There comes a time for every person when one of his relatives and friends dies. The body of a deceased person is buried in the ground, where he will remain for the rest of the time.
People can remember the dead in church. But many people wonder whether it is possible to remember on Sunday?
You can remember the dead on Sunday.
Let's take a closer look.
Funerals for deceased people are held on certain days. Funeral candles are used for this.
It was believed that at funerals and on the day of commemoration it was necessary to give alms to the poor.
In Orthodoxy, many traditions are taken from paganism. Including funeral ones. Need to figure this out
It could be candy, cookies, and they ask that the servant of God be remembered and called by name.
But in the church, clergy advise praying for the dead constantly and giving alms not only on memorial days.
Prayer book
a special book of prayers that you can use to pray at home
In order to pray for the dead in the church, you need to submit notes of repose, order memorial services and prayer services. It is also necessary to attend these services. You can also pray at home using a prayer book. The main thing is that you turn to God with a pure heart and soul.
Daily short prayer for the departed
Rest, O Lord, the souls of Your departed servants: my parents, relatives, benefactors (their names), and all Orthodox Christians, and forgive them all sins, voluntary and involuntary, and grant them the Kingdom of Heaven.
The Orthodox Church has special days on which the dead are remembered
Commemoration of the dead occurs on certain days:
- Ecumenical Parental Saturday - before Maslenitsa week;
- Ecumenical Parental Saturday - before Trinity. It always falls on different dates, you need to look at the calendar. (For example, in 2022 it was May 26);
- Lenten Saturdays on the 2nd, 3rd and 4th weeks of Lent before Easter;
- Radonitsa - celebrated on the 9th day after Easter;
- May 9 and September 11 - on these days a memorial service is held in the church for fallen soldiers;
- Dmitrievskaya Parents' Saturday - November 3.
Features of choosing a date when burying Jews
According to Jewish traditions, burial is organized on the day of death. But it is prohibited to hold farewell ceremonies on Saturdays and holidays. However, it is allowed to bury the dead at night, so funerals in Israel often begin after midnight, when the forbidden date passes.
In other countries, Jews take into account local traditions, which is why the burial may be postponed to the next day. It is also possible to postpone the funeral if important guests are expected. For example, the son of the deceased must arrive and recite the Kaddish prayer without fail. The main thing in Judaism is to fully pay last respects to the deceased.
There are typical questions about how to remember correctly - about alms, memorial tables and vodka
How to give alms for the dead at this time?
We need to distribute money, food, and clothing to all the poor and needy. It is believed that all this will be credited to the deceased.
After the death of the deceased, you can immediately order magpie in the temple. It will be read in the temple for all 40 days. That's why it gets its name.
For the first forty days, you need to pray long and hard for the deceased
Why do we need a funeral table?
A folk custom has also developed - after the funeral, to gather relatives and friends at the funeral table in the church. Of course, the church does not prevent this at all. But the main thing that should be done here is a common prayer to all those present for the repose of the soul of the newly deceased.
Where are the memorial tables in the temple?
As a rule, such a table stands next to the eve, where candles are lit for the repose. This eve has a square shape.
What do they put on the funeral table in the church?
Usually they put candy, cookies, flour. Mainly sweets, which are distributed to everyone who comes to the temple. This is what they bring to church for the funeral table
When asked “is it possible to remember with vodka”, the correct answer is no. In no case.
You can't commemorate it with vodka. Alcohol harms the deceased.
Alcohol will only harm the deceased. They gather at the table to remember a person with a kind word, to remember his good qualities and deeds.
Why is the remembrance of the dead performed?
The eternally living soul of the deceased experiences a great need for constant prayer, for it cannot itself do good deeds with which it would be able to appease the Lord.
Commemoration of the deceased is performed to determine their future path.
Everyone knows that the path of life, depending on how it is lived, leads a person to the threshold of eternal torment or eternal bliss, and there the soul awaits the resolution of its fate.
During this period, much depends on the prayers offered for him by the living, so it is necessary not only to celebrate funerals, which are essentially not needed by the dead, but also to pray, asking the Lord God and the Holy Saints to mitigate the fate and forgive the sins of the deceased.
The editors of the site recommend that you familiarize yourself with how to properly place candles in a church.
There are three main stages after the death of a person
The first time prayers take place on the 3rd day. The second time is commemorated on the 9th day and the third on the 40th day after the death of a person. The countdown begins not after the funeral, but after the death of the person.
Third day from the date of death. What's going on here? It is believed that a person is still on earth for 2 days after death. The Angel of the Lord walks with a person through those places that are most entrenched in the person’s memory. And only on the 3rd day the soul ascends to heaven to God. Here a person first appears before God.
Prayer for the third day:
Rest, O Lord, to the soul of Thy departed servant (Thy departed servant, the soul of Thy departed servant) (name) (bow),
and as much as man has sinned in this life (men have sinned),
You, like the Lover of Mankind, are God,
forgive him (you, them) and have mercy (bow),
deliver eternal torment (bow),
bow to the heavenly Kingdom of the communicant (participant, partakers),
and do something useful for our souls (bow).
Ninth day from the date of death. On this day, the Angels of God ask for mercy for the deceased. They ask to forgive the sins that he committed during his life. All this time the soul is getting acquainted with the Kingdom of Heaven, familiarizing itself with those places.
Prayer for the ninth day:
God of spirits and all flesh, having trampled down death and abolished the devil, and given life to Thy world!
O Lord, give rest to the souls of your departed servants:
His Holiness Patriarchs, His Eminence Metropolitans,
archbishops and bishops, in the priestly,
those who served You in church and monastic rank;
Every sin they have committed in word or deed or thought,
as a good Lover of mankind, God forgives,
for there is no man who will live and not sin.
For you are the only one apart from sin,
Your righteousness is righteousness forever, and Your word is truth.
For You are the Resurrection, and the Life and Peace of Your departed servants (name of the rivers),
Christ our God, and to You we send glory with Your beginningless Father,
and Your Most Holy, and Good, and Life-Giving Spirit,
now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.
Fortieth day from the date of death. Here the fate of a person is decided, where he will go next. At this time, it is very necessary to remember and read prayers for the deceased. But even after forty days, one should not forget about the deceased. You should always pray!
Prayer for the fortieth day:
Rest, O Lord, the souls of Your departed servants: my parents, relatives, benefactors (their names),
and all Orthodox Christians,
and forgive them all sins, voluntary and involuntary,
and grant them the Kingdom of Heaven.
On what day do believers of other faiths hold funerals?
Catholicism
Catholic funerals are similar to Orthodox ones, but there are differences between them. Some points are not so important for Catholics, for example, there is no washing procedure. Orthodox people do not tolerate embalming, unlike adherents of Catholicism. When a person is buried, only a crucifix is allowed as a decoration among religious symbols, and the appearance suffers changes in favor of freedom of style, unlike Orthodoxy.
The funeral process is also different. So, in Orthodoxy it is mandatory to bury in wooden coffins, but in Catholicism there is no restriction on this. However, the Catholic religion provides for burial only in a closed coffin. Also, the vigil ritual is not absent, since in Catholicism there is no concept of “ordeals of the soul,” and they decide for themselves when to bury a person after the death. Well, they have their costs. For example, a funeral service is held exclusively in a church.
All Saturdays of the year, unless they fall on holidays, are considered funerals.
According to church regulations, you can commemorate someone six months after death. Or maybe in a year. What do they put on eve in church at this time? In fact, nothing much changes.
In church you can remember in the same way. You can bring some of your own baked goods.
In the photo there is an eve on which there are baked goods, sweets, cookies, and flour. This is how the dead are remembered.
Many people are interested in the question: until what time should the newly deceased be commemorated? It does not depend on any time. You can remember it at least daily
After forty days the deceased is no longer newly deceased.
If you have the opportunity to remember at least on parental Saturdays, then perform such prayers for the deceased. Give a note in the temple, light candles. It is not necessary to hold a memorial service for a year or more. This is in relation to the funeral meal. Whether or not to gather relatives and friends of the deceased is at your own discretion. The main thing is to pray.
The most important question is: is it possible to remember on Sundays?
You can commemorate on any Sunday except Easter. And Easter is always on Sundays, it just falls on different dates. For example, in 2022, Easter was April 8th.
It is best if the person who decides to remember the deceased himself will be present in the temple and pray for him
And so you can pray, write notes, order funeral services
But how does the commemoration of the unbaptized departed take place?
Commemoration of the unbaptized dead does not take place in the Orthodox Church. It is forbidden to write in a note to a person who has not been baptized. When submitting a note in a church shop, they very often clarify whether the newly deceased has been baptized or not. Here you must always answer the truth.
Believe me, if a person is not baptized, but is commemorated in church, then this will not bring any benefit to the deceased. It will even be considered a sin.
Remembering someone who has not been baptized is considered a sin.
If for some reason you were unable to remember the deceased on the day of death, then you can do it the next day.
Very often people hear that you can’t remember on Monday.
The church charter says nothing about this. These are just thoughts and assumptions of people. Rather, this is said for the reason that Monday is considered a difficult day after the weekend. But it has nothing to do with the church.
From all that has been said, you need to understand the most important thing that for the deceased it is not so important whether you collect a memorial table or whether you gather acquaintances and friends for him, the most important thing is prayer!
Prayer in church and at home near icons. It is necessary to pray fervently especially in the first forty days.
No matter how hard it is, pray and hope that with your prayers the Lord will forgive the soul of the deceased and let him into his Kingdom of Heaven. And for the deceased it will be the best thing in that life.
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Interpretation by time of day
In addition to the specific day of the week when the church allows or prohibits visiting the cemetery, the time of day is also taken into account.
In the morning
Ancient ancestors always said that one should visit the cemetery early in the morning, when the sun has risen, since it is at these moments that the Lord releases the souls of the dead to earth. By late afternoon, even at lunchtime, this road is closed, so contact with your loved ones will be lost.
Mediums note that the most favorable time to visit the churchyard is from 6 am to 12 noon. At this time, energy exchanges between the worlds of the living and the dead freeze, and dark forces are not able to harm.
During the day
During the daytime, you can also plan to visit the grave, clean them and remember your own relatives. The main thing is to have time to do everything before dark. On the other hand, mediums do not advise visiting the churchyard after lunch - the energy exchange between worlds increases, and the dead can harm a living person. This is especially true for people who are suspicious and emotionally weak, whom the slightest rustle in the churchyard can throw them into panic. Therefore, it is worth postponing the visit until the next morning.
In the evening
The evening is also undesirable in relation to the time of visiting the graveyard - in this statement the church and folk signs are united. And superstitions say that the dead can rise from their graves and frighten the living. And simply anyone alive can disturb the souls of the departed, which can anger them.
At night
Night is also undesirable, and in categorical form it is undesirable to visit the graveyard - powerful streams of the other world penetrate into the world of the living and can cause harm both on a mental and physical level. Plus, church ministers give a simple and reasonable explanation of this prohibition - often the social elements of society that are not as dead as the living, not always positive, can cause harm. Homeless people and the mentally ill, bandits and even packs of dogs - they all pose a real danger at night for everyone alive.
How to count 9 days correctly
In order to properly conduct a wake for the deceased and support him with prayers, it is necessary to understand how the ninth day after death is calculated. A simple mathematical method will not work here, since you will have to take into account the day the person died. Moreover, it does not matter at what time this happened - at 9 am or at 10 pm, these days are taken into account when calculating.
For example, a loved one died at 8 pm on May 5, which means that the commemoration of the deceased on the ninth day is held on May 13. Since the period from death to the 40th day is especially important for the soul of a relative or loved one, it is necessary to take the commemoration on the 9th day responsibly and be sure to order a memorial service in an Orthodox church.
