Son doesn’t want to work: methods of influence, advice from a psychologist

April 17, 2019
Psychology of Personality
Natalia Balagurova

If your son doesn’t want to work, it’s not easy to get him to find a suitable place, and he’s unlikely to stay there for long. The only reliable option is to explain to the person what the advantages of the job are, what benefits the salary provides, and what can be gained from communicating with colleagues. It is not easy to cope with this task on your own; many modern people resort to the help of psychologists. Let's consider the general advice and recommendations that experts give regarding this difficult situation.

Relevance of the issue

For a long time, people have been thinking about the problems of work, the desire to work, and the availability of permanent employment. This topic attracts philosophers and psychologists, sociologists and marketing and management specialists. Philosophers are trying to find meaning in work, and managers are looking for approaches through which the productivity of subordinates can increase. Parents usually cannot formulate so clearly why it is important for them to understand why work is necessary and important for their children. People are usually simply surprised that a child does not want to work and receive legal remuneration for it. It would seem that if a child has grown up, finding a job for him is the most natural task; everyone copes with it sooner or later. What do you do if your son doesn’t want to work?

Sometimes the situation is completely awkward - the person is already an adult, even married, but still doesn’t want to get a job. Month after month, such people spend within four walls, do not care about relatives and material well-being, do not even think about what and how they will eat that evening. If such a man has a wife and children, the problem can take on catastrophic proportions. Psychologists help cope with it, but working with adults has its own difficulties and characteristics. Many people deliberately do not meet halfway with a specialist who is ready to help in overcoming their own laziness and internal prohibitions, problems and attitudes.

Mother's prayer for work for her son

Every mother wants the best for her son. Children are our flesh and blood, we care about them, we want to take part in their fate. A mother who is worried about her children will use all means to help her get a job. And here you need to remember that under no circumstances should you go to fortune tellers, human “healers”, or psychics. Pray to true helpers - God and His saints, so everything will work out for your well-being. For example, during his lifetime, Nicholas the Wonderworker miraculously helped young people and children; there is a lot of evidence of his help from Heaven, so that a person finds something to do or money. You can always quit, but getting a job is not easy, but even here the saints will always help.

That is why every mother should have a separate icon of the Lord and the patron saints of children, in front of which her prayer for well-being will immediately be brought to the saint in case of danger, if it is necessary for the child to find money, means and well-being. The holy icon, the very name of the Lord, by their very presence will save the child from the influence of evil forces. No one can fire a person just like that.

Purchase an icon of your son’s namesake saint, as well as holy helpers in his work for home prayer in the church. Buy any church candles; home prayer works well with them.
At home, concentrate, light a candle. Pray, turning to the saints with sincere faith and hope of finding help. If you have difficulties, order a prayer service to the saint in the temple.

To realize the good meaning of your work, your professional path, understand your talents and the opportunity to serve people in prosperity, may your son live and you live a spiritual life:

Read the morning and evening prayers, which the Church blesses to read daily and which are in every prayer book.
Visit the temple and let your prayer go with the whole Church during the services.
Proceed to the Church Sacraments: Baptism, if you have not yet been baptized, but believe in God; Wedding, if you are married; Confession and Communion. There just isn't enough prayer.
Learn from Orthodox literature, spiritual books, the works of the Fathers of the Church, how to pray, what prayers and what virtues are necessary for Orthodox Christians, for you and your son.

Causes and consequences

Very, very different people are complaining that their son doesn’t want to work, but if you compare their children who are causing concern, then even in the appearance of the men you can easily detect common features. According to experts, those representatives of society who refuse to work and do not want to do it look very similar to each other. They spend their days on the couch or playing games, sleeping for many hours and doing a million small insignificant things that they personally consider vital. In a word, such persons do everything in their power to avoid the fate of a working person. Some invent excuses for themselves, others openly indicate their reluctance to work without any reason for this.

The external similarity of people who avoid permanent work gives many the impression of a unified cause. It seems as if the root of the problem is the same, which means there is one universal recipe that will help fix everyone at once. In reality, there are quite a few reasons, and each person can struggle with his own individual set of such factors. They are all different and require different approaches to solution. Don't expect there to be some universal answer that will satisfy everyone equally.

Prayer to Nicholas the Wonderworker to find a good job

The prayer gains more power if you light a candle in front of the image and pray in complete silence. Nothing should distract you. Do it from the bottom of your heart, and not because you think it’s necessary. Ask the holy Pleasant to guide you and tell you which job is best for you.

The best article for you, go to: Prayer service to Matrona of Moscow

These are the words you can ask the holy saint for help:

“I turn to you, Saint Nicholas, and ask for miraculous help. May your search for a new job be successful, and may all difficulties suddenly dissolve. Let the boss not be angry, but let the matter go smoothly. Let the salary be paid, and you like the work. If an envious person shows up, let his anger fall apart. Forgive me for all my sins and do not leave me as before in difficult days. Let it be so. Amen".

An Orthodox prayer when read will definitely help. If you were deceived, framed or fired for no reason, do not hold a grudge. You should not hold a grudge or wish misfortune on anyone. Cleanse your soul of evil and negative thoughts and pray. Pray that the holy Pleasant will forgive them and direct them to the true path, saving them from demonic influence. Repent if you have sinned.

Read these words to the saint:

“Saint Nicholas the Wonderworker, protector and benefactor. Cleanse my soul from the pestering envy and malice of bad people. If the work does not go well due to damned intent, do not punish your enemies, but help them cope with the turmoil in their souls. If there is sinful soot on me, I sincerely repent and ask for miraculous help in righteous work. Grant me a job according to my conscience, and a salary according to my work. Let it be so. Amen".

Prayer for good luck in work will bring you success. Just don’t be idle, search, go to interviews, gain new knowledge. She will help you establish relationships in your team, climb up the career ladder, and make a profitable deal.

Be patient and God bless you!

From this video you can learn a prayer to Nicholas the Ugodnik for help in any matter:

Symptom of the problem

If your son doesn’t want to work, you need to take a closer look at the person. To some extent, this reluctance can be compared to a skin rash - without a detailed analysis of the situation, it is impossible to understand where the trouble came from. However, according to psychologists, any adult is lazy by nature; this is completely normal and cannot be condemned. Only a child loves to run and jump, because he is full of strength and energy, and often has nowhere to spend it. Over the years, energy reserves dry up, and a person is forced to make efforts not to stop developing. At the same time, the application of such effort provokes suffering for many. It is more difficult for those who, in childhood and adolescence, did not learn to find pleasure in work. The “carrot and stick” education strategy has long been known, but nature also provokes a person to develop according to the same scenario. The role of the carrot in this case is taken on by the joy and pleasure that an individual experiences upon achieving something. But what to do if a person is not used to appreciating such a carrot, if it does not motivate her at all?

If the son does not work, perhaps he has very few demands in life. For some, the root cause is an attitude that emerged at an early age: everything should appear on its own, without effort, and there is no need to pay for anything. Both strategies limit the person and do not allow her to fully develop. Parents who in childhood provide their child with everything they want, although they bring joy to the child, create a feeling of love and care, but at the same time they do a disservice by creating a negative pattern for the future. At first, adults do not demand anything from the child, but as he grows up, they are surprised at the son’s lack of desires, aspirations and willingness to make efforts to realize them.

Prayer to help

The prayer is read at the first rays of the sun

Prayer to Alexander the Roman for laziness is effective. Read it in the morning with the first rays of the rising sun:

“O glorious servant and martyr of Christ, diligent warrior of the Heavenly King, blessed Alexander, imitator of the merciful Lord, who boldly confessed Christ on earth and endured manifold torments for His sake, you received an unfading crown in heaven: now, together with your matter, Pimenia, standing before From the Throne of the Glory of God, pray for us from God’s philanthropic compassion, that He may do with us according to His ineffable goodness, so that we do not perish in our sins. To her, holy martyr, we know that you have had much boldness to the Lord to pray for all those who come to You with faith. Offer a warm prayer to the Creator Church for the peace of the whole world, the prosperity of the Holy Churches of God and the unification of all the faithful children of the Church of Christ, who live in purity and honor, and to deliver the Orthodox flock from the heavy storms of everyday life and all the slander of the spirit of wickedness in high places. With the breath of the All-Holy Spirit, may the hearts of the sons of disobedience, tearing apart the robe of unity of the Church of Christ, be softened by the power of Divine peace and love for the healing of His bleeding wound in the universe, and for the salvation of all living on earth. For us, faithful friend of Christ, be our Intercessor and Patron all the days of our life, delivering us from enemies visible and invisible, and even more so, after our outcome, protect us from evil spirits, and at the Last Judgment of Christ, do not forget us poor with your warm intercession, yes Having improved some of those who are being saved, we will glorify the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit forever.”

Are you sure or not?

Parents who, at a loss, cannot find an answer to the question of what to do if their son does not want to work, often turn to a psychologist for help, who is ready to suggest looking for the problem in the peculiarities of the person’s personal awareness. On average, every fifth person on our planet has what is called in psychology an anal vector. Such people can become impeccable professionals in their chosen field, but they lack self-confidence. They often have a fear of starting something new, of exploring a previously unknown area. Such fear prevents the beginning, and as a result, a person cannot develop in principle. Visually, it is similar to a mother hen that does not want to move away from its nest. At any time of the day he can be found on his favorite sofa, repeating his usual actions. Often a person becomes a real master at what he does, but this activity turns out to be completely useless and unnecessary, for example, playing solitaire. By the way, the best masters in solving crossword puzzles are just such individuals.

A person who is unsure of his abilities constantly pretends to be a busy person. If you ask him to do something important, he will immediately find reasons to postpone the action until a later date, and then he will happily forget about the request. By refusing and postponing important events for hours, days and years, people remain in their usual place - and so they cannot find work. It is difficult for the average person to motivate such an insecure person, because neither reproaches nor shouting work. To provoke a person to take active action, he should be persuaded to undergo a course of psychotherapeutic analysis to determine the root cause of his lack of self-confidence. Only after realizing why a person puts everything off can you begin to fight the source.

How to pray for a job, who to pray to

Saint Tryphon and the holy Kizian martyrs help his son with his work, including finding a job. It can be easy to fire a person, but getting a job is not. Through your prayer, the saints will give your son and you the grace of God: peace in the heart, the right decision to have your own business. It will appear in your consciousness or the consciousness of your son (trust his opinion!) as a good idea, you yourself will see it as the only possible one - this is how people who were helped by God testify to being comfortable in their difficulties.

“O Martyr of God Tryphon! Helper to everyone who comes to you and prays to you, who hears our prayers and will soon intercede for us to God! Listen now and always to our prayer, your sinful servants who honor you and your memory. You, saint of Christ, yourself promised during your lifetime to pray for everyone to God and asked Him for a gift: whoever begins to call on your name in trouble and the need for help will be delivered from his need and any evil. Just as you once healed the royal daughter in Rome, who was tormented by the devil, so save us from the evil machinations of the devil throughout our lives, especially on the terrible last day for everyone, the day of death, be a representative for all of us, when the dark shadows of evil demons surround and they will scare us. Be our helper at that hour and cast out all evil demons, and lead us to the Kingdom of Heaven, where you and all the saints stand at the Throne of God. Ask the Lord Christ to grant us to be in eternal joy and joy with the Lord, and together with you to be worthy to glorify the Lord in the Holy Trinity forever. Amen".
“O holy martyrs, glorified by all, courageous servants of God Rufus, Theognis, Antipater, Theodotus, Magnus, Artem, Philemon, Faumasius and Theostichus! For the sake of Christ, you gathered from different cities and bravely preached the Lord, the perfect God-man in Cyzicus, you were forced to sacrifice to idols - but you neglected the pagan gods, you shamed the city governors, you were not afraid of various tortures and fiery fears, and after prolonged suffering you were executed with swords. You shed your blood for Christ, as if you shed water, and with that, as if with royal purple, you adorned the Church of Christ, like a Bride. And now you, crowned with an unfading crown of immortal glory, forever in inexpressible joy with the angelic regiments in the Heavenly villages, abide in the radiance of the Divine Light and enjoy the Beauty and Love and Grace of the Lord. And we, sinners, come to you and with tenderness of heart we pray to your icon, and we ask you: pray for us to Christ God, as you have the opportunity to turn to Him face to face, so that with your holy prayers from any illnesses and various harms of the soul and We were delivered from the physical: after all, God gave you the gift of delivering those who pray to you with faith from all troubles. Just as you saved a famous person, like Patriarch Adrian from a fever, so we will receive miracles according to our faith, and we will honor you, holy martyrs, who have so many gifts from the Lord Christ, forever glorifying the Lord in the Holy Trinity. Amen".

But does it make sense?

In a variety of situations, people ask a psychologist for advice. The son does not want to work, some say, because he explains this by the meaninglessness of the process. It is not easy to argue with such conclusions, especially for an ordinary person who is far from the existential questions of existence. As experts rightly agree with people who do not want to work, life is indeed full of difficulties, it requires making efforts, for which there follows a reward, which a person can evaluate as inadequately small in comparison with the efforts expended.

This format of the problem is usually called the sound vector of depression. Often a person is not aware of their depressed state. Feeling his actions devoid of meaning, the person finds himself in a dead-end state of absence of any desires. The awareness is quite painful, so a person tries to hide from it in small things. It is common for such people to get lost in imaginary worlds.

What to do?

An adult tends to be lazy - this is completely normal. This would not even cause condemnation and bewilderment if it were possible to live in laziness without suffering from everyday inconveniences. However, our life is such that only those who are able to develop and try can provide themselves with warmth, food and shelter - in many ways, it is for this reason that a person is born, as some philosophers believe. Life forces even those who do not want to develop to develop, unless such a person endures more suffering than other people.

To help such a person, parents should think about why their son does not want to work. Advice from psychologists will also come in handy. Experts say: there are two options for getting out of the situation. You can take a step forward on your own, you can continue to be a sufferer. The first option is better and comes with additional preferences in the form of public respect and material well-being, but for successful implementation you need to choose the right workplace. A psychologist specializing in a person’s career realization will come to the rescue. Such a professional will first determine what exactly is preventing a person from living actively, conduct a course of psychotherapy, and then help him find a suitable place.

On my own

Sometimes parents don’t even think about what to do in this situation if their son doesn’t want to work. Of course, it is common to think that the normal development of the scenario is when a child “flies out of his native nest”, sets up his own home, and finds a suitable place for himself. If this does not happen, some people worry, while others consider it normal and put up with the fact that their child is different from the majority. The second option, according to psychologists, is incorrect, because a person cannot live under the wing of his parents until his death. It is necessary to teach the child responsibility, independence, and the ability to take responsibility for his actions. Infantilism has become more common in recent years, and is often explained by fear of making a decision. People are simply afraid of responsibility, intimidated by failures in the past.

If an adult son does not want to work, perhaps the reason lies in the immaturity of the person - both in emotional aspects and in terms of awareness of his place in society. Infantilism and inability to take responsibility are common, and very often this is characteristic of those whose demands are quite low. Such people do not see the need for expensive items or accessories; they eat simple food and use public transport, and live in a small room. If the demands are small, a person will not strive for decent earnings. Only by experiencing limitations and having the motivation to overcome them does a person develop. If all needs are satisfied, there is simply no reason to work. If elders provide for their child, regardless of his age, no desire for independence will arise until some need is formed that cannot be satisfied. In order not to encounter such a situation, you need to carefully raise your child, not spoil him beyond measure, and not fulfill the child’s whims, especially as he grows older.

What I can?

If an adult son does not want to work, this may be due to a feeling of helplessness. When by a certain age a person does not feel like an adult, no one from the outside can help him. If a person does not have the strength to do something new, to further change his personality, he suffers from uncertainty. This makes the situation even worse. Uncertainty is followed by other problems and difficulties.

For some, however, failures with work and the inability to force themselves to find one are due to shyness. Numerous fears that trouble a person do not allow him to start something new. People exposed to such experiences suffer inside and need advice and guidance from those more experienced. If a person does not want to fight problems just because of shyness, by realizing the reason, you can overcome it. If you fail to start doing this in time, the situation will worsen over time.

The best way to combat infantilism is to prevent the appearance of such a trait. If it was not possible to prevent the situation, you need to fight it as early as you can start. A person who fails to overcome difficulties in time will retreat in the face of difficult situations in the future. It is the parents of such people who most often turn to professionals for help, because their adult son does not want to work. The psychologist’s advice is to communicate more with the child, talk, provoke dialogue, so that he shares his experiences. Parents should gently explain to their growing child why it is important to be independent. Reproaches will not help - the son needs practical advice that can be applied in practice.

What I need?

If an adult son does not want to work, experienced psychologists can tell him what to do after talking with the person. For some, the reason is an unsuccessful search for themselves, defining their goals and aspirations. More often, people experience such a period in adolescence, youth, but not everyone experiences this according to a pattern and strictly on time. When a person identifies a need to do something, he strives to free himself from his parents and gain independence. If he fails to find something of his own, the boy grows up quite amorphous, lives with his parents, shows no interest in life, and does not want to work.

In some cases, the reason for everything is the need to find a suitable type of creativity or an activity that will interest him. It also happens: a man knows what his abilities are, what interests him, but does not see ways to realize it. Remembering previous failures, such a man continues to remain in one place, justifying himself with bad luck.

The fear of being in an uncomfortable situation is a common fear among children, which some remain with for many years. Usually they are unusual for adults, but in case of lack of independence they accompany every step. Just the advice of a psychologist will not help in such a situation. If a 30-year-old son does not want to work, you need to take him to an appointment with a specialist so that he can help in conversations (probably many of them will be required) to identify what exactly does not allow the person to find and realize himself. Only concrete actions, decisive steps will help change the situation.

All according to plan

In special publications you can find many recommendations from psychologists related to motivation and work with older children - all this information can become valuable advice. The son does not want to work - a problem that many parents face, and in a certain percentage of cases this is due to the difficulty of planning adult life. Sometimes, growing up, a person never acquires the simplest skills of independence. He does not learn to do useful things, cannot and does not try to provide for himself. No matter how strict the parents are, they cannot throw their child out into the street, so it is simply impossible to force the child to become ordinary. The reason for this behavior is the inability to plan one’s actions. If a mature child has not developed the habit of keeping track of his affairs and monitoring their implementation, he becomes weak-willed, helpless, and cannot exist in society.

To cope with such a situation, you should listen to the advice of a psychologist who is ready to tell you what to do. An adult son does not want to work - yes, this problem occurs in many people, but this does not mean that you can close your eyes to it and indulge your child in every possible way. If parents behave this way, they will have to endure their offspring around their necks for the rest of their lives. Instead, it is necessary to conduct a series of educational conversations in order to determine why the son, who has become a man, has not mastered the ability to plan his affairs and control what is happening in life. Parents should help their child reach a new level in this regard. If you do not show vigilance and attentiveness, soon the child will not only be completely dependent on his elders, but will also begin to get involved in bad habits, which only get stronger from year to year.

Prayers for my son

Strong prayers for protection, for help in finding a good job, protection from the authorities, for health for your beloved sons

Mother’s hands are often compared to the wings of an angel, which can protect against any problem, mother’s words can cheer up in the most difficult situation, with her eyes every mother follows all the successes and defeats of her child, and her heart will protect him from any negativity until the last beat.

Prayer for protection of son

Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, prayers for the sake of Your Most Pure Mother, hear me, a sinful and unworthy servant of Yours (your name). Lord, in the mercy of Your power, my child (son’s name), have mercy and save him for Your name’s sake. Lord, forgive him all the sins, voluntary and involuntary, that he committed before You.
Lord, guide him on the true path of Your commandments and enlighten him and enlighten him with Your light of Christ, for the salvation of the soul and the healing of the body. Lord, bless him in the house, around the house, in the field, at work and on the road and in every place of Your possession.
Lord, protect him under the protection of Your Saints from a flying bullet, arrow, knife, sword, poison, fire, flood, from a deadly ulcer and from vain death. Lord, protect him from visible and invisible enemies, from all troubles, evils and misfortunes.
Lord, heal him from all diseases, cleanse him from all filth (wine, tobacco, drugs) and ease his mental suffering and sorrow. Lord, grant him the grace of the Holy Spirit for many years of life, health, and chastity.
Lord, give him Your blessing for a godly family life and godly childbearing.
Lord, grant me, Thy unworthy and sinful servant, a parental blessing on my child in the coming mornings, days, evenings and nights, for Thy name’s sake, for Thy Kingdom is eternal, omnipotent and omnipotent. Amen. Lord have mercy.

Maternal prayer to St. Matrona for her child

Many believers know that prayer to the Matrona of Moscow has enormous power. If your son is sick, then the following prayer should be read before the Saint icon:

Blessed Elder Saint Matrona! With all my maternal heart I pray and conjure you. Help my son recover from this terrible disease. Go to the throne of the Lord and ask him to forgive all the sins of my child. For he committed sins, but out of ignorance and sincerely repents of them. I ask you, Blessed Matrona, do not be angry with me for such a request, but become me a real helper and provide me with the support that I so need. Ask the Almighty to grant my son good health and guide him on the right path. May physical and spiritual ailments depart from him. Drive away all illness from him. Forgive me for my sins, I repent and sign myself with the holy cross. My voluntary and involuntary sins were committed due to my lack of understanding and I ask forgiveness for them before the Lord. I ask you to pray for the health of my son in the palace of the Lord. Only in you, I hope and believe in your assistance, Blessed Elder Matrona, only you are my intercessor and helper. I only rely on you. Amen.

To make prayer to Saint Matrona more effective, you need to give alms to the poor before praying. It is also recommended to bring a donation to the temple.

Miracle prayer to Nicholas the Wonderworker for his son to find a good job

Work occupies an important place in a person's life. Therefore, parents need to pray that their son will find a good job that will allow him to become a successful person and achieve recognition in society. Saint Nicholas the Pleasant is considered a good helper when looking for a job. The parents' prayer for a good job for their son will always be heard by him. He will always help in this matter those who are faithful to the Lord in soul and deeds.

The prayer to Nicholas the Pleasant must contain specific requests; it is allowed to ask in any form for the following:

About a good job that brings high income;
About luck at work, which will contribute to career advancement;
About quickly finding a decent job;
About assistance in starting your own business;
About decent and timely salaries;
About promotion in the near future;
About a good and friendly team in which it will be comfortable to work;
To exclude any risks;
About liking the work.

Also read with this article: Paraskeva Pyatnitsa.
Strong Prayers Praying for good luck in work for your son should be done in the temple in front of the icon of St. Nicholas the Pleasant, but you can also do it at home.

The text of the prayer reads as follows:

I turn to you, Saint Nicholas, and ask you for miraculous help. Cleanse my son’s soul from anger and envy and help him find a job that will bring him pleasure. So that in any business he begins, he will be accompanied by luck and success. May all difficulties and obstacles suddenly dissolve and disappear from his path.
Fill his soul with faith, strength and patience, which will help him in completing the most difficult tasks. Make sure that his work is to his liking and brings him considerable income. Illuminate my son’s mind with divine energy, give him prudence and insight. May his work bring benefit to his family and help create a harmonious atmosphere around him. I trust in your power and strength.
Beg forgiveness from the Lord for my son’s sins, so that they do not interfere with his work and advancement. Be close to my son and do not leave him, remembering his mother's request. Amen.
For a quiet service

If your son was drafted into the army, then to make it easier for him to serve, read the prayer directed to St. Nicholas the Wonderworker. Its text reads as follows:

Wonderworker Saint Nicholas, God's Pleasant. I turn to you with a maternal prayer that you help my son successfully overcome all the hardships of the army and soon return home in good health. I ask you to save my son from despondency in difficult moments, and help me get rid of excessive anxiety. Amen.

This prayer should be read in front of the icon of the Saint with a lit church candle. It is very important at this moment to imagine the image of a joyful, smiling and happy son. After reading the prayer, you need to make the sign of the cross.

Prayer to Nicholas the Wonderworker changing the fate of his son

Nicholas the Wonderworker is one of the most revered saints in the Orthodox Church. People turn to him for various reasons. If the prayer is sincere, then it will definitely be heard. Believers know that strong prayer directed to St. Nicholas the Wonderworker can change a person’s life. And if the prayer is said by one of the parents, then its power increases significantly.

O all-praised and all-pious bishop, great Wonderworker, Saint of Christ, Father Nicholas, man of God and faithful servant, man of desires, chosen vessel, strong pillar of the church, bright lamp, shining star and illuminating the whole universe: you are a righteous man, like a blossoming date planted in the courts of your Lord, living in Myra, you were fragrant with the world, and the myrrh flowed with the ever-flowing grace of God.
By your procession, holy father, the sea was illuminated, when your many-wonderful relics marched into the city of Barsky, from east to west praise the name of the Lord. O most graceful and wondrous Wonderworker, quick helper, warm intercessor, kind shepherd, saving the verbal flock from all troubles, we glorify and magnify you, as the hope of all Christians, the source of miracles, the protector of the faithful, the wise teacher, those who hunger for a feeder, those who cry are glad, the naked are clothed , the sick physician, the sea-floating steward, the liberator of captives, the nourisher and protector of widows and orphans, the guardian of chastity, the meek chastiser of infants, the old fortification, the fasting mentor, the toiling rapture, the poor and wretched abundant wealth.
Hear us praying to you and running under your roof, show your intercession for us to the Most High, and intercede with your God-pleasing prayers, everything useful for the salvation of our souls and bodies: preserve this holy monastery (or this temple), every city and all, and every Christian country, and people living from all bitterness with your help: We know, we know that the prayer of the righteous can do much to hasten for good: for you, the righteous, according to the most blessed Virgin Mary, the representative to the All-Merciful God, imams, and to yours, most kind father, We humbly flow to warm intercession and intercession:
protect us like a cheerful and good shepherd, from all enemies, destruction, cowardice, hail, famine, flood, fire, sword, invasion of foreigners, and in all our troubles and sorrows, give us a helping hand, and open the doors of God’s mercy, We are unworthy to behold the heights of heaven, because of the multitude of our iniquities, we are bound by sinful bonds, and we have not done the will of our Creator, nor have we preserved his commandments. In the same way, we bow our contrite and humble hearts to our Creator, and we ask for your fatherly intercession to Him:
Help us, O Pleasant of God, so that we do not perish with our iniquities, deliver us from all evil and from all things that are resistant, guide our minds and strengthen our hearts in the right faith, in it through your intercession and intercession, neither with wounds, nor rebuke, nor pestilence, he will give me no wrath to live in this age, and he will deliver me from this place, and he will make me worthy to join all the saints. Amen.

Mother's prayers for her son's well-being

Short prayers for your son. To pray for the well-being and protection of your son, it is not at all necessary to use complex and long prayers. There are many short texts that act no worse than detailed Orthodox prayers. Some of them are listed below - they also have no restrictions on the frequency of use.

Also read with this article: Prayer and conspiracy from fear for children

Prayer for my son, helping him find his purpose in life

A correctly chosen profession, a job you enjoy, is the key to the well-being and happiness of any person. To help your son with this, use the following prayer:

“Lord, I ask you: give God’s servant (son’s name) a clear understanding of his purpose. Open his eyes to life, let him go through life only his own way. Amen!"

Prayer to protect your son from adversity

“Lord Almighty! Grant my son God's grace. Let all adversity pass him by.”

Prayer for a prosperous life for my son

“Lord, keep my son on the road. May evil fate not follow him, may love and happiness accompany him throughout life. Amen!"

It is not necessary to look for ready-made texts of prayers - parental prayer in your own words, sincere and coming from the heart, works no worse. During the process of prayer, you need to think about your child. You cannot turn to prayer out of some of your own feelings, emotions and intentions (pain, fear, desire, etc.) Ask the Lord for strong patrons to protect your son (Guardian Angels), ask for energetic and spiritual protection (especially in difficult situations) .

Wish your child well, development and growth - personal, spiritual, professional, etc. This way, you can set the right direction in his life, lay a solid foundation, and your son can create everything else on his own, with his own hands. And you will definitely be filled with pride for him!

Prayer to protect my son from those in power

Every mother worries not only about her little sons, but also about adults. Children grow up, graduate from educational institutions and go to work. But situations at work are different. What to do if relationships in a team don’t work out? In this case, a certain prayer can come to the rescue.

Prayer to the Guardian Angel of the Son

By the will of the Lord you were sent to me, my guardian angel, protector and trustee. Therefore, I appeal to you in difficult times in my prayer, so that you protect me from great trouble. Those invested with earthly power oppress me, and I have no other defense than the heavenly power, which stands over us all and rules our world. Holy angel, protect me from oppression and insults from those who have risen above me. Protect me from their injustice, for for this reason I suffer innocently. I forgive, as God taught, these people their sins against me, for the Lord has exalted those who were exalted above me and is testing me with this. All this is the will of God, but from everything that is beyond the will of God, save me, my guardian angel. What I ask of you in my prayer. Amen.

Prayer against drunkenness of an adult son

Very often, parents pray to St. Nicholas the Wonderworker to save their son from drunkenness. The prayer must be offered at home in complete privacy in front of the icon of the Saint. But before that, you should definitely find time to visit the temple and light a candle for the health of your child. The text of the prayer reads as follows:

Holy Wonderworker, Nicholas the Pleasant! I am turning to you with a motherly request. You always help those who ask you for assistance in matters of life. So listen to my request. I ask you to have mercy on me and send my son deliverance from bitter drunkenness, which is destroying his soul and body. I ask you, Wonderworker Nicholas, to send him disgust in vodka and any other alcoholic drinks. Deliver my son from internal cravings that are harmful and harmful to health, let everything intoxicated become disgusting and tasteless for him.
Do this, Saint Nicholas, so that my son will never again be able to drink alcohol without feeling disgust in his soul and strong disgust. Do this, Pleasant of God, who became famous for his miracles during his lifetime, so that my son will not be able to drink alcohol either day or night, not at a party, not at home, not on a weekday, not on a holiday. May Your strong word forever stop my son from his destructive drunken passion. Just as none of the Saints ever drank vodka, so may my son, the Servant of God (son’s name), never drink it and forget about it forever. Amen.

This prayer must be read for 10 days in a row. You can recite a prayer into a glass decanter filled with holy water. After 10 days, you should start adding the prayed water to your son, who is suffering from drunkenness.

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Parents' prayers for their son's health

Parental prayer has enormous power. She cannot go unheard, so it doesn’t matter how old your child is. It happens in life that sons face great dangers. Boys usually behave more actively and desperately already in childhood, and therefore are exposed to various everyday risks. The prayer of a mother and father will help protect the child from a wide variety of life’s adversities; with its help, you can turn away evil from your son and put reliable protection over him.

By praying, you can guide him on a righteous path in life, in which he will never be disappointed. Orthodox prayer to the Mother of God for the health of his son If he regularly prays for the health of his son, then he will never have serious health problems. In addition, such prayer provides general protection from all evil. A mother’s prayer for her son’s health is always filled with special sincerity, so it will always be heard by the Higher Powers and a response to it will follow immediately.

When reading a prayer for health, you need to follow the basic rules. It is very important to concentrate on the spoken words and believe in a positive result. It is important in the process of prayer to imagine your child healthy, joyful and happy. You can pray for your son’s health at any time, both in church and at home. After prayer in church, you must light a candle for the health of your child.

Remember that the text of the prayer offered for the health of your son must first be memorized. After all, only in this case can you clearly pronounce each phrase, and only with this approach will all words come from the depths of your soul. If your son is sick, then you need to pray to the Most Holy Theotokos for his healing. The prayer text reads as follows:

Oh, Most Holy Theotokos, All-Merciful, I ask You, help my son to be healed from a terrible illness. You have experienced a lot of grief in your earthly life and you know a mother’s unbearable pain for her child. I ask you, do not ignore my prayer, which comes from the depths of your heart. Remember, Most Holy Mother of God, the pain that pierced Your chest when you heard about the torment of Your Son and His martyrdom in the name of saving the human race. Hear the groaning of my soul, save my son, beg forgiveness from the Almighty Lord for all his sins. For he committed them out of his own foolishness and sincerely repented of them. I ask You, Most Holy Theotokos, to have mercy on my child. May he be saved by the power of God, and may he continue to pray unceasingly and glorify all his deeds. Amen.

Strong prayers for health, for a successful marriage, for happiness and protection of your dear daughters.

Prayers for my son

How to start?

If the son does not work anywhere and does not want to do this in principle, it is unlikely that he will be forced to do so, and even if he succeeds, he will not be able to hold out in his chosen place for long and will be unhappy. An integral person has every right to manage his life based on his own wishes and discretion. If you try to forcefully influence a child, he will resist, get angry, and protest. However, parents who want to change the situation for the better must choose a line of behavior and strictly adhere to it, despite the dissatisfaction of the offspring, otherwise everything will return to the same way.

The hardest thing for many is starting a conversation. People often simply do not understand how to approach the issue. Psychologists recommend raising the topic of the future. The task of the older generation is to force the child to share dreams, plans, thoughts about the future life. There is no need to start with accusations - it is important to listen to the child and give him the opportunity to explain his position. If a child tries to hide something, it will become noticeable. If you help him plan the future, it will be easier for generations to establish mutually beneficial contact. If previous quarrels have become an insurmountable obstacle and the son does not want to speak frankly, you need to seek help from a psychologist.

Help

All the psychologist’s advice boils down to the fact that before forcing an adult son to work, it is necessary to have a conversation with him. Find out the reasons:

reluctance to get a job;
prolonged search for oneself;
lack of goals;
demanding behavior.

You need to ask what caused the fear of getting a job. Maybe the son has no work experience, lacks the appropriate education, and is not satisfied with the proposed salary level.

The worst thing is if the reason is ordinary laziness.

It is problematic, sometimes impossible, to force an already formed personality to change anything about itself. This will happen if he himself shows a desire to become better and engage in self-development.

Talk about the future

Ask your child to share his plans. Infantile children often need advice. Ask about interests and how your adult son plans to make a living.

Give arguments for and against the options voiced. It is very important to help the child understand what he really wants and how this can be achieved.

Don't give money

It is necessary to explain that the son is already very old and the parents are not able to cover his expenses. For some adult sons, such a remark is enough. As a result, he can look for work in his profession or go to any other suitable position. But the main thing is that the parents influenced the child and he decided to do something useful.

If after the conversation the situation worsens and your son does not make contact, stop giving him money.

Let him independently look for funds to satisfy his needs. At first, the son will be offended, indignant and demand something. The main thing is for parents to overcome themselves and ignore this behavior of the child. The path to independence is never easy.

Few people are happy with the prospect of becoming homeless. As a result, the son will have to do something and get a job. What it will be (prestigious or not) depends only on him. When he realizes that being financially independent is very nice, he will thank his parents. Soon changes may also happen in your personal life.

Include in the common life of the family

Try to clearly delineate areas of responsibility - in what the son, as an adult, is responsible for himself, and in what the mother sees responsibility for his life. An excellent solution is to agree with your son that he will take on a certain part of the household chores. You definitely need to show your confidence in the successful performance of your duties.

This can be organized like this:

offer to choose the number of responsibilities yourself;
independently determine which areas of work will be under the control of the son, and simply present him with a fait accompli;
half of the responsibilities are chosen by the parent, half by the son.

Take a principled stand. If the son continues to live with his parents, let him follow the general rules. Only these rules must be clearly formulated.

Gradually, the son will learn to be responsible and will not want to live with his parents. He will see that he is ready for an independent life.

Engage motivation

Motivation is what makes a person move forward towards success. It often affects personality development and the speed of achieving goals. Usually, adult sons who do not work do not have it. Therefore, the task of parents is to help in acquiring it.

You can show your son an example of two people - a successful, rich person and an unhappy, poor one. Explain that the future directly depends on having a job and the desire to develop.

If possible, you can demonstrate by example that your goals and desires are achievable. But for this you need to work, and not sit back.

The next step is to teach you how to achieve your goals. To do this, show:

how to set realistic, achievable goals;
how to develop a plan;
how to determine how much time is needed to achieve a dream;
how to find funds for implementation;
what actions will help speed up the process.

After such a conversation, offer your son a simple task consisting of many processes. If successful, praise. You can arrange a holiday for the whole family. It is important that the praise be sincere.

This simple method will show an adult child that gradually any goal can be achieved. The main thing is to work hard.

Chat with friends

Having an adult and unemployed son is a disgrace and shame for every parent. If the situation is critical and no reproaches or requests have helped, you can turn to your son’s friends for help. Important note - they must have a job. It’s great if they develop themselves and have success in their personal lives.

This method works effectively. The son communicates with a peer, sees what he has achieved, and wants to try to become just as successful. This method is called negative motivation in psychology. If a guy has normal self-esteem and is not complex, then such a conversation can become a motivation to start working. Otherwise, it will aggravate the situation and become a reason for depression.

Decision is made

Dedicated to the fact that the son does not want to work, scandals are a fairly typical occurrence in families with such trouble. One option to solve the problem is to limit the content. Not every parent has the opportunity and resources to contact a psychologist, not everyone has the time to study special articles and books, so people take the simplest route - they limit the funding of their child, thereby stimulating him to take some active actions. Wanting to eat deliciously and pay for his entertainment, even if his son at 23 does not want to work, he is still forced to look for some place.

A correctly made decision is where independent life begins. If a son at the age of 18 does not want to work, and his parents take extreme measures and limit his support, the child will probably become angry. It is quite possible that the child will be offended, and unpleasant, conflicting scenes will begin at home. After several years, when the son understands the benefits and benefits for himself personally, he will probably apologize and thank him. Psychologists point out that this will not happen soon, there is no point in rushing things. The sooner awareness comes, the better, but it all depends on the individual. If a son at the age of 21 does not want to work, perhaps his resentment for the rigid line of behavior of his parents will pass only by the age of thirty, but the result is worth it. The most important thing is to correctly explain to the child what provokes parents to such actions. By conveying their position to the child tactfully, in detail, clearly, without reproaches or accusations, the elders will thereby simplify life for themselves and their offspring.

Summing up

When finding out why their son does not want to work, parents should be both strict and attentive. It must be remembered that most often the reason is that the child gets everything he needs from his elders, so he simply has no motivation. In such a situation, drastic measures are necessary. But if the reason is shyness, uncertainty or fear, a more thorough and gentle approach is required. It is better to use the help of a professional, but if this is not possible, you should spend a lot of time communicating with your child in order to help him overcome difficulties. One of the basic rules is to avoid reproaches and accusations, otherwise it will be very difficult to improve relations with your son.

Prayer to Nicholas the Wonderworker for help in work

If you are burdened with finding a decent job, then you should ask the holy face for help. What can you ask the Pleasant for? Everyone talks about exactly what they need. You can ask:

about good work;
about luck at work;
to help find a decent job;
in starting your own business;
about decent and timely wages;
about promotion;
about a good team in the workplace;
eliminate risks (firefighters, builders, sailors, etc.)
to like the work.

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