Prayer for the anniversary of death: mother, father, memorial for the deceased

There are sad moments in life such as the loss of a loved one. On difficult days, relatives do everything to honorably see off a deceased loved one on his last journey and observe the necessary rituals. But not everyone knows what needs to be done a year after a person’s death. And such an event has its own rituals, and one of the main ones is a prayer for the anniversary of death.

Funeral rituals

What rituals are observed during the year:

visit the grave of the deceased at the cemetery, bring flowers;
order a memorial service at the church;
a funeral dinner is held;
read a prayer for remembrance of the soul.

You can go to the cemetery either with your closest people or on your own. This must be done during daylight hours. At the grave, you should clean everything up, light a candle, bring flowers and pray.

While at the cemetery, it is best to remember the best and brightest moments associated with the life of the deceased. Such thoughts bring peace and soothe pain.

The main thing is to indulge in memories to yourself and not make noise. They mourn quietly, without wailing or crying bitterly. You need to restrain yourself, not disturb the soul of the deceased and not attract bad thoughts.

Bringing food and drinks to the cemetery is not recommended, as is alcohol, which is often placed on the grave of the deceased. The only exception is kutia consecrated in the church. It is better to move food intake to an appropriate place.

The clergy of the Christian Church prohibit eating food in burial places. But both parapsychologists and scientists are also of the opinion that when commemorating the deceased in the halls of the graveyard, you should not consume food and drinks, because You can attract negative energy to yourself.

Prayer for a deceased husband

“Christ Jesus, Lord and Almighty! You are the consolation of the weeping, the intercession of the orphans and widows. You said: call on Me in the day of your sorrow, and I will destroy you. In the days of my sorrow, I run to You and pray to You: do not turn Your face away from me and hear my prayer brought to You with tears.

You, Lord, Master of all, have deigned to unite me with one of Your servants, so that we may be one body and one spirit; You gave me this servant as a companion and protector. It was Your good and wise will that you would take this servant of Yours away from me and leave me alone.

I bow before Your will and I resort to You in the days of my sorrow: quench my sorrow about separation from Your servant, my friend. Even if you took him away from me, do not take your mercy away from me. Just as you once accepted two mites from widows, so accept this prayer of mine.

Remember, Lord, the soul of Your deceased servant (name), forgive him all his sins, voluntary and involuntary, whether in word, or in deed, or in knowledge and ignorance, do not destroy him with his iniquities and do not consign him to eternal torment, but according to Your great mercy and according to the multitude of Thy compassions, weaken and forgive all his sins and commit them with Thy saints, where there is no sickness, no sorrow, no sighing, but endless life.

I pray and ask You, Lord, grant that all the days of my life I will not cease to pray for Your departed servant, and even before my departure, ask You, the Judge of the whole world, to forgive all his sins and place him in the Heavenly abodes, which You have prepared for those who love Cha.

For even if you sin, do not depart from You, and undoubtedly the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit are Orthodox even to your last breath of confession; impute to him the same faith, even in You, instead of works: for there is no man who will live and not sin, You are the only one besides sin, and Your righteousness is righteousness forever.

I believe, Lord, and confess that You will hear my prayer and do not turn Your face away from me. Seeing a widow weeping green, you were merciful, and you brought her son to the grave, carrying her to the grave;

How did You open to Your servant Theophilus, who went to You, the doors of Your mercy and forgave him his sins through the prayers of Your Holy Church, heeding the prayers and alms of his wife: here and I pray to You, accept my prayer for Your servant and bring him into eternal life.

For You are our hope. You are God, the hedgehog to have mercy and save, and we send glory to You with the Father and the Holy Spirit. Amen".

Funeral dinner

A funeral dinner is an important rite of passage on the anniversary of a death. You can go to the grave or church on your own, and all the important people close to the deceased are gathered at the table.

Those gathered together remember the best events associated with the deceased, and all together remember his soul in Christ. But for this event to go well, you need to know how to organize it correctly and what to serve.

Where to hold the funeral dinner is decided by people close to the deceased. It can be arranged at home, in a narrow circle. Lunches in cafes and restaurants are acceptable.

The table is set at the discretion of the owners. For lunch it is customary to serve both first and second courses. This could be soup, puree, cutlets, etc. The main thing is to remember: if such a lunch falls during Lent, then the dishes on the table should not contain components of animal origin.

There is one dish that must be on the table - kutia. The treat symbolizes a prosperous afterlife, which is why it is consumed first.

There should be no alcoholic drinks on the table. And compote is poured into a glass, which is placed especially for the deceased.

When serving cutlery for a meal, remember that guests should not be given forks and knives.

Before the start of lunch, the head (father) of the family gets up and says a prayer, after which you can start the meal.

Christian customs prescribe the following set of dishes for the memorial day of the anniversary:

hot (borscht or cabbage soup);
second course (meat with side dish);
pies;
compote;
Kutya;
sweets.

In addition to the funeral dinner itself, in Christian customs it is customary to give everyone who comes to the funeral a bag of sweets or cookies and a handkerchief. Cookies are sometimes replaced with a lean roll or pie.

Prayer for a deceased wife

“Christ Jesus, Lord and Almighty! In contrition and tenderness of my heart, I pray to You: rest, O Lord, the soul of Your departed servant (name), in Your Heavenly Kingdom. Lord Almighty! You blessed the marital union of husband and wife, when you said: it is not good for man to be alone, let us create for him a helper for him.

You have sanctified this union in the image of the spiritual union of Christ with the Church. I believe, Lord, and confess that You have blessed me to unite me in this holy union with one of Your handmaids. By your good and wise will you deigned to take away from me this servant of yours, whom you have given to me as a helper and companion of my life.

I bow before Your will, and I pray to You with all my heart, accept my prayer for Your servant (name), and forgive her if you sin in word, deed, thought, knowledge and ignorance; Love earthly things more than heavenly things; Even if you care more about the clothing and decoration of your body than about the enlightenment of the clothing of your soul; or even careless about your children; if you upset anyone by word or deed; If there is a grudge in your heart against your neighbor or condemn someone or anything else you have done from such evil people.

Forgive her all this, for she is good and philanthropic; for there is no man who will live and not sin. Do not enter into judgment with Thy servant, as Thy creation, do not condemn her to eternal torment for her sin, but have mercy and mercy according to Thy great mercy.

I pray and ask You, Lord, to grant me strength throughout the days of my life, without ceasing to pray for Your departed servant, and even until the end of my life to ask her from You, the Judge of the whole world, to forgive her sins.

Yes, as if You, God, placed a crown of stone on her head, crowning her here on earth; Thus crown me with Thy eternal glory in Thy Heavenly Kingdom, with all the saints who rejoice there, so that together with them He may forever sing Thy all-holy name with the Father and the Holy Spirit. Amen".

Visiting church on death anniversary

Before going to the cemetery, you need to visit the church and order a service. If you come to the liturgy, you must write a note indicating the name of the deceased. In this case, it will be on the lips of the priest during prayer. The main condition in this case will be to arrive in the morning, before the start of the service.

You can also order a memorial service. The ceremony is ordered on the 3rd, 9th and 40th day after the death of a loved one. It is recommended to order it both for the anniversary and for subsequent anniversaries of a person’s death.

To order, you need to bring food to the church and place it on a specially designated table. After this, give a note with the name of your loved one to the clergyman. When the funeral service begins, it is important to be present so that prayers are heard.

Prayer for the deceased mother

“Lord Jesus Christ our God! You are the keeper of the orphans, the refuge of the grieving and the comforter of the weeping. I come running to you, an orphan, groaning and crying, and I pray to you: hear my prayer and do not turn your face away from the sighs of my heart and from the tears of my eyes. I pray to You, merciful Lord, satisfy my grief over separation from my mother who gave birth to and raised me,

(name), accept her soul, as if it has gone to You with true faith in You and with firm hope in Your love for mankind and mercy, into Your Kingdom of Heaven.

I bow before Your holy will, which was taken away from me, and I ask You not to take away Your mercy and mercy from her. We know, Lord, that You are the Judge of this world, you punish the sins and wickedness of the fathers in children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren, even to the third and fourth generation: but you also have mercy on the fathers for the prayers and virtues of their children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

With contrition and tenderness of heart, I pray to You, merciful Judge, do not punish with eternal punishment Your deceased servant, unforgettable for me, my mother (name), but forgive her all her sins, voluntary and involuntary, in word and deed, knowledge and ignorance, committed by her in her life here on earth, and according to Your mercy and love for mankind, prayers for the sake of the Most Pure Mother of God and all the saints, have mercy on me and deliver me from eternal torment.

You, merciful Father of fathers and children! Grant me, all the days of my life, until my last breath, not to cease to remember my departed mother in my prayers, and to beg You, the righteous Judge, to order me in a bright place, in a cool place and in a place of peace, with all the saints , from here all illness, sorrow and sighing have escaped.

Merciful Lord! Accept this day for Thy servant (name) my warm prayer and reward her with Thy reward for the labors and cares of my upbringing in faith and Christian piety, as she taught me first of all to lead Thee, my Lord, to reverently pray to Thee, in Thee alone to trust in troubles, sorrows and illnesses and keep Your commandments;

for her concern for my spiritual success, for the warmth of her prayer for me before You and for all the gifts she asked me from You, reward her with Your mercy, Your heavenly blessings and joys in Your eternal Kingdom.

For You are the God of mercies and generosity and love for mankind, You are the peace and joy of Your faithful servants, and we send glory to You with the Father and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto the ages of ages. Amen".

Prayers for the hour

In addition to ordering church ceremonies, you can also independently pray for the repose of the soul of the deceased. This is done both in the cemetery and at home. Prayer is needed for the soul of the deceased to find peace.

There are many prayers. There are those that are intended for close people - mother, father, child. But you can use prayers of a general nature, such as for an anniversary or for the fortieth day of death. In this case, this prayer will work well:

You can also use another prayer:

If a person has lost his parents, then he can pray for the salvation of the souls of his mother and father in a separate prayer, which is intended for close people. For this purpose the following prayer is used:

Prayer after 40 days

The soul of the deceased must be supported and remembered on important dates and after 40 days of ordeal. This is the general text of a prayer for remembering someone who died more than 40 days ago:

“Remember, O Lord our God, in the faith and hope of the life of Thy eternally departed servant, our brother (name), and as Good and Lover of mankind, forgiving sins and consuming untruths, weaken, forsake and forgive all his voluntary and involuntary sins, deliver him eternal torment and fire of Gehenna,

and grant him the participation and enjoyment of Your eternal good things, prepared for those who love You: even if you sin, do not depart from You, and undoubtedly in the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, God glorify You in the Trinity, faith, and the Unity in the Trinity and the Trinity in Unity, Orthodox even until his last breath of confession.

Be merciful to him, and faith, even in You instead of deeds, and with Your saints, as You give generous rest: for there is no man who will live and not sin. But You are the One besides all sin, and Your righteousness is righteousness forever, and You are the One God of mercies and generosity, and love for mankind, and to You we send glory to the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, now and ever, and to the ages of ages. Amen".

Prayer for forgiveness of the sins of the deceased

Another very important general request. It is read especially diligently if a person did not have time to confess before death, and he has sins for which he has not repented:

Even if you sin, do not depart from You, and undoubtedly in the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, God glorify You in the Trinity, faith, and the Unity in the Trinity and the Trinity in Unity, Orthodox even until your last breath of confession.

Prayer to Michael the Archangel for the unbaptized dead

Michael the Archangel, the archstrategist, the leader of the entire heavenly army, is very soft in heart. He forgives all sins upon sincere petitions.

You can even pray to Him to alleviate the fate of those who are destined to burn in the lake of fire, that is, suicides and excommunicated people.

This prayer should be read especially if you are praying for an unbaptized loved one:

“Lord God the Great King, Beginningless! Send, O Lord, Thy Archangel Michael to the aid of Thy servant (name), take me away from my enemies, visible and invisible.

Oh, Lord Michael the Archangel! destroyer of demons: forbid all enemies who fight with me, make them like sheep and crush them like dust before the wind. Oh, Lord the Great Archangel Michael! The six-winged first prince and commander of the heavenly powers, Cherub and Seraphim.

Oh, beloved Archangel Michael, be my helper in all grievances, sorrows, sorrows; in deserts, at crossroads, on rivers and seas - a quiet refuge. Deliver me, Great Archangel Michael, from all the charms of the devil, when I hear my sinful servant (name) praying to you and calling on you and calling on your holy name: hasten to help me and hear my prayer.

Oh, great Archangel Michael! The whole of the honest and life -giving heavenly cross of the Lord, the prayers of the Most Holy Theotokos and the Holy Apostles, the holy prophet of the God of Elijah, the Holy of Nicholas the Miracle Worker, the Holy of the Great Martyr Nikita and Eustathius, the Monk Father and the Holy of Saints and all the Holy Heavenly Heavenly Heads, . Amen".

Prayers for every deceased Christian

Prayer 1

Rest, O Lord, the souls of Your departed servants: my parents, relatives, benefactors (names), and all Orthodox Christians, and forgive them all sins, voluntary and involuntary, and grant them the Kingdom of Heaven.

Prayer 2

Remember, O Lord our God, in faith and hope the life of your eternally departed (before the 40th day from the day of death - newly reposed) Thy servant (Thy deceased servant, Thy departed servant) (name), and as You are Good and Lover of Mankind, forgiving sins and consuming untruths , weaken, leave, and forgive all his (her) voluntary and involuntary sins,

raising him up at Your holy second coming to partake of Your eternal blessings, for the sake of the only faith in You, the true God and Lover of mankind; for Thou art the resurrection and the life and the rest of Thy servant (name), Christ our God, and to Thee we ascribe glory, with Thy beginningless Father, and with the Most Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages, Amen.

Prayer 3

Remember, O Lord our God, in the faith and hope of the eternal life of Your departed servant, our brother (name), and as Good and Lover of mankind, forgiving sins and consuming untruths, weaken, forsake and forgive all his voluntary and involuntary sins, deliver him eternal torment and fire of Gehenna,

Be merciful to him, and faith, even in You, instead of deeds, and with Your saints, as You are Generous, give rest: for there is no man who will live and not sin. But You are the One besides all sin, and Your righteousness is righteousness forever, and You are the One God of mercies and generosity and love for mankind, and we send glory to You, the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto the ages of ages.

Translation: Remember, O Lord our God, (according to our) faith and hope for eternal life, Your departed servant (name of the deceased). And, since you are Good and Humane, forgive (him) his sins, neglect self-deception (him), diminish, free, forgive and forgive him all his sins, consciously and unconsciously committed, deliver him from endless punishment and fiery punishment, and grant him participation to Your eternal blessings,

which are prepared for those who love You and joy from them: even though he sinned, he did not retreat from You (he did not betray); and, undoubtedly, believed in the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit - God, glorified (by us all) as the Trinity; and until his last breath (he) adhered to this.

Therefore, be merciful, and (with this) faith in You replace his works and place him among Your saints: after all, there is no person who lives a life without sin. It is You alone who are like that - Sinless and Your truth is absolute, You are the One and Only God - merciful, generous and truly loving us people.

And (we) send up glory to You (from our hearts) - as the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit - now, as before - and always, forever. Amen (that is, I say what is due according to Your law).

Prayer for a deceased father

I pray to You, merciful Lord, satisfy my grief over separation from my parent, (name), who gave birth and raised me, and accept his soul, as if it has gone to You with true faith in You and with firm hope in Your philanthropy and mercy, into Your Kingdom Heavenly.

I bow before Your holy will, which was taken away from me, and I ask You not to take away Your mercy and mercy from him. We know, Lord, that You are the Judge of this world, you punish the sins and wickedness of the fathers in children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren, even to the third and fourth generation: but you also have mercy on the fathers for the prayers and virtues of their children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

With contrition and tenderness of heart, I pray to Thee, merciful Judge, do not punish with eternal punishment the deceased unforgettable servant of Thy parent (name), but forgive him all his sins, voluntary and involuntary, in word and deed, knowledge and ignorance, committed by him in his life here on earth, and according to Your mercy and love for mankind, prayers for the sake of the Most Pure Mother of God and all the saints, have mercy on him and deliver him from eternal torment.

You, merciful Father of fathers and children! Grant me, all the days of my life, until my last breath, not to cease to remember my deceased parent in my prayers, and to beg You, the righteous Judge, to order him in a place of light, in a cool place and in a place of peace, with all the saints , from here all illness, sorrow and sighing have escaped. Merciful Lord!

Accept this day for Thy servant (name) my warm prayer and give him Thy reward for the labors and cares of my upbringing in faith and Christian piety, as He who taught me first of all to lead You, my Lord, to pray to You in reverence,

trust in You alone in troubles, sorrows and illnesses and keep Your commandments; for his concern for my spiritual success, for the warmth of the prayer he brings for me before You and for all the gifts he asked me from You, reward him with Your mercy, Your heavenly blessings and joys in Your eternal Kingdom.

Prayer for the deceased grandmother

“Remember, O Lord our God, in the faith and hope of the eternal life of Thy servant (name), and as he is good and a lover of mankind, forgiving sins and consuming iniquities, weaken, forgive and forgive all his voluntary and involuntary sins, raising him up at Thy holy second coming in the communion of Your eternal blessings, for the sake of the One who has faith in You, the true God and Lover of mankind.

For Thou art the resurrection and life and rest of Thy servant (name), Christ our God. And we send up glory to You, with Your beginningless Father and with the Most Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages, Amen.”

Prayer for a deceased grandfather

“Remember, O Lord our God, in faith and hope the life of Thy eternal servant (name), and as he is good and a lover of mankind, forgiving sins and consuming iniquities, weaken, forgive and forgive all his voluntary and involuntary sins, raising him up at Thy holy second coming in the communion of Thy eternal blessings, for the sake of the One who has faith in Thee, the true God and Lover of mankind.

For Thou art the resurrection and life and rest of Thy servant, (name), Christ our God. And we send up glory to You, with Your beginningless Father and with the Most Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages, Amen.”

Prayer for a deceased daughter

“Lord Jesus Christ, our God, Lord of life and death, Comforter of the afflicted! With a contrite and tender heart, I run to You and pray to You: remember, Lord, in Your Kingdom your deceased servant, my child (name), and create for her an eternal memory.

You, Lord of life and death, have given me this child. It was your good and wise will to take it away from me. Blessed be Thy name, O Lord. I pray to You, Judge of heaven and earth, with Your endless love for us sinners, forgive my deceased child all his sins, voluntary and involuntary, in word, in deed, in knowledge and ignorance.

Forgive, O Merciful One, our parental sins as well, so that they may not remain on our children: we know that we have sinned many times before You, many of whom we have not observed, and have not done, as You commanded us. Even if our deceased child, ours or his own, for the sake of guilt, lived in this life, working for the world and his flesh, and no more than You, his Lord and God:

If you have loved the delights of this world, and not more than Your Word and Your commandments, if you have given yourself over to the indulgences of life, and not more than contrition for your sins, and in intemperance have given up vigil, fasting and prayer to oblivion - I earnestly pray to You, forgive, most gracious Father, my child forgive and forgive all such sins, even if you have done other evil things in this life.

Christ Jesus! You raised up the daughter of Jairus through the faith and prayer of her father. You healed the daughter of the Canaanite wife through faith and the request of her mother: hear my prayer, and do not despise my prayer for my child.

but You are the only One besides all sin: so that when you judge the world, my child will hear Your most beloved voice: come, blessed of My Father, and inherit the Kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world.

For You are the Father of mercies and generosity. You are our life and resurrection, and we send glory to You with the Father and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen".

Prayer for a deceased son

“Lord Jesus Christ, our God, Lord of life and death, Comforter of the afflicted! With a contrite and tender heart, I run to You and pray to You: remember, Lord, in Your Kingdom your departed servant, my child (name), and create for him an eternal memory.

If our deceased child, ours or his own, for the sake of guilt, lived in this life, working for the world and his flesh, and not more than You, the Lord and his God: if you loved the delights of this world, and not more than Your Word and Your commandments, if you surrendered with the pleasures of life, and not more with contrition for one’s sins,

and in intemperance, vigil, fasting and prayer have been abandoned to oblivion - I earnestly pray to Thee, forgive, most good Father, all such sins of my child, forgive and weaken, even if you have done other evil things in this life.

Forgive, Lord, forgive all his sins and, having forgiven and cleansed his soul, remove eternal torment and dwell with all Your saints, who have pleased You from the ages, where there is no sickness, no sorrow, no sighing, but endless life: like there is no man like He will live and will not sin, but You are the only One besides all sin: so that when you judge the world, my child will hear Your most beloved voice: come, blessed of My Father, and inherit the Kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world.

For You are the Father of mercies and generosity. You are our life and resurrection, and we send glory to You with the Father and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen".