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The question of whether godparents can get married worries many - both the godparents themselves and the parents of the child for whom they became godparents. If people who are already in a relationship cannot become godparents, then tender feelings often arise between newly made godparents. Lovers are already dreaming of a wedding, thinking about what kind of weddings there are by year , and suddenly they find out that they cannot be together. What to do in such a situation? Is it possible for godfather to marry godfather or is it better not to tempt fate, because such marriages are considered prohibited.
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What they write everywhere.
What is written everywhere is almost correct. But there is one important detail. Strictly speaking, according to church canons, there should be one godfather (godfather/godmother), and not two, as is customary in Russia, and not the entire village, as they say happens in Moldova. And this one and only recipient must be of the same sex as the godson/goddaughter. This detail is important because new marriage is prohibited 1) between the girl’s father and her godmother, 2) between the boy’s mother and his godfather. — I am based on the “Handbook of a Clergyman” by S. V. Bulgakov (p. 1185). “Therefore, a new marriage between a girl’s mother and her godfather should not be prohibited.
The ideal situation for you would be the following: 1) your daughter had two godparents; then the godfather may (if necessary) not be considered a godfather - the main role here belongs to the godmother; 2) the godfather (who is, as it were, not really a godfather) of your daughter - a widower or single.
If the real state of affairs is not quite like this, then, I think, this should not be an obstacle to marriage. Before the revolution, the church was a state ministry, and the instructions of church canons were closely intertwined with state legislation. Nowadays, as far as I can tell, church marriage law is much more liberal than it was a hundred to one hundred and fifty years ago.
Please note that I am talking about creating a family, about a married couple, and not about some vague “relationship”.
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Dear friends, let me share with you, one might say, my secret... Until recently, one question tormented me. It sat in my head for quite a long time - more than 15 years! And now, oh, happiness! One less thing to worry about! But first things first... So, more than 15 years ago, relatives invited me and my husband to become godparents of their child. It was in the “dashing 90s”, when, as they said, it was fashionable to get married and be baptized. But for us this was not a tribute to fashion, but the feelings and responsibilities of Orthodox people. We christened the baby. I personally was proud to bear the title of Godmother, especially since I did not yet have my own children. But somehow, after the Sacrament took place, conversations periodically began to arise that spouses, especially married ones (and we are married ones), cannot be godparents of one child, supposedly this is a severe sin. Since then, this question has stuck in my head: is it possible or not? Moreover, the priest in the church did not tell us anything about this. And here, in the family, serious problems arose from time to time. But the “worm” in my head was eating my brain: “You are a sinner, mother! You can’t be with your spouse!” This is how I lived until recently. But apparently my thoughts were so strong that the answer still came. It came in the form of an article in the Orthodox women's magazine “Slavyanka”. The magazine came to me by accident, but it helped a lot! A wonderful article that explains everything in detail. I recommend checking it out! Now I know for sure that everything is fine with my husband! And here is the article itself: Can a godfather marry a godfather? About spiritual kinship Recently, young people came to my church, very dejected... They want to get married, but several priests they approached refused to perform the Sacrament of Marriage on them, as soon as they found out that they were both godparents of the same child. I was somewhat surprised by this decision of the priests, given the importance of the Sacrament of Marriage, especially in our time, when very few people decide not only to get married, but even to sign in the registry office. To be honest, I was not ready to solve this problem and could not help them right away. I had to look at church literature, the Internet, and consult with priests. And this is what I learned about this issue. Many priests, clergy, candle makers and cleaners in churches believe and, moreover, actively preach that the godfather and godmother of the same child cannot marry, since a spiritual relationship arises between them during the Sacrament of Baptism of a child, which prevents them from being husband and wife. The first, completely legitimate question: how is this “spiritual kinship” known, what canons define it? If we turn to church history, we will see that from the 6th to the 12th centuries, the ideas of spiritual kinship developed and an increasingly strict attitude towards it took shape. If under Emperor Justinian it was forbidden for only a godfather to marry his goddaughter (mid-VI century), then later the fathers of the Council of Trullo (691-692 in Constantinople) in the 53rd rule prohibited marriage between the adoptees and the parents of those adopted: “affinity in spirit is more important than a union in the body,” therefore, in particular, “those who receive children from holy Baptism should not marry their widowed mothers.” Even later, the Synod of Constantinople under Patriarch Nicholas III Grammar (1084-1111) determined that the presence of spiritual kinship up to the 7th degree inclusive, like blood kinship, was recognized as an obstacle to marriage. The rules about godfathers came to us in Rus' from Nomokanon (Nomokanon - Byzantine collections of church rules and imperial decrees concerning the Church, compiled in the 6th-7th centuries and subsequently supplemented). “Rule 209. About spiritual affinity. If a husband and wife baptize a child for the same person, we command that they not mix with each other, since they are imputed to the godfather. If they copulate, they are prohibited for seven and ten years and throwing around for a hundred days, eating dry food on Wednesday and heels. Forgive these, let them be cursed. About friends and spiritual kinship. Two certain people, who do not have any relatives, even if one godfather baptizes their children, that is, accepts them from the font of holy baptism, let their children not come to the wedding communion, until the osmago degree. Even so, the brethren are the essence. For one father begat them spiritually through holy baptism.” As we see, these rules are incredibly strict, although if you read the Nomocanon carefully, you can see that many rules today are not followed at all, some are inapplicable and, even moreover, are changing in our time, for example: “Rule 175: If he kills himself a person does not sing over him, he remembers him below, and is even more amazed, that is, out of his mind. According to the fourth and tenth answer of St. Timothy of Alexandria.” And let’s compare this rule with the resolution of the Synod of the Russian Orthodox Church of July 27, 2011 - The rite of prayerful consolation of relatives who died without permission (https://www.patriarchia.ru/db/text/1586949.html). Also, which is quite obvious, the rules of the Nomocanon regarding spiritual kinship do not come from apostolic decrees or councils of the first centuries (these rules do not have any references to such decrees), but from later secular imperial legislation, and only later are woven into church norms. But, nevertheless, these rules of the Nomocanon determined the attitude towards spiritual kinship in Rus' for many years. Modern attitude to the problem. Decrees in force in the Russian Orthodox Church. Now I would like to point out the state of affairs regarding spiritual kinship in our Church. On the one hand, the opinion has taken root that godfathers cannot marry. But, on the other hand, we live according to the decrees and decrees adopted at the Ecumenical Councils and in our Russian Orthodox Church. And no one canceled the decree of the Holy Synod of January 19, 1810, which is based on the 53rd rule of the VI Ecumenical Council, and recognizes spiritual kinship only between the godparent, the baptized person and the parents of the baptized person. It should also be noted that this decree denies the spiritual relationship between the children of the godfather and the baptized, between the godfather and the godmother of the same baby, referring to the Breviary, which says: “During holy baptism, one recipient is required: if the baptized is male, the husband is the recipient; if it’s female, it’s only a receiver.” Subsequently, the Holy Synod in 1937 confirmed the decree of 1810 and added: “And the fact that paragraph 211 of the Nomocanon was printed in the Trebnik is very questionable because from whom it was written and in what years it was not printed and is very unknown.” These decrees of our Church are still in effect today. Nobody canceled them. Therefore, those who claim that marriage between godfathers or their children is impossible are going against the current regulations of the Russian Orthodox Church. In addition to the above decrees, one must also turn to a historical perspective. How was Baptism performed in the ancient Church? In ancient times, every person who wanted to become a Christian was assigned a believer who taught him the basics of faith. If infants were baptized, then the parents themselves acted as godparents. “According to the custom of the Ancient Church, Baptism, as a rule, involved one recipient of the same sex as the person being baptized. With the prevailing baptism of adults at that time, this resulted from a natural feeling of modesty. But subsequently, in Baptism, which, according to the teaching of the Church, is the spiritual birth of a person, by analogy with carnal birth, both the recipient and the recipient - the godfather and mother - began to participate simultaneously. The Code of Emperor Saint Justinian I (534), which prohibits marriage between the recipient and the recipient, does not yet consider the possibility of marriage between the recipient and the recipient. This custom spread to the West in the 8th century and easily entered the life of the Church, especially since over time they began to primarily baptize infants. The Bishop of Rome, Saint Leo I the Great (440-461), spoke out against double succession; in 813, the Mainz Council condemned this practice, but it was firmly rooted. Later, the custom of the participation of the recipient and recipient in baptism also spread to the East. It spread in the Russian Church already in the 13th century. This practice was opposed by Metropolitan Saints Cyprian (14th century) and Photius (15th century), but after the 15th century, the participation of two godparents in the baptism of a baby - the godfather and godmother - no longer met with objections from the church authorities.” (Orthodox Encyclopedia, article “Receivers”). “Spiritual kinship exists between a godfather and his godson and between a godmother and her goddaughter, as well as between the parents of the person adopted from the font and the recipient of the same sex as the person adopted (nepotism). Since, according to the canons, Baptism requires one recipient of the same sex as the person being baptized, the second recipient is a tribute to tradition and, therefore, there are no canonical obstacles to concluding a church marriage between the recipients of the same baby. Strictly speaking, for the same reason, there is also no spiritual relationship between a godfather and his goddaughter and between a godmother and her godson. However, pious custom prohibits such marriages, therefore, in order to avoid temptation in this case, one should seek special instructions from the ruling bishop.” (“Handbook of a clergyman”, publication of the Moscow Patriarchate, M. 1983).
If we talk about the role of the godfather, then it is obvious that his primary task is to teach the godson the basics of faith. And this is the main point. And then even two godparents, even six (this happens in Ukraine) - it doesn’t matter at all. Godparents are given to those being baptized not for numbers or for spiritual kinship, but for teaching and help for the salvation of the soul. And if, according to the Fathers of the Church, the decrees of the Holy Synod, the text of the Breviary and church history, we believe that there should be only one godfather, then there can be no question of the impossibility of marriage with a person who was simply named, according to folk tradition, which, by the way, came from Catholics , second godfather. And finally, a priest I know told me that his mother does not take anyone as her godchildren, so that later her children can marry the children of her acquaintances and friends from good Orthodox families. I also heard completely reliable stories from my priest acquaintances about spouses who, having become godparents of one person being baptized and subsequently becoming church members, dissolved their marriage. This, in my opinion, is a real spiritual tragedy, which grows only from a misunderstanding of two words - “spiritual kinship.” To summarize all of the above, it should be noted that many, speaking about the ban on marriage between godfathers, are simply playing it safe, not fully understanding the problem, and are somewhat afraid of the concept of spiritual kinship that they do not understand. But we, the children of our Church, must be guided by the decrees adopted in the Russian Orthodox Church, which in turn are based on the decrees of the VI Ecumenical Council and state that marriage is impossible between the godfather, the goddaughter and the parents of the person being baptized, and that’s all. All other cases are permissible. Priest Timofey Kuropatov, Orthodox women's magazine "Slavyanka", March-April 2012
Dear friends, let me share with you, one might say, my secret...
Until recently, one question tormented me. It sat in my head for quite a long time - more than 15 years! And now, oh, happiness! One less thing to worry about! But first things first…
So, more than 15 years ago, relatives invited me and my husband to become godparents of their child. It was in the “dashing 90s”, when, as they said, it was fashionable to get married and be baptized. But for us this was not a tribute to fashion, but the feelings and responsibilities of Orthodox people. We christened the baby. I personally was proud to bear the title of Godmother, especially since I did not yet have my own children. But somehow, after the Sacrament took place, conversations periodically began to arise that spouses, especially married ones (and we are married ones), cannot be godparents of one child, supposedly this is a severe sin. Since then, this question has stuck in my head: is it possible or not?
Moreover, the priest in the church did not tell us anything about this.
And here, in the family, serious problems arose from time to time. But the “worm” in my head was eating my brain: “You are a sinner, Mother!
You can’t be with your spouse!” This is how I lived until recently.
But apparently my thoughts were so strong that the answer still came. It came in the form of an article in the Orthodox women's magazine “Slavyanka”. The magazine came to me by accident, but it helped a lot! A wonderful article that explains everything in detail. I recommend checking it out! Now I know for sure that everything is fine with my husband!
Is it possible to marry your children's godparents?
Is it possible to marry your children's godparents?
Is a church marriage possible between a child’s biological mother and his godfather? Save me, God. Faith
During the celebration of the Sacrament of Baptism, a spiritual relationship is established between the baptized person, recipients and parents. The Church teaches that this spiritual connection is much deeper than blood relationship. If you look at the Codes of Emperor Justinian, you will see there a whole code devoted to issues of marriage regulations (code V, section IV). In this code, which was approved by the VI Ecumenical Council, spiritual ties and blood ties are legally equalized.
Similar questions were raised in ancient times and apparently caused considerable unrest among those wishing to get married, despite spiritual ties. In this regard, in 680 at the VI Ecumenical Council, the Church made the following resolution: “ For affinity in spirit is more important than union in body, and we learned that in some places, some who receive children from holy and saving baptism, after this enter into marriage cohabitation with their widowed mothers, we determine: so that from the present time nothing of the kind will be done. If, according to this rule, those who are doing this are seen to be doing this: first of all, let them abstain from this illegal marriage, then let them be subjected to the penance of those who commit fornication .” (53 rule of the VI Ecumenical Council)
This is how the famous interpreter of the canons of Zonara explains this rule: “ This rule commands that those who take into marriage cohabitation with women whose children were taken from holy baptism (their godfathers), when they are widowed, retreat from such cohabitation with the dissolution of the illegal marriage , and to be subjected to the penances of those who commit fornication .”
Anatoly Badanov, administrator of the missionary project “Breathing Orthodoxy”
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What does the Catholic Church say?
A newborn baby must appear before God immediately after birth, be cleansed of original sin, and unite with the church. This is how any religion argues and calls for baptisms to be carried out at an early age. The process of carrying out the ritual is the same almost everywhere: the baby is washed with water from the font in the temple, the liturgy is read, and at the end a cross is put on. The only difference is the requirements that allow or prohibit believers from taking certain steps. The Catholic Church differs from the Orthodox Church on many issues, and the rite of the sacrament of baptism was no exception.
It all starts with the parents coming to the church a couple of weeks in advance to discuss with the priest (priest of the Catholic Church) all the issues related to preparation for the ceremony, setting a date, and agreeing with who will baptize the child. Godparents in the Catholic faith are endowed with important powers in the child’s life, which include the responsibility to take him to Sunday school and prepare him for religious rites (community, confirmation). The approach to choosing godparents is doubly complex here and is an important task for any believer.
In addition to the awareness and high responsibility of godparents, the Catholic faith has its own rules for choosing a spiritual father and mother. According to the requirements of the church, only people who:
- They believe and practice Catholicism.
- They do not have any family ties with the baby.
- Have reached your 16th birthday. If the reasons are compelling, the abbot may make an exception.
- Catholics by religion who have undergone the sacrament of First Communion and confirmation (confirmation). This is a ritual of anointing, which is performed in adulthood. This is how Catholics confirm that they accepted the faith consciously.
- They are not the child's parents.
- They are husband and wife.
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Spiritual norms and civil laws are completely different things. The question: whether godfathers can marry is not in doubt in civil law, because such laws do not provide for restrictions on marriage on this principle. The problem is the desire to get married in a church.
Why you can't marry your godfather
Between the two people who take part in the holy sacrament of baptism of a child, a romantic relationship subsequently arises, which leads to marriage. Preparatory steps began, but a problem arose when wanting to get married in a church. It turned out that a man and a woman cannot enter into a spiritual union in the church, and the question arises whether Orthodox godfathers can marry .
This problem is more far-fetched and arises due to a misinterpretation of the spiritual connection between the participants in the baptismal ceremony. Such questions should be studied from the point of view of the Orthodox faith, and not from other judgments. But the Church has developed an ambiguous attitude towards sexual relations and marriage between godparents.
Previously, such marriage relationships were prohibited by Emperor Justinian, who believed that godparents became spiritual relatives upon baptism. The integrity of the spirit is higher than the physical body. However, the Synod of the Orthodox Church of Russia clarified this issue back in 1810. Marriage was prohibited between godparents and a godson, as well as between the godson of the same godfather.
Godfathers and godfathers can enter into a marriage relationship because they are not blood relatives, do not lead to incest, and such a union is not prohibited by the church.
Where did nepotism come from?
This phenomenon has its roots in the history of early Christianity. Initially, even the blood parent himself could baptize a child. Subsequently, the approach to baptism and the spiritual connections established as a result of this sacrament changed somewhat.
Nepotism came to the territory of the Eastern Slavs from Byzantium along with Christianity itself. It should be considered that only in the 10th-12th centuries the first godfathers appeared on the territory of modern Russia and other CIS countries. This is due to the fact that previously Christianity in Rus' was a singular phenomenon and met serious resistance from the masses.
Can a godfather marry his godfather?
When two people of different genders act as godparents, they take an oath not to engage in sexual relations. Thus, it turns out that they cannot get married. Many sacred ministers are guided by this position, misinterpreting the position of “spiritual kinship.”
The Church does not have a definite answer on this issue, despite the permission of such a marriage by the Synod. But if the godfathers decide to get married and perform the sacrament of wedding in the Orthodox Church, then the consent of the bishop of the diocese should be asked. But if this is considered a sin, then where is the logical explanation for getting permission to sin. In any case, here you can act either according to your conscience or according to the call of your heart.
Many sacred ministers, speaking about the ban on marriage, are simply playing it safe, without understanding the essence of the problem. If we are guided by the resolution of the Ecumenical Council, then marriage is impossible:
Other situations are possible. Therefore, the godfather and godmother can marry.
Sometimes a misinterpretation leads to the destruction of a family of loving people. When one family heard that godparents should not marry, they dissolved the marriage relationship. Before making quick conclusions, you should study the problem and ask the opinion of an Orthodox priest.
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Is it possible for godfather and godfather to marry?
From the point of view of the church, not everything is so simple. The people who stood together and baptized one child are his spiritual parents and a spiritual relationship also arises between them. It is an obstacle to marriage between those who have baptized the same child. There are also situations that after a divorce the godfather and the godfather who baptized her child becomes his stepfather or after adoption by the father. Is it possible for godfathers to marry in such a situation?
The answer will be only an internal impulse, since the definition of godfather and godfather is a more modern concept. In early Christianity, when baptism was received as an adult, a person of the same sex became the godfather and couples were not taken as godfathers. Later, people became related in this way, but their children were forbidden from the point of view of the church to marry each other.
Today there are no obstacles, and if you talk to the priest, godfather and godfather can get married. And then, having become happy parents, they will be busy with other worries; they will need to choose a stroller, a crib, and look for a godfather for the child.
Despite the fact that many traditions that came to us from time immemorial have already been forgotten, today most children in the countries of the former USSR are baptized. In this case, it is customary to choose godfather and mother. The correct choice of godfather and godmother determines whether the child will have two additional people close to him in the future or not.
Is it possible for godparents of one child to marry?
Most recently, a draft document “On Church Marriage” was sent to the dioceses of the Russian Orthodox Church for consideration. This document is also discussed on the website and blog of the Inter-Council Presence and on the Bogoslov.Ru portal. This is an important event, since a document exploring the institution of church marriage in such detail appears in our Church for the first time.
Priest Maxim Gorozhankin
If we look at the history of the development of marriage law, we will see that many of its provisions are based on the legislative framework of the Roman Empire, and later Byzantium. The document that will be adopted is born in the depths of church thought, and its appearance is inextricably linked with the emergence of such an institution in our Church as the Inter-Council Presence.
When the draft document was published, the first thing that pleased me was that not only representatives of the clergy, but also the laity were included in the discussion. If you look at the comments on sites analyzing the draft document, you can clearly see that there are even more comments from active laity than comments from priests. This means that this document is in demand in our Church today, and many of its children, regardless of ranks and titles, are ready to reflect on the issues that are proposed for reflection by the Inter-Council Presence.
What about the registry office?
As you read this document, certain questions arise regarding its contents. For example, the text contains the following words:
“In modern practice, a wedding before the state registration of a marriage is possible as an exception with the blessing of the diocesan bishop - for example, in cases of upcoming participation in hostilities, a serious illness or a long separation of the future spouses.”
It is not entirely clear from the text why in these cases a wedding is possible without registration at the registry office.
If these provisions are prescribed, then it may be worthwhile to explain in the document itself why these conditions are considered acceptable for a wedding before state registration. Maybe if, for example, a young man is drafted into the army, it would be more appropriate to get engaged? After all, in the ancient Church betrothal and wedding did not take place on the same day. Why not return to a similar tradition in such situations?
If people who want to tie the knot, for objective reasons, do not have time to formalize the relationship in accordance with the law, they can get engaged, and when the situation normalizes, enter into both a civil and church marriage. This provision could be spelled out in more detail in the document.
Godfather - one
An important point that is mentioned in the draft document in one of the footnotes is that the adoptees of the same child can enter into a church marriage.
It is no secret that today in many churches a man and a woman who are going to get married, if they were godparents of the same child, can hear that this is a canonical obstacle to concluding a church marriage. A particularly zealous confessor can generally tell people who find themselves in such a situation that their marriage is impossible and, if they signed at the registry office, must be dissolved. But he will be deeply wrong.
From the order of the sacrament of holy baptism it is clear that the child has only one godfather. The boy has a man, the girl has a woman. Many Church Fathers insisted on this. In one of his decrees, Pope Leo the Great writes about this clearly. In the 15th century, Metropolitan Photius of Kiev writes about the same thing.
“By the Decree of the Holy Synod of December 31, 1837, the relationship between the successor and the successor was recognized as non-existent.”
This provision must move from a footnote to the main text so that we do not have questions that the Church has long and authoritatively given its answer to.
Who are the godfather and godfather of the godson's parents?
They become spiritual relatives to the child's physical parents. Actually, these people become members of each other’s families, along with blood relatives. Therefore, you should not invite empty and idle people to be godparents. Or, even worse, outright slackers and antisocial elements of society.
It is better to have one godparent than to invite anyone to this “position”, simply because it is customary to have a godfather and a mother. By the way, the church does not insist on this at all! There can be only one successor.
Orthodox marriage - understand the essence
The establishment of mandatory preparatory conversations before the Sacrament of Marriage is performed is another important provision of the document. Many people who get married either do not understand the meaning of a wedding or understand it very differently. (As in the case of baptism - “so that the child does not get sick.”) At interviews, a detailed explanation of the texts of the wedding rite is possible, so that those wishing to get married understand the full significance and depth of the upcoming sacrament.
When you conduct conversations before baptism, you often ask the question which of those present is married. It often turns out that out of thirty people, not a single one is married. When asked “why,” people say that they are afraid to get married or don’t get married because it will be difficult to get a divorce later.
Often weddings are perceived in a negative rather than a positive sense. Interviews will help believers understand what happens during the sacrament itself, and what an Orthodox marriage is in its essence.
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Why can't godparents get married?
A dilemma regarding the question “Can godparents who have baptized one child marry?” worries a lot of people. This list includes both the godparents themselves and the child’s blood parents. If, when choosing godparents, we are guided by the principle that people in a relationship cannot become godparents, then, in this case, warm and tender relationships can quite likely develop between godparents free from relationships.
A young couple who has fallen in love with each other begins to build their relationship and is already planning their wedding, when suddenly they learn about the terrible fact that they are forbidden to marry. How to deal with the problem that has arisen? Can godfathers get married or is it still not worth playing with fate? It is not for nothing that such unions have been considered prohibited for a long time.
Scientific definition of the word "godfather"
Godparents, as a rule, are called godparents of a child, that is, those who held him over the font during the Sacrament and made vows. These people, during the Baptism procedure, renounce Satan and take responsibility for the baby they are holding in their arms. And not only (and not so much) in the material plane, but in the spiritual. They are also called successors.
Godparents must understand that they must teach the child how to live correctly and help him avoid mistakes. Therefore, when answering the question of who the godfather and godfather are, it is necessary to understand that these are not just people who were present in the church at the time of Baptism. These are, in fact, the baby’s second parents. The responsibility here is very great! Godparents should set an example for the child and support him. By the way, the wives/husbands of godparents call each other godparents godfathers, although, in fact, they are not such.
Why can't godparents get married? Is it worth asking your godfather to marry?
Is it possible to marry a godfather?
During the baptismal ceremony, the newly made godparents take an oath before God that under no circumstances will they enter into intimate relationships with each other. This ritual continues to this day, despite the decree adopted by the Synod in 1810, which was mentioned earlier.
Despite the fact that more than two centuries have passed since the adoption of the decree, the church still cannot make a single decision regarding the fact whether godparents (who baptized one child) can still enter into a marriage union. In this regard, before making a final decision to enter into this kind of marriage, you need to contact the church and obtain permission for this union. Although, if you think about it, this “ritual” is performed more to calm one’s own conscience than to comply with any laws. After all, if a marriage between godfathers is truly a sin, then, at the very least, it is strange to ask permission for this.
In custody
To summarize all of the above, I would like to say the following: if in life it turns out that some feelings have nevertheless appeared between the godparents, then there is only one way out: either follow the laws of God or the dictates of the mind and the voice of the heart. Remember that no matter what choice you make, it will in no way affect the future fate of your godson. However, if you trust rumors, such marriages can only be fraught with married godparents. They say that these marriages are notable for their short duration.
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If believers are chosen as godparents (and this is the rule), then they should know about such subtleties. I know that some people really want to be godparents, while others don’t want to be godparents, precisely because of obligations and restrictions. I also don’t see anything reprehensible in the fact that godparents can establish close relationships with each other. This is not an intimate relationship with a godson or a relationship by blood, which indeed often produces defective offspring.
In general, this law is something that supposedly cannot be invented by ordinary people. Therefore, it seems to me that everything is possible if fate brings people together. How do the clergy know whether it is possible or not?? If the godfathers live in perfect harmony, this will not in any way affect the upbringing of the godson, and this is the main responsibility of the godfathers.
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How to choose godparents correctly?
Nowadays, when deciding who to take as a godfather, most often the choice falls on the best friends of the mother and father of the child. In fact, this approach is not entirely correct. The fact is that not every friend, even the best one at the moment, will be able to carry out with dignity the tasks that will be assigned to him. Therefore, before making a choice, you need to think carefully. In addition, it is quite important that godparents have the physical opportunity to visit the child at least once every 2-3 months. Otherwise, it will be difficult to talk about any connection between them and their ward.
The godfather plays a big role in the process of raising a girl. Who is the godfather in this case? The baby's godfather is a second father. It is from the example of these two men, if, of course, the godfather takes sufficient part in raising the girl, that she will learn how young people should behave towards her. As a result, if the godfather and blood father do not set a very good example, there is a high probability that her future husband will suffer from the same shortcomings.
As for the godmother, she should become a real second mother for her godchildren. If she does not visit her charges from the first months and years of their lives, then in the future they will not perceive her as a relative. Her task is to help the children's blood mother in raising them. At the same time, for many, close relationships with their godchildren become their first experience of communicating with children. In this case, the newly-made godfather will gain knowledge that will help her in raising her own children.
