How to deal with lust, what lust is and what its harm is in this article.
A person has a huge number of desires. Both the basic, most necessary ones, such as eating and sleeping, and the desires for pleasure: eating delicious food, sleeping in a very soft and warm bed with a down pillow.
Hence, by the way, general dissatisfaction with life is growing - here about it.
In fact, a person has thousands of desires and needs that arise every day. But the central, strongest desire is sexual desire.
Even money, property, the desire for offspring come after the desire for sex. The need for sex fills people's minds; sexual energy moves a person and influences his behavior. She has incredible strength.
The topic of sex is everywhere. It is promoted on popular television channels, it is present in video games, we see it in fashion, every day on the street, thousands of jokes and stories have been written on the topic of sex.
If they don’t talk about sex on TV, then it’s not so interesting; people demand even more sex. And it doesn’t matter where you are, in what country in the world, sex and passion are everywhere.
And the more you think about sex, the more you do it, the more you want it.
This, of course, makes sense. The Lord endowed man with a strong sexual desire for the birth of new offspring. Without sexual desire and without sex, children are not born.
This is called the procreation instinct.
It is present in exactly the same form in animals. In this regard, we are no different from them. But we've made it more than just a means of making babies.
And here the animals surpassed us. They can restrain themselves. A lioness will never allow a male to approach her until her children grow up and get stronger.
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What is lust?
Lust is a disordered, constant sexual desire and its satisfaction . Lust is an enormous force. It is almost impossible to completely get rid of lustful desires.
Yudhishthira was asked: “O Yudhishthira, when you look at your mother Kanti, is your gaze completely pure?” to which he replied: “I cannot say that my gaze is completely pure.” Such is the power of lust.
Sex is always present in our minds to one degree or another. This is human nature.
Jerome writes about his struggle with lust “How many times have I been in the desert, in this endless solitude, in this terrible refuge of monks, incinerated by the fire of the sun. But I imagined that I was among the luxury of Rome! I was alone. My clothing was only a torn bag, and my skin was as black as an Ethiopian's. Every day I suffered and cried, and, exhausted by fatigue, I lay down to sleep on the bare ground. I will keep quiet about my food and drinks. Out of fear of hell, I sentenced myself to this fiery prison, where only scorpions and wild animals live. But despite all this, in my imagination I often imagined myself in the company of young girls. My face turned pale from hunger, my body weakened - but even in such a depressing situation, the fire of lust still burned brightly in my mind. “Such is the power of lust.
Lust is an excessive manifestation of desire. Lust for food is gluttony. After all, we don’t need it, we only need a little food to live, but we love to eat a lot and deliciously. Why don't I eat meat?
But, it’s true, if we completely give up food, we will die, but by giving up sexual lust, a person will not die, but quite the opposite.
Lustful desires are the lowest instincts.
Lust and its principles3
Remember the movie "Principles of Lust"? The main character of the film, a loser in life, Paul, was faced with a choice: on the one hand, a correct life with family values, on the other hand, his friend Billy, a guide to the world of debauchery, strip clubs, and drugs. In this film, everything is clearly visible and understandable. Drama easily provokes an internal conversation with oneself, makes it clear what kind of core each of us has.
Psychologists describe lust as an emotion. It is connected with physiology: sexual desire. But lust exists perfectly well without sex. How? It's simple. For example, a decrepit old man, with a “sniveling rag” hanging in his pants, calls “moths” to him or “swallows” porn with rapture. Can he do something with his “fallen warrior”? No, of course not.” Unless you tie the pencils and carry them on a stretcher. But squeezing a girl, squeezing her with his toothless mouth—he’s still capable of that. Ew, disgusting, right? This is lust. A granny who sculpts her eyelashes, grows eagle claws and gets into the panties of young stallions is lust.
I'll tell you a secret: lust is hidden in each of us! And don’t roll your eyes that this isn’t about you. We've all watched porn at least once; many of us have drunkenly fucked in the club's toilet without asking for a name. What about the famous kinky parties? What is this if not lust? She doesn’t care about your social status, she doesn’t care about your status and your upbringing, she doesn’t care how old you are. She simply lives in our minds.
Every day you can come across a person who evokes only the best emotions, for example, a sophisticated girl, modest and kind, or a leader who is strong, authoritative, well-mannered and has the love and respect of the entire team. But who do they become when they come home and are left alone with themselves? Question, right? People carefully hide their dark side or even have a double life.
Sexual energy
Sexual energy (you can learn more about it here) has great power and meaning.
The tree drinks the juice of the Earth and beautiful strong green leaves bloom on it, it has a strong trunk and branches and bears healthy and tasty fruits. This all happens thanks to the energy that the tree receives by feeding on the juices of the Earth.
Likewise, the human body, feeding on sexual energy, receives healthy strength, a sparkle of fire in the eyes, a desire to live and create.
According to Ayurveda, it takes 40 drops of blood to produce one drop of male semen. This is the most valuable substance in the body. Semen energy (Virya) is formed directly from the bone marrow.
Constant sex is not the norm for a person, it is the norm for a civilized person
Sex is the price we pay for life in a civilized society . Perhaps you will argue that sex is a payment, because it is pleasure, it is so pleasant, everyone is willing to pay such a payment.
But this comes from ignorance of the harm that lust brings.
We see no point in controlling ourselves, restraining ourselves from lustful desires. But in fact, we are only a victim of the time and the society in which we live. Today and now in the modern world, lust is the norm.
Sex needs to be controlled.
We live in a sexual world.
Everyone thinks about sex, fashion, cars, vacations and parties, movies, restaurants. This is what life is made of. Spiritual themes, themes of God, unfortunately, are not in the first place.
But this does not mean at all that this is, in principle, the norm and should be so. No, that's what they told us, nothing more.
Lust in sexology 4
Everything that does not fit into morality: debauchery, orgies, irrepressible sexual desire, perverted forms of sex, sexual deviations, all this is lust. But sexologists are forced people by definition, they cannot tell a person that he is a fucking pervert. This definition is offensive, because he does not harm society, does not maniac, does not corrupt children. Therefore, sexologists are quite loyal to all manifestations of lust with a caveat: if it is voluntary, by mutual agreement, pleasant for everyone, then at least light a firecracker in your ass, it’s purely everyone’s business. The main thing is not to break the law.
Damage to the soul from lust
Your soul suffers from lust. The harm to spiritual life is very great. You are burying yourself in the ground of an incessant search for pleasure in the sand of eternal dissatisfaction and suffering.
What is the meaning of life if you are not interested in your spiritual self, if you are not interested in the true nature of this world, the Universe, if you see yourself only as a small body that does nothing but constantly want something and demand satisfaction.
What then is the meaning of a life that ends so quickly? My point is in this post.
Is life really just about feeding a body, putting it to sleep, copulating with another body and that’s it? Well, yes, to earn money to feed him more delicious food, sleep in an expensive bed and have sex with an expensive woman.
What's the point?
We need to look for an answer to this question. And without the spiritual component of your Self, without God, the answer to this question does not exist. Or rather, it exists (written above), but such an answer is worse than any answer.
For me, God, the soul, is something that exists just like everything else in this world. Here I am talking about how to feel your soul.
Lust destroys your spirituality . Any poison is better than lust, because it kills only the body, lust poisons the soul. And if you adhere to the karmic law of life and constant rebirth (my article on reincarnation), then you create a completely unenviable future for yourself, sowing such rotten and poisonous seeds of lustful desires and passions.
Lustful desires take over the mind and there is no room for spiritual thoughts. In lust, a person lives like a blind man, not understanding where to go and why.
Loss of sexual energy
The main energy of a person is sexual, the energy of the seed. This energy needs to be protected and stored, and not wasted left and right.
Losing your seed over and over again, you receive in return pain, low energy levels, constant worry and anxiety, weakness, and poor memory.
In addition to the physical effects, you lose your will and acquire the mentality of a slave. Your mind merges with the crowd, individuality is lost.
It becomes difficult for you to maintain a balanced, calm state, you are subject to irritation and anger, you become unable to think sensibly and wisely.
You are overcome by laziness and fear, your memory is deteriorating, your face is pale, your eyes are dull. All this for the sake of short-term sensual pleasure caused by the life force passing through the genitals.
Every time you have sex, by giving away your seed, you release your vitality. Just like that, to nowhere, and you leave emptiness inside.
One day the students asked Socrates: “Teacher, tell me, how often can a married man visit his wife?” Socrates replied: “Once in a lifetime.” The disciples objected: “But this is completely impossible for a worldly person, his life is full of passions and temptations. He does not have such willpower and his indriyas will rebel. You are a philosopher and a Yogi, you are capable of such control. But what should we, ordinary people, do? “Then Socrates replied: “You may have intercourse with your wives once a year.” To which they objected: “Oh teacher, this is also practically impossible. Maybe there are other options?” Then he said: “You can visit your wives once a month - it’s easy and suitable for everyone.” But the disciples again objected: “This is also impossible, because the mind of a worldly person is very restless and full of sexual vasanas and samskaras. You don't understand his mentality.” Socrates replied: “Okay, my dear children. First, reserve a place in the cemetery and buy a beautiful coffin. Then you can do what you want and copulate as often as possible. This is my last piece of advice.”
You are giving away the very life that vibrates within you. You simply throw away enormous energy, the strength and power of which is enough to give birth to new life.
It's very wasteful. People do not realize the value of this liquid and constantly have sex and throw it away. This energy must be protected.
Lust is the cause of murder, rape, theft . Lust ruins your health, takes away your happiness and joy in life, constantly tormenting you and never calming down.
Loss of seminal energy shortens life. Saving, on the contrary, prolongs it.
The most interesting thing is that many people understand and are aware of the harm that they cause to their soul and body by succumbing to sexual passions, but still cannot help themselves.
The second reason is mental.
As already mentioned, for a number of reasons, in modern society, motivations for sexual pleasures are deliberately created. The fashion for early and “free” sexual relations is being promoted. If a person from an early age regularly wastes energy on sexual entertainment, by the age of 25–30 he will simply waste all his potential. Moreover, he simply will not be able to develop adequately, because what kind of development can we talk about if the energy regularly merges at the second chakra? The fact is that if the energy does not rise above the second chakra, then human consciousness is unlikely to ever be able to rise above primitive animal instincts. And this, again, is very beneficial, because people with this level of consciousness are easier to manage and manipulate.
It is worth noting that high intelligence and creativity, as well as the ability to meditate and engage in serious spiritual practices, are due to the activity of the pineal gland. And its peculiarity is that it grows rapidly in childhood and exactly until puberty begins. Thus, the earlier a person begins to be interested in sexual pleasures, the less likely it is that he will develop harmoniously and generally achieve anything in this life. That is why the cult of sex is especially actively inculcated among teenagers. Also, the pineal gland produces the hormone melatonin, which helps restore and rejuvenate body cells. And the higher a person’s sexual activity, the more inhibited the function of the pineal gland is, and due to melatonin deficiency, the person ages faster and begins to get sick. For these and many other reasons, the cult of sex is implanted in society.
Constant involuntary concentration on the topic of sexual relations leads to the fact that this becomes the main motivation of a person. According to the principle “what you think about is what you become.” Advertising with naked bodies constantly motivates us not so much to buy a product, but rather leads us to constantly concentrate on the corresponding images. Today it is difficult to find a film or series where the theme of vulgarity is not present and the corresponding scenes are not shown. This also does not happen by chance. Thus, in order to defeat lust, you should protect your consciousness as much as possible from relevant information. First of all, stop watching TV. If you at least watch movies on the Internet instead, this will already protect a person from a large amount of harmful information. Ideally, stop watching movies altogether.
You should also limit communication with people who are fixated on the topic of sex. Firstly, there is also an energetic aspect, because in the process of communication we exchange energy, and the energy of a sexually preoccupied person will bring the same motivations into our lives. Secondly, conversations on such topics again lead to a concentration on base instincts. If it is impossible to avoid such communication due to reasons beyond a person’s control, then you should try to change the topic of conversation or not get involved in the process of such discussions.
If lustful thoughts arise in the mind involuntarily, then you should “educate” your mind. It is important not to try to fight these thoughts, because when you fight, you will only concentrate on it even more. We attract not only what we like, but also what we don’t like. Therefore, when trying to fight these thoughts, you will, on the contrary, see around you only things related in one way or another to lust, and this will lead to nothing but irritation and disharmony. What to do? You need to try to redirect your attention. Don't fight unnecessary thoughts. And cultivate useful thoughts in yourself. So, in a garden bed regularly cultivated by a farmer, there is simply no room for weeds. But simply removing weeds without sowing anything in return is a stupid and pointless activity. By occupying your mind with some positive thoughts or reflections, you simply will not leave room for lust.
Do you want to know the close circle of your loved one 6
Lust extends only to the object of lust itself. You are not interested in his or her circle of family and friends; you have no desire to get to know their relatives and close friends, much less like them.
Love encourages the desire to know all aspects of a partner's life. Your loved one may talk a lot about the people around him, but you want to get to know them personally, and not only get to know them, but also like them. You will also want to build good relationships with them and win their sympathy. You will feel that your loved one's close circle, especially his family, is a vital part of the development of your relationship.
In turn, you'll be excited and proud to introduce him or her to your best friends and family, and you'll want them to adore your new partner and see the same qualities in him or her that you appreciate.
Fighting lust5
Do not be alarmed if you suddenly realize that you are a lustful person. I repeat once again: lust lives in each of us. We can fight it, we can curb it. How? I'll explain now.
First of all, society helps us. Its social morality determines our behavior. The legal side protects us from criminal acts. Medicine prevents deviations by giving clear diagnoses of pathological manifestations. Try this:
- Negation. Accept yourself with your secret desires and fantasies. You are you. You don't become worse because you love some things that are considered wrong.
- Put out the fire. Try to avoid things that make you lustful. Don't watch porn, stop going to strip bars, stop going to kinky parties. Think of lust as an allergy. You won’t eat oranges, even if you love them very much, but you’re allergic to them? So it is here.
- Respect for others. Behave with restraint towards others. Don’t let go of your hands, for example, even though that ass over there is begging for a spanking. And it doesn’t matter who you are: a guy or a girl. Don't try to seduce the first person you meet either by playing with your biceps or by secretly demonstrating your lack of panties.
- Bad habits. We are talking about alcohol and soft drugs. These two habits completely demolish the tower and cut off the brakes. When you're high, you can chop so much wood that you're not far from the loop.
- Keep yourself busy with something interesting. It is advisable to be difficult so that you only have the strength to crawl to bed. Do you remember how Celentano struggled with lust? I chopped wood. You can do the same...
Expert opinion 2
However, aside from brain chemistry, which cannot be tested on your own, how can you tell if what you're feeling is love or a fleeting sexual attraction? Simone Humphrey, Doctor of Psychology, and Signe Simon, Doctor of Philosophy, conducted many years of joint work in which they analyzed the differences in the behavior, sensations, and desires of a person in a state of exclusively sexual attraction and real deep love. Some of their findings will help you understand exactly what feelings you are experiencing.
True feeling takes time8
Despite what you may think, there is no such thing as love at first sight. Sure, you may experience instant sexual attraction and what feels like being struck by lightning with fireworks in your head the first time you kiss. It's easy to confuse all this with love, especially if the relationship continues to develop.
It’s not uncommon for the stage of lust to develop into real strong feelings, but this takes time. True love, with its deep affection and sense of security, does not appear instantly. To love someone, you have to spend time with them and really get to know the person.
Curiosity is not a vice, but...7
When people try on certain love pleasures, they never know their reaction to them. For example, the same blowjob. Neither the guy nor the girl can know whether they will like him or not. Only after doing this for the first time will they know whether to practice oral sex or not.
But a blowjob is nothing compared to what lust can push you to do. And, damn it, many people get hooked, like on a drug. Only then does the realization come that “that’s it, that’s it, it was too late!” The body asks for voluptuousness, crazy, animal sex. Therefore, before throwing yourself into the maelstrom of unbridled passions, try to assess the prospects. Many people who have been captured by lust have ruined their lives: divorces, prison, graves...
Remember, only you have the power to make lust just a seasoning for the main dish called sex.
WAR IN THE SOUL
There is a real battle going on in the hearts of all good men.
The battle for integrity, decency and purity. It is a struggle against forces that seem beyond our control. And many good men are losing this battle, including pastors.
While recent revelations of sexual abuse committed by Roman Catholic priests have shaken the confidence and trust of Catholic parishioners, we have known for years that there are problems in the Protestant Church.
I began studying sex scandals involving pastors 18 years ago. We made our findings public and soon noticed a gradual decline in reported violations. Constant reminders to pastors of their extreme sexual vulnerability and explicit ethical statements by cult leaders influenced the pastors' conscience and discouraged the development of sexual behavior. Now, I see a gradual but steady increase in the number of sex scandals involving pastors.
I'm not talking about pastors being sexually indiscreet. I want to explore the broader issue of male sexuality, which is, to some extent, the cause of sex scandals. I believe that “pastoral indiscretion” is an outward manifestation of distorted male sexuality—a reality that men must be prepared to face.
You can't stop thinking about your loved one5
Of course, the object of lust is also capable of occupying your thoughts, some of which are devoted not to the person himself, but to savoring the physical aspects of your relationship and, perhaps, sexual fantasies in which you both figure.
For those who are in love, thoughts about a loved one become a kind of obsession. You will remember his or her words, actions, behavior, and only in a positive aspect. Your memory returns again and again to hugs, kisses, gentle touches and glances, everything that you experienced the day before.
You will begin to think about what you will say to your partner when you meet, how you can please, surprise or make him laugh. And guess what? In feverishly excited thoughts, physical intimacy will not be the main focus, although it cannot be said that your thoughts will remain completely pure.
