disputes and conflicts. In this case, the person harmonized himself and the values of life, over everyday conflicts and avoided head-on collisions, and his opponent, without encountering opposition, could not remain in a state of anger and irritability for a long time, and was forced to resign. By turning to God in prayer, he had already cleared the atmosphere of his life and eradicated the very cause of the conflict.
Prayer text
Merciful and humane God! For your unspeakable kindness he created us from nothing to enjoy your blessings, and for the blood of your only begotten Son, our Savior, who called us, who departed from your commandments! Come now, help our infirmities, and as once you forbade the stormy sea, now you also forbid the anger of our hearts, lest you lose us both in one hour, your children killed by sin, and why don't you tell us: "From of my blood you always come to decay” and: “Amen, I tell you, we will not blow you out,” because our lamps went out due to lack of oil. Amen.
Prayer against husband's aggression
In the case of family conflict and her husband’s aggression, it is very difficult for a woman during stress to remember a long prayer, so the prayer should be short. While reading the prayer, you need to mentally sign your husband with the sign of the cross. The prayer must be repeated several times, after which the demons will retreat and the conflict will subside. But we cannot stop there. It is necessary to pray every day that counsel and love will be fully restored in the family. According to reviews on social networks, women who used this prayer claimed that they were able to calm not only an angry husband, but also angry neighbors.
Prayer text
May God arise and disperse over him!
Prayer for anger in the soul
Holding anger in the soul is dangerous both for the soul itself and for the body. Having realized that anger has settled in the soul, it is necessary to turn in prayer to heavenly helpers. As a result, the believer receives the support of heavenly patrons, finds comfort and care. Gradually you begin to understand that he is not alone, but in fact, surrounded by attention and a desire to help him, you just need not to push away those who will happily come to his aid. It is necessary to understand that peace in the soul is created by the efforts of two parties, the believer and the Heavenly Forces, and help comes as a result of his conversion.
Prayer text
Tie the union of love with your apostle Christ, and we, your faithful servants, so tightly bind your commandments to ourselves: love each other without hypocrisy, do it with prayers, Mother of God, who loves men. With the flame of love they ignited me, the servant of God (...), the hearts of all, Christ God, until they were ignited with their hearts, thoughts, souls and all human strength, they will love me sincerely, as Glory to you and to me, the good giver of all. Free, Lord, the servant of God (...) from hatred, anger, unpeace and antipathy. In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.
Quotes about resentment and forgiveness
- do not judge, and you will not be judged; do not condemn, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven. (Gospel of Luke, 6, 37)
- it is very easy to forgive others for their mistakes; it is much more difficult to forgive them for witnessing our mistakes. (Jessamyn West)
- The only mistakes that are unforgivable are those we no longer love. (Madeleine de Scudery)
- The strongest victory of all is forgiveness. (Johann Friedrich Schiller)
- the one who takes revenge sometimes regrets what he did; he who forgives never regrets it. (Alexandre Dumas (father)
- The ability to forgive is a characteristic of the strong. The weak never forgive. (Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi)
- The power of forgiveness is a power that everyone has and is available to everyone. (Elias Canetti)
Prayers for resentment and anger
Without realizing it, a person sometimes takes offense at his loved ones, causing them suffering, and, hating his enemies, he himself becomes the property of demons. Therefore, you need to get used to spiritual work by turning to Jesus Christ or St. Nicholas the Wonderworker. Prayer is spiritual work, and its fruits are not born out of nowhere. You must first sow the seeds of goodness in your soul, take care of them and protect them from illness by patiently nurturing them. It is no coincidence that daily prayer work is called spiritual exploitation. It is also much more difficult than ordinary worldly work, but the resulting values are of great importance to all people. The fruits grown in the field of spiritual work can become the property of other people, so the efforts of the prayer book cannot be overestimated. No wonder they say: “Find a peace-loving spirit within yourself, and thousands around you will be saved.” Therefore, we must get used to daily prayer, albeit short, but sincere.
Prayer to Jesus Christ
Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, deliver me from resentment towards my neighbor by the will of the Most High God. So be it. Amen.
Prayer to Nicholas the Wonderworker
Wonderworker Nicholas, calm my excessive anger, clear the wrong path. They will be done. Amen.
Psychology of resentment
If you take the offense apart, it becomes clear that it consists of dissatisfaction with the offender and self-pity. Having not received what he expected, a person becomes more or less indignant. He weighs how unfairly he was treated, and then revels in this state.
It’s not for nothing that they say: in order not to be disappointed, you shouldn’t be enchanted. You should not place excessive hopes and expectations on others; everyone is free to choose. An offended person looks especially strange when expectations were formed a priori, without even voicing, by definition: I need it, I am owed.
Prayer to the Mother of God
The prayer to the Mother of God for anger and irritation was included in the book “Prayers to the Most Holy Theotokos” as the eleventh prayer. The history of the creation of the book “Prayers to the Most Holy Theotokos” goes back to Metropolitan Veniamin (Fedchenkov). The Metropolitan said that the sole purpose of creating the book was for people to turn to the intercessor and pray to him. An outstanding hierarch of the Russian Orthodox Church in the USA, a theologian, spoke about the reasons that prompted him to write this book, and wrote with bitterness in 1940 that “prayer is disappearing from life,” people have forgotten how to pray and do not turn to the Most Holy Theotokos. In his books, Benjamin tried in every possible way to convince and demonstrate that prayer is the work and life of the soul and the basis of its spiritual growth. He said that by turning to the Mother of God in prayer, a person participates in her holiness and in daily prayer work transforms his soul, cleansing himself of filth and disease.
Prayer text
Holy Mother of God! Hear my prayer and answer it; I hope Taibo is the hope of all corners of the earth.
Put out the flames on my body. Calm the storm of anger. He completely absorbs the vain delight of my vain youth. Weaken the crafty dreams of the heart, led by evil spirits. Izushi constantly finds a stream of impure thoughts that tempts me.
Learn my language as a verb only useful, my eyes contemplate the only beauty of the sanctuary. Open my ears so that I can be filled with the sweetest honey with the transmission of the Holy Scriptures and create with your help. Purify my lips so that I may have the honor of calling the Most High God my Father. Give me time to repent and save me from sudden death. Cleanse and wash from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit. Give your servant a contrite heart, peace of mind, chastity, moderation of soul, humbleness of thought, a righteous spirit, an intelligent life, and also peace, and the Lord was his gift as his disciple. Save me in silence; you rejoice with unspeakable and endless joy; as if, after repentance, I walked the right path of the commandments of Your Son, and for the rest of my life my past was no longer subject to the judgment of my conscience. Give me now, when I ask you, a pure prayer; Yes, I praise you with dignity, until death, every day of my saving enterprise. After death, spare me from the cruel torture of tax collectors.
To you, O Mother of God, to the light of darkened eyes, to the consolation of my soul, to my hope and salvation, I offer this prayer.
Until today, and also for one thing I ask you, my Guide, to stay: to guarantee me that I repented and grieved for sins, without condemnation, if I am unworthy in some way, to participate in the Most Pure Blood and Body of the Son and your God, for the salvation of the soul and the healing of the body and eternal life as a guarantee. In the coming sweetness of the Heavenly Supper, partake of the inexpressible heavenly grace of the Kingdom of God. And I, having been worthy of these blessings, will glorify your Son and your God with His Father Principle and His life-giving Spirit, as now, as it is, always and forever. Amen.
Prayer for those who hate and offend us as an example of Christian love and forgiveness
All people on Earth know how to pray. Even those who currently deny the existence of God. There are a lot of prayers. They are pronounced every day in hundreds of different languages, but their essence is the same - this is a person’s appeal to higher powers.
We will consider in this short article only one of the prayer requests - this is a prayer for those who hate us and offend us.
Why is this prayer so important in Christianity?
If we turn to the history of mankind, we can see that not all religions of the world call to pray for people who offend us.
This is not even in Judaism, which is built on a creed that precedes Christianity. We must love our friends, but be wary of our enemies, the Torah tells us. Even Confucius testifies that evil cannot be answered with evil, only with justice.
Why does Christ call to love your enemies?
Therefore, in Christianity there is a belief that if a person knows how to forgive his enemies and pray for them, then the Lord will forgive him for his sins and give him the opportunity to find himself in the Kingdom of Heaven.
Prayer for those who hate and offend us: what should it be?
There is a text for such a prayer that can be found in any Orthodox prayer book. This prayer is read at the very end of the morning and evening prayer rules.
However, this does not mean that we cannot pray for our enemies in our own words. Moreover, we need to pray not only in our own words, but precisely when we feel resentment and irritation brewing in our hearts.
It is very important in these moments not to let your anger pour out into bitter and terrible curses or - even worse - obvious aggression, but simply silently pray in your soul for the person who speaks evil words to you or acts deeply dishonestly towards you. The ways of the Lord are inscrutable, perhaps at this very moment, by simply praying for the person who offends you, you will save yourself both from a bad deed and from an internal crisis
The ways of the Lord are inscrutable, perhaps at this very moment, by simply praying for the person who offends you, you will save yourself both from a bad deed and from an internal crisis.
Why is it always worth praying?
It is worth praying always and everywhere. In general, prayer consoles a person and gives him extraordinary inner strength. By saying simple words: “Forgive, Lord, our offenders, send them joy, health, mental and physical strength,” you seem to overcome your spiritual weakness and become a stronger spiritual person.
After all, accumulating grievances against people is empty. As they say, offended people are unhappy people, forced to drag with them the burden of their own problems and grievances all their lives.
And those who know how to forgive, on the contrary, can move through life easily and freely.
They do not hold a grudge against people; a difficult life situation for them, accompanied by disappointments and misfortunes, is nevertheless surmountable, because, seeing their own shortcomings, they try to forgive their neighbors.
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Always rejoice and always pray - the great saints of the Russian land bequeathed to us. And the ability to forgive one’s enemies and pray for them is one of the most important qualities of every Christian. Therefore, prayer for those who hate and offend us should become a prayer that we repeat every day in our own hearts.
The meaning of this prayer from the point of view of psychological science
Today, the science of psychology, the object of study of which is the human psyche, largely complements the conclusions that theology offers us. From the point of view of psychology, the Christian virtue of forgiveness and love for one’s enemies allows the individual to develop harmoniously, reaching a state that psychologists call self-actualization.
Only this happens not with the help of the potency of the individual himself, but with the help of the support of divine forces.
Moreover, it doesn’t matter how you read the prayer: out loud, silently, or address it mentally in difficult life situations. The main thing is to just read it and think that Christ commanded his disciples to forgive offenses and pray for those who cause us harm
The Bliss of Those Who Follow the Path of Christianity
In fact, real Christians are very happy people, they know how to enjoy life, hope to meet God beyond the grave, and know how to love and forgive. They know that the ways of the Lord are mysterious, and even an enemy at some point can become a true friend, repent and reconcile with us.
Christians know how to believe in miracles, because prayer itself is a real miracle that gives us strength to live.
So let us be real Christians, let us believe, pray and love, and also know that in the prayer book there are wonderful words of forgiveness, which are called “Prayer for those who hate us and offend us.” Let us pray and believe in the mercy of God and his holy providence for us!
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Prayer “Invoking the help of the Holy Spirit”
A person lives and makes mistakes, sometimes cursing himself and others for his misdeeds, accumulating anger in his soul. Anger begins to devour him from the inside, looking for a way out and an object of revenge. This is a terrible time for mental illness to arise and develop and, if left unchecked, can lead to serious illness or crime. When a person feels that anger has accumulated inside him, it is necessary to admit this to himself and then direct this energy not at the one who makes you angry, but for a good cause. The best medicine in this case will be Orthodox prayer. By turning to higher values in daily prayer, he thus gradually purifies his thoughts and soul, transforming himself not only internally, but also externally. In a person's eyes, fierce anger no longer turns black, but the light of love from the heavenly world begins to appear. In this case, the prayer “Calling for the help of the Holy Spirit” helps well. It is best suited for a person with a mental illness, so it is short and easy to understand and remember, allowing you to read it over and over again, even when under emotional turmoil.
Prayer text
Creator and Maker of all things, O God, the works of our hands, which began for Thy glory, with Thy blessing, will hasten to correct and deliver us from all evil, because there is only one omnipotent and humane.
Somatic manifestations of resentment
Learning to forgive is very important. By accumulating negative emotions in oneself, experiencing pain over and over again, for many days or years, a person ruins his own health.
Resentment seeks a way out, manifesting itself:
- allergies (suppression of self),
- diseases of the ENT organs (hidden anger, unspoken words),
- gastrointestinal disorders (fear, anger, anxiety),
- diseases of the genitourinary system, problems with childbirth (non-acceptance of one’s own femininity),
- overweight (eating resentment, fencing off from the world),
- liver disorders (anger, bile, suppression of negative emotions),
- pathologies of the cardiovascular system (loneliness, resentment towards a partner),
- oncology (growing deep resentment).
Prayer against hatred of a person
Human hatred is a grave sin and evil that burns both the one who hates him and his enemy from within. And here, in fact, it is not so important who was right and who was wrong. There is no winner or loser in this fight because both will suffer. When both opposing sides receive the ripe fruits of evil and weigh them against the measure, the cost of loss and suffering, they will be horrified by what they have done. It is easier to punish or kill an enemy than to understand and forgive him. But retribution for this will be inevitable. It’s not for nothing that they say that the best fight is the one that didn’t happen. Therefore, Holy Scripture says that you need to love not only your neighbor, but also your enemy, learn to forgive and be merciful. Therefore, it is necessary to turn into a prayer a request for help and support from the Lord Jesus Christ.
Why does resentment arise?
Close people offend you the most: consciously or not, they hit the most painful, sensitive points. Such blows often have long-term consequences, which are difficult to get rid of.
All people are different. One person will laugh at an offensive word or not pay attention; in a few minutes he will forget. And the other will worry, replay the situation again and again, sometimes for years, destroying himself from the inside.
It’s easy to advise: ignore, forget, forgive the offender. It is much more difficult to do this, sincerely, from the heart. If you can’t do this “naturally”, you need to look for outside help.
Causes
First, you need to understand what prompted a person to offend. Reasons often cited include:
- envy. In this case, the interlocutor seems to devalue someone else’s achievement, finding shortcomings in it and belittling its merits. It seems that he says this with the best intentions, but he steals someone else’s joy, leaving resentment in his soul. Everyone can remember such examples: “Natural fur is not in fashion these days” - as a commentary on a long-desired and finally acquired fur coat; “Now you will have to be responsible for other people’s mistakes and work twice as hard” - as a congratulation on a new position and the like;
- disappointed expectations. A friend promised to help with the repairs, but instead went to the cinema with his wife; the parents were going to take the child to the circus, but there were other things to do and other plans for the weekend;
- desire to humiliate. The most serious problems arise from the deliberate desire of one person to humiliate another. These are the hardest grudges to let go of;
- lack of tact. There are people who don't really think about what they say. Moreover, they elevate this quality to the rank of people, believing that one must always tell the truth, even offensive ones, directly to one’s face.
Resentment can arise unintentionally, but this is precisely the easiest case.
