Handjob among girls and women
Female masturbation is considered the same great sin as male masturbation, because everyone’s thoughts and deeds are equal.
The harlot should stop thinking about sinful desires and thoughts, and be sure to repent of the committed act.
But young children, particularly girls, often do not know the meaning of the action they perform. Most often this occurs due to discomfort or itching in the genital area.
Parents should gently find out why the girl is doing this action and try to eliminate the reason. It is recommended to wear more comfortable clothes and bathe your child more often.
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What do the holy fathers say about masturbation?
Theophan the Recluse wrote that masculinity is a mortal sin, since the person who commits it succumbs to forbidden passions. He is weak and not ready to fight temptation, which takes up a lot of his energy and time.
Sinful masturbation, according to Theophan, “dries up and causes premature death... it can also cause insanity.”
To the question of the priest, Abba Serapion replied that according to the Bible, the second son of Judah, Onan, was punished with death for not allowing the seed to spill into his own wife (where the meaning of the word masturbation came from).
The sin of fornication is much more terrible, and if a person cannot restrain his desires, then it is better to abolish his desires in marriage, in a more righteous way.
Shameful fall
After each “fall” you experience burning shame, despondency, a feeling of falling away from God, a feeling of guilt, you feel that you betrayed “your first love” for the sake of shameful animal pleasure. The thoughts that haunt me are: you can’t even look at the icons! And it’s a shame to pray! And in the temple stand next to the pure and chaste! And you will not have any love or a husband, because husbands are given only to the right girls who live blamelessly!
It is clear that these are thoughts from the evil one, who first tempts you with the sweetness of sin, and then tries to plunge you into despondency. It’s scary to go to confession with this - firstly, it’s shameful, unbearably embarrassing to admit that you have a body, and the body has instincts, desires, needs and hormones, secondly - let the priest only be a witness who has heard this many times, he was and remains a man. Sometimes you even avoid going to confession with your spiritual father/confessor because you don’t want to appear in an unsightly form in front of a person you respect and love. Not very Christian thoughts, but very human thoughts, where to go. It’s good if during confession you come across a kind, understanding and tactful priest - he won’t ask for details, will support you and find the right words, or even just remain silent. And if not? Not everyone will find the strength to stop a priest who is rude, humiliating, or sadistically asking for the smallest details. Of course, over the years of church life, some “skin” grows and the likelihood of injury becomes less, but it never completely disappears.
How to get rid of handjob once and for all
The first step is to be absolutely sure of your desire to overcome masturbation. You should turn to yourself and try to understand the reason for bad desires and actions.
You need to go to church and confess, telling it like it is. The priest will help you and give advice. Do not stop praying daily, especially when the sinful desire is strong. If giving up malakia is very difficult, then to help yourself, you can start visiting church more often and surrounding yourself with icons at home.
To get rid of a sinful habit and thoughts about it, you should pray to the Most Holy Theotokos, who is a symbol of purity and chastity. The main thing is not to stop believing in cleansing and sincerely wishing for it.
Before we begin to explore the topic further
I think we Christians have a big problem when we discuss issues like this. It's very easy to turn this question into a black and white issue. The easiest way is always to state directly: “everyone who masturbates is a sin, period!” I notice that we as Christians like to rush to judgment on any topic without stopping at all to first show compassion and understanding to the person and the challenges they face that contribute to why they are involved in the first place in doubtful matters - even if our judgment is correct. Is judgment the main goal for us Christians? I do not believe in that!
Wasn't this one of the most important things that separated Jesus from the Pharisees? Legal experts at the time were convinced that authorities were critical and that punishment was the only option (think of the woman caught in adultery). The idea that power should be based on mercy and that its purpose should be to help people escape from trouble, to free them from guilt, never occurred to them. They knew this thrill of exerting power to condemn; Jesus was familiar with another thrill - to exercise power to forgive and heal. 46 years of association with the church have taught me that for all of us at times, like the Pharisees, cold and hard judgment is a much easier dish to prepare than mercy, understanding and compassion, even when the person before us is guilty.
Here are two real life examples. With all that said, how would you feel about the following two situations?
The first situation: a man who was married for many years, but then his wife died. For this man, masturbation was not a means to satisfy his carnal sexual urges, but a way to reconnect with his lost lover, remembering the special bond of love that once united them.
Second situation: a man with homosexual desires, married. Although he loves his wife with all his heart, due to his sexual orientation he is incapable of having a sexual relationship with her, so he uses masturbation as a way to fantasize about his wife to "relearn" to give himself the opportunity to "reprogram" his thinking patterns. so that his attraction is directed towards his wife and not towards other men.
Both of these men I spoke with prove that for them, in their particular circumstances, masturbation is not a sin.
Are these men “in sin?” As noted above, some will answer "of course yes!" and some will say it is a "gray" area, but these 2 men will tell you that their consciences are clear and that for them it is not a sinful act. Whether you consider it a sin or not, I would suggest that we all need to show a lot of compassion and empathy to those in similar circumstances. As James warns us in his letter (2:13): “judgment without mercy is to him who has shown no mercy; mercy exalts itself over judgment!
We focus too easily on what sin is and not enough on the grace of God that covers us when we or others sin. It is much easier to judge and condemn others and even ourselves, feeling the pangs of guilt that so often accompany a sinful act, but it is much more difficult to accept the mercy and mercy of God and understand that “his grace is sufficient” (2 Corinthians 12:9) when we We work through the challenges facing us in life.
Prayers for masturbation
Prayers that should be read at home with a sincere desire to get rid of a bad habit and cleanse your mind and body are presented below. You can also turn to saints who either were themselves subject to the same passions during their lives, or who helped get rid of fornication.
Lord Jesus
Almighty God, who created all creation with wisdom, raise me up with Your hand, having fallen through many sins: grant me Your help, and grant me freedom from worldly temptations, from the devil’s snares, and from carnal lusts. Have mercy and forgive me all who have sinned all the days of my life; anoint my soul with the oil of grace and generosity of Your only begotten Son, the Lord God and our Savior Jesus Christ, with Him all glory befits You and the Holy Spirit forever. Amen.
Prayer to the Wonderworker and Saint Euthymius of Novgorod
St. Euthymius had from the Lord a wonderful gift of delivering those suffering from carnal passion.
Father Saint Euthymius! From your youth you have loved Christ, and through His grace we are strengthened, you have put to death all carnal wisdom, by your pure life and meek disposition you have pleased the Lord, and by His grace, laboring on the throne of the holiness, you have appeared to the flock of Christ of Great Novograd, a good shepherd, your soul take care of your flock. Likewise, even after your death, the Chief Shepherd Christ glorified you with the donations of miracles flowing from you, showing us the image of a virtuous life in you. In the same way, I, sinful and sad, falling to the side of your relics, I earnestly pray to you: give me a helping hand, raise me with your prayers from the depths of sin: for I am overwhelmed by the waves of carnal passions and other countless everyday worries. Be that I, a sinner, warm to Christ, a representative and prayer book, and even if I am delivered from the drowning of sin, I will reach the refuge of an immaculate life by the grace of Christ, and with a pure life I will glorify my Savior, who redeemed me with His blood: and having finished this life, I will receive eternal life in the Kingdom Heaven, where the Most Honorable and Magnificent Name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit is glorified, now and ever and forever and ever. Amen.
Prayer to St. John the Long-Suffering
Rev. During his life, John was often tempted by demons, who kindled lust and passion in him. The saint, in order to get rid of filth, tested himself, exhausted himself with hunger, wore heavy chains, and completely, leaving only his head on the surface, buried himself in a hole. Once the saint spent the entire Great Lent in this position.
O sacred head, reverend father, most blessed Abbot John, do not forget your poor to the end, but always remember us in holy and auspicious prayers to God: remember your flock, which you yourself shepherded, and do not forget to visit your children, pray for us, father sacred, for your spiritual children, as you have boldness towards the Heavenly King: do not keep silent to the Lord for us, and do not despise us, who honor you with faith and love: remember us unworthy at the Throne of the Almighty, and do not stop praying for us to Christ God, for You have been given the grace to pray for us. We do not imagine that you are dead: even though you have passed away from us in body, but remain alive even after death, do not depart from us in spirit, keeping us from the arrows of the enemy and all the charms of the demonic and the machinations of the devil, to our good shepherd even more than the relics your cancer is always visible before our eyes, but your holy soul with the angelic hosts, with the disembodied faces, with the heavenly powers, standing at the throne of the Almighty, worthily rejoices, knowing that you are truly alive even after death, we fall down to you and we pray to you: pray about us to the Almighty God, about the benefit of our souls, and ask us time for repentance, so that we may pass from earth to heaven without restraint, and from bitter ordeals, demons of air princes and from eternal torment, may we be delivered from eternal torment, and may we be heirs of the Heavenly Kingdom with all the righteous, from all eternity have pleased our Lord Jesus Christ: to Him belongs all glory, honor and worship, with His Father without beginning, and with His Most Holy and Good and Life-giving Spirit, now and ever, and unto ages of ages. Amen.
Prayer to Saint Martinian of Caesarea
Saint Martinian was tempted by a harlot who came to his house. The monk threw himself on the hot coals to extinguish the growing passion and lust in his body, and stood there until he completely got rid of the misfortune. During his life he traveled a lot, moving from place to place, retiring to remote corners where there were no women.
Kontakion, tone 2
As skilful ascetics of piety, and a sufferer of honest will, and a desert dweller and inhabitant, let us worthily praise in song the ever-honorable Martinian: for he has trampled upon the serpent.
Ikos
From end to end, the broadcast of your red virtues and Divine deeds passed: when you were young in age, you desired to live in the deserts, singing to Christ, singing psalms and prayers ever after: but growing day and night in illnesses and tears, you ended your pure life and, wise, you have put to shame the evil one, for you have trampled upon the serpent.
Prayer to Saint Moses Ugrin
Rev. Moses was captured by the King of Poland and then ransomed by a wealthy Polish woman. A noble Lyakhina tried to involve her captive in a fornication, but the righteous husband did not succumb, since a pious life was more valuable to him. Then the Polish woman left the teacher. Moses was thrown into a pit, she was not given food for many days, she ordered him to be beaten, then she condemned him to be a eunuch and drove him away with dishonor.
O wonderful and God-bearing Father Moses, a great servant of Christ and a great miracle worker, we humbly fall down to you and pray: let us be partakers of your love for God and neighbor, help us to do the will of the Lord in simplicity of heart and humility, to fulfill the Lord’s commandments without sin, look with compassion for every soul of your faithful admirers who seek your mercy and help.
To her, all-merciful servant of God, hear us praying to you, and do not despise us, who demand your intercession and bring you a worthy song, we please you, Father Moses, we glorify you, purity of the lamp, glorifying the merciful God, in the Holy, Originless Trinity of the glorified Father and Son and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.
How to repent of the sin of masturbation
In confession, it is better to call masturbation sinful or prodigal touches. The main thing is to speak honestly, openly and not be shy.
Although it is difficult to speak without embarrassment, the more truthfully and without deceit you tell about everything, the purer your soul will become, and the easier it will be to cleanse yourself.
You can write on a piece of paper if you are completely ashamed to admit your actions, and give the piece of paper to the priest.
Church ministers who constantly accept confession listen to everything they can during their lives, and they try to make it easier for a person to confess if they see that he is honest and open to conversation.
Just because it's wrong for you doesn't mean it's wrong for me.
Some might argue that just because masturbation goes against my conscience, that doesn't mean it's wrong for them too; they will say that their conscience is clear. I realize that, especially in the church environment, our conscience is often shaped more by our environment and the habits of the group to which we belong, and that our moral standards often have more in common with human tradition than with the will of God. In saying this, let me refer to the words of the Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 4:4, where he states that a clear conscience does not mean that a person is innocent, but only God judges his guilt or innocence. So, for those of you who are thinking, “Masturbation is not a sin in my unique situation, and I don’t feel any guilt at all,” that doesn’t mean you’re innocent.
