7 tips for stop masturbation: how to stop masturbating

Benefits of masturbation

On the Internet you can find articles that write about the benefits of masturbation for women - it helps prevent cervical infections, reduces the risk of type 2 diabetes, helps the functioning of the immune system, and prevents infertility. And men are promised good prostate health.

However, if you dig deeper, you will not find a single study, even with a minimal sample, that could confirm these statements.

Moreover, if we take into account the nine-month pregnancy of women, wet dreams (involuntary ejaculation in a man due to abstinence) - it is clearly seen that both boys and girls are naturally capable of long-term abstinence without harm to the body.

Another thing is the porn industry, which is directly interested in having as many people as possible engage in self-satisfaction and making it even richer.

Why is it difficult to quit masturbation?

Masturbation is a type of sexual addiction. You can defend masturbation. You may see no reason to quit masturbation. However, nothing will change the truth that masturbation is a real addiction . Like any compulsive behavior, it damages our psyche. I wrote about this in detail in the article “What is compulsive behavior?” I recommend reading it.

In terms of strength, masturbation is equivalent to alcohol or drug addiction. And this is not an exaggeration.

The easy availability of masturbation and its “innateness” further makes a person mistakenly believe that it is “natural” and there is nothing to worry about.

This article will provide a step-by-step plan for specific actions on how to quit masturbation .

What happens if you jerk off a lot and often?

Frequent masturbation does not cause direct or immediate harm. Its effect is similar to a weed seed, which is not immediately visible at the time of sowing, but later when the weed grows, it destroys healthy plants and does not allow them to fully develop.

That is why many people, not seeing the harm from masturbation “in the moment,” continue to engage in self-satisfaction. However, you should be aware of the serious consequences that will appear later from regular masturbation.

Harm to physical health

Men don't get hard on real women.

The decrease in potency is associated with two reasons - psychological and physiological.

1. From a psychological point of view, the root of the problem is due to the fact that guys get used to stimulating the brain with ideal images of girls - with big breasts, a narrow waist, a big butt, always styled and made up, in sexy outfits. The situation is aggravated by the fact that when a man jerks off, every time in his fantasies or on the monitor screen the girl’s appearance, her clothes, surroundings, and character change. And in life - the same girl, with the same appearance, with the same character, often in the same underwear as the last few months. It is quite logical that the brain does not react to such images as it should. How to deal with this problem is described in detail in the article “how to stop watching porn.”
2. From a physiological point of view, the problem is aggravated by the often unnatural stimulation of the penis by men. Firstly, no one except a man knows when, where and how best to stimulate his sexual organ. Secondly, when men masturbate, they often use a hand grip strength that is much greater than a woman’s vaginal grip strength. As a result, if masturbation is practiced for a long time, without regular sex with a real girl, the body gets used to it and does not respond to stimulation in the natural conditions of the female vagina. This also leads to a side problem - men “fall” during sex.

As a result, replacing the natural with the unnatural leads men to a decrease in self-esteem, a drop in trust on the part of their beloved, and a deterioration in relationships.

Women are unable to experience orgasm.

Just like boys, girls have the source of problems in two areas - psychological and physiological.

1. From a psychological point of view, when a girl watches erotica or fantasizes, her brain gets used to being stimulated by images of pumped-up actors in chic outfits, in an ideal environment. When faced with reality, the brain does not respond properly to weaker stimulation - the appearance of the narrowed one often does not match the actors on the screen or in fantasy. The solution to this issue is the same as for men - you need to return brain function to its natural state. Use this guide on how to stop watching dirty movies.
2. From a physiological point of view, the picture is as follows. Women often use vibrators and other products from sex shops when masturbating. The problem arises when a woman chooses a penis equivalent in girth or length that is greater than that of her sexual partner. Another problem is when women use their own fingers (excessively flexed) in positions where no man's penis could ever be in an "erect" state. As a result, the body’s adaptation to physical sensations during such regular masturbation without real sex with a guy leads to the fact that in bed a woman physically cannot experience the usual level of pleasure.

Harm to psychological health

The absence of the need to take risks and overcome fears is a direct path to personality degradation. The habit of jerking off is a great alternative to satisfy your sexual desires quickly, easily and without stress. In order to meet people, start a family and have full-fledged sex, you need many times more energy, time, money, there are risks of facing refusals, hearing something unpleasant addressed to you.

Unfortunately, the problem of masturbation in our time is more acute than ever. Children begin to masturbate from early childhood due to the hypersexualization of society and the general decline in the level of morality and education.

At a young age, when the level of hormones exceeds many times the normal level of an adult, it becomes more and more difficult to resist drowning in a bad habit.

Let us briefly answer the questions that appear in large numbers on various forums on the Internet:

• Question: At what age can you jerk off? Answer: Not at all. If you want to have real sex with a real person, a happy family, success in life - study the harmful consequences of this activity, grit your teeth and go to victory - a healthy and harmonious sexual relationship in marriage.

• Question: What happens if you don’t masturbate at all? Answer: There will be no negative consequences for health - at the moment there is not a single statistically significant study whose facts would indicate otherwise.

The main harm of masturbation is withdrawal symptoms.

However, not everything is so simple, and the resulting buzz is not given to a person for free. Most people ignore or are not aware of the serious negative consequences that masturbation causes.

Each act of onanism lays the foundation for long-term withdrawal symptoms. They are the same as withdrawal symptoms for alcohol addiction.

Withdrawal symptoms are inadequate feelings that a person begins to experience if he does not engage in addictive behavior—masturbation—for a certain period of time.

Symptoms of withdrawal occur on the mental plane, affecting the entire body as a whole. Only by realizing them can you understand how to quit masturbation forever.

What happens if you don't jerk off?

Often, abstinence from masturbation is reduced to unsubstantiated information that it is harmful to the body and not natural. The answer to this question was revealed above, but now the positive aspects of abstaining from masturbation will be considered:

1. You will have more free time
2. You'll get better sleep
3. You will be motivated to achieve your goals
4. Relationships with the opposite sex will improve
5. You will be excited again by a real partner
6. Increased self-confidence and improved self-esteem

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The mechanism of masturbation

Before you give up masturbation, it is useful to understand how it controls us.

The only purpose of the act of masturbation is to remove the internal pain and tension that masturbation itself creates.

No one will deny that every act of masturbation has a strong short-term positive effect, which makes it difficult to quit masturbation. A person gets a thrill from the process and from the finale of the action.

On average, the act lasts only a few minutes. Then the person feels temporary relief.

The process of withdrawal symptoms

After an act of masturbation, we feel relaxed, but literally after 1-2 hours the following symptoms appear. They reflect the main harm of masturbation and prevent us from quitting masturbation:

1. Low mood
2. Feeling "unsatisfied"
3. Tension
4. Feeling of internal compression and pain (in the central chest area)
5. Apathy
6. Increased fatigue
7. Reduced energy
8. State of depression

Often a person blames the symptoms that arise on the fact that he is really tired and just needs to rest. A person also begins to look for external reasons for poor health (problems in life, at work, in relationships, etc.). I wrote about this in the article “Projection of pain on external circumstances.” However, all negative conditions are a direct result of the use of masturbation.

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Porn and fantasy addiction

Beautiful girls, with beautiful forms, which they have in any poses, allowing you to imagine yourself in the place of a porn actor. Receiving pleasure in the process of masturbation, both physical and mental. But this insidious trap has thrown so much dust into the eyes that the years go by, and masturbation, as it was, does not even think of going anywhere.

Porn addiction is a habit of receiving a variety of content. For example, you probably don’t watch porn in its entirety, but rather skip to the most interesting places, looking at those moments that give maximum pleasure. And every time you look for harder videos.

Fantasies, as with porn, you want to satisfy the part of yourself that is responsible for sex, but since there is no sexual partner at hand, and nature has given us constant reproduction like rabbits, the brain gives signals to action, such as reproduction. But in society it is not customary to take any female and copulate with her, hence the problem of masturbation as a substitute for a living person arises.

Since we will talk about giving up what the process of masturbation involves, we will talk below, I will give a couple of techniques from NLP that will help you solve the problem easily, comfortably and quickly and change your behavior model to the one that you program yourself for.

The harm and influence of masturbation on thinking

Against the background of withdrawal symptoms, thinking also changes towards the negative. Thoughts begin to be predominantly anxious and worried.

Then the withdrawal symptoms intensify even more:

• There is a constant feeling of anxiety
• Feelings of anxiety, panic, fear appear
• It seems that the world is becoming uncontrollable. A person loses control over his own feelings and thinking.

The brain offers the idea of ​​“masturbation” as a simple solution to relieve pain and relieve tension. A person finds some justification for this action and commits an act of masturbation.

In the graph I showed how a person receives short-term relief, but thereby becomes even more dependent on masturbation. Further damage is done to the mental system. The trap of onanism is slamming shut.

Dependence on masturbation is constantly developing:

1. Over time, a person will receive less and less pleasure from masturbation
2. He will want to masturbate more and more (use more kinky fantasies or pornography)
3. And people will suffer more and more.

Prayers for masturbation

Prayers that should be read at home with a sincere desire to get rid of a bad habit and cleanse your mind and body are presented below. You can also turn to saints who either were themselves subject to the same passions during their lives, or who helped get rid of fornication.

Lord Jesus

Almighty God, who created all creation with wisdom, raise me up with Your hand, having fallen through many sins: grant me Your help, and grant me freedom from worldly temptations, from the devil’s snares, and from carnal lusts. Have mercy and forgive me all who have sinned all the days of my life; anoint my soul with the oil of grace and generosity of Your only begotten Son, the Lord God and our Savior Jesus Christ, with Him all glory befits You and the Holy Spirit forever. Amen.

Prayer to the Wonderworker and Saint Euthymius of Novgorod

St. Euthymius had from the Lord a wonderful gift of delivering those suffering from carnal passion.

Father Saint Euthymius! From your youth you have loved Christ, and through His grace we are strengthened, you have put to death all carnal wisdom, by your pure life and meek disposition you have pleased the Lord, and by His grace, laboring on the throne of the holiness, you have appeared to the flock of Christ of Great Novograd, a good shepherd, your soul take care of your flock. Likewise, even after your death, the Chief Shepherd Christ glorified you with the donations of miracles flowing from you, showing us the image of a virtuous life in you. In the same way, I, sinful and sad, falling to the side of your relics, I earnestly pray to you: give me a helping hand, raise me with your prayers from the depths of sin: for I am overwhelmed by the waves of carnal passions and other countless everyday worries. Be that I, a sinner, warm to Christ, a representative and prayer book, and even if I am delivered from the drowning of sin, I will reach the refuge of an immaculate life by the grace of Christ, and with a pure life I will glorify my Savior, who redeemed me with His blood: and having finished this life, I will receive eternal life in the Kingdom Heaven, where the Most Honorable and Magnificent Name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit is glorified, now and ever and forever and ever. Amen.

Prayer to St. John the Long-Suffering

Rev. During his life, John was often tempted by demons, who kindled lust and passion in him. The saint, in order to get rid of filth, tested himself, exhausted himself with hunger, wore heavy chains, and completely, leaving only his head on the surface, buried himself in a hole. Once the saint spent the entire Great Lent in this position.

O sacred head, reverend father, most blessed Abbot John, do not forget your poor to the end, but always remember us in holy and auspicious prayers to God: remember your flock, which you yourself shepherded, and do not forget to visit your children, pray for us, father sacred, for your spiritual children, as you have boldness towards the Heavenly King: do not keep silent to the Lord for us, and do not despise us, who honor you with faith and love: remember us unworthy at the Throne of the Almighty, and do not stop praying for us to Christ God, for You have been given the grace to pray for us. We do not imagine that you are dead: even though you have passed away from us in body, but remain alive even after death, do not depart from us in spirit, keeping us from the arrows of the enemy and all the charms of the demonic and the machinations of the devil, to our good shepherd even more than the relics your cancer is always visible before our eyes, but your holy soul with the angelic hosts, with the disembodied faces, with the heavenly powers, standing at the throne of the Almighty, worthily rejoices, knowing that you are truly alive even after death, we fall down to you and we pray to you: pray about us to the Almighty God, about the benefit of our souls, and ask us time for repentance, so that we may pass from earth to heaven without restraint, and from bitter ordeals, demons of air princes and from eternal torment, may we be delivered from eternal torment, and may we be heirs of the Heavenly Kingdom with all the righteous, from all eternity have pleased our Lord Jesus Christ: to Him belongs all glory, honor and worship, with His Father without beginning, and with His Most Holy and Good and Life-giving Spirit, now and ever, and unto ages of ages. Amen.

Prayer to Saint Martinian of Caesarea

Saint Martinian was tempted by a harlot who came to his house. The monk threw himself on the hot coals to extinguish the growing passion and lust in his body, and stood there until he completely got rid of the misfortune. During his life he traveled a lot, moving from place to place, retiring to remote corners where there were no women.

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As skilful ascetics of piety, and a sufferer of honest will, and a desert dweller and inhabitant, let us worthily praise in song the ever-honorable Martinian: for he has trampled upon the serpent.

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From end to end, the broadcast of your red virtues and Divine deeds passed: when you were young in age, you desired to live in the deserts, singing to Christ, singing psalms and prayers ever after: but growing day and night in illnesses and tears, you ended your pure life and, wise, you have put to shame the evil one, for you have trampled upon the serpent.

Prayer to Saint Moses Ugrin

Rev. Moses was captured by the King of Poland and then ransomed by a wealthy Polish woman. A noble Lyakhina tried to involve her captive in a fornication, but the righteous husband did not succumb, since a pious life was more valuable to him. Then the Polish woman left the teacher. Moses was thrown into a pit, she was not given food for many days, she ordered him to be beaten, then she condemned him to be a eunuch and drove him away with dishonor.

O wonderful and God-bearing Father Moses, a great servant of Christ and a great miracle worker, we humbly fall down to you and pray: let us be partakers of your love for God and neighbor, help us to do the will of the Lord in simplicity of heart and humility, to fulfill the Lord’s commandments without sin, look with compassion for every soul of your faithful admirers who seek your mercy and help.

To her, all-merciful servant of God, hear us praying to you, and do not despise us, who demand your intercession and bring you a worthy song, we please you, Father Moses, we glorify you, purity of the lamp, glorifying the merciful God, in the Holy, Originless Trinity of the glorified Father and Son and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages. Amen.